Unfortunately, for us , it is Ani's action or inaction , that drives the story forward. Coz the two sisters are worse, they propel the story, at least the love story backwards !
Yes, he is weak and he has been shown to be weak all along ! That's been pretty much his survival strategy, that he has equipped himself with , for 28 years now!
Hence the web of lies! And it somewhat runs in the family, if I look at Chhoton and his "Laxmi" drama, that he eventually twists in his favour!
These men in this family, do not have the guts, to stand up and say the truth or say what they WANT !
They are driven by parents manipulating them / instructing them / twisting their arms to get what the parents WANT !
And truth be told, we have families in our societies, where parents emotionally blackmail, manipulate , twist children (both sons and daughters) to make them do WHAT THE PARENTS WANT !
The emotional blackmailing starts with "Hum logo ne tumhare liye, kitna kuchh kiya, we sacrificed so much to bring you up!" etc.etc.
I have watched such children , grow up to be young adults and adults eventually, from close quarters and they are always left double guesing, doubting their own decisions , sometimes devoid of the power/ sense of taking decisions even and being indecisive as a result!
The childhood conditioning never taught them to 'man up' coz they have been conditioned to fulfil some one else's dreams and wishes ! Their marriages/future relations end up being disastrous for some!
It is so important for parents, to understand the concept of consent and let a child specially who has now transitioned into an adult, to just be !
For Ani now, it is, "Yes I love J" but big deal ! It is the same for BH ! They know Ani loves J but big deal ! So many people love so many others!
Ani will probably go through a journey from being a pacifist to a rebel, but he would need enough wind beneath his wings,enough motivation from J , to be able to do so !
There is a lot for him to un-learn, simply coz he is 'conditioned' in a certain way, to look at life n it's problems/situations. Some one needs to guide him and show him there are other ways of dealing a situation, rather than pleasing everyone! Maybe Minu?
Also, probably mis-treatment of BH at Arshi's and Shrishti's hands could help him turn into a different leaf!
The way he loved J, exposed his vulnerable self to her, he has not done to any other ! When that love got thukrao'ed , mujhe aj tak kisine itna nehi thukraya, he went bezerk, he has gone bezerk before as well.
If Arshi thukrao'ed her, he wouldn't feel such extreme pain, coz his feelings for Arshi were never this deep enough!
His way of showing his grievance is revenge from J , again an extreme emotion that he has kept only for J ! He is not spiteful towards anyone else really! Qki no one ever stirred him up, the way J did!
Side Note - Ani remembering the Mudur pulao scene, when Anjana says you did not trust J, shows how dischorded and disoriented the writers are atm as it made absolutely no sense !
Sadly, all this is fetching TRPs, keep Ani this way, sometimes doubting J's intentions, other times saying ILU to Arshi, is generating the needed hype, positive/negative doesn't matter ! Till the time, the TRPs don't dwindle, this crapfest wouldnot either !
The other fact, that can't ignore, is the Kashmir hug and SR dream scenes did not fetch the TRPs as much!That could have caused a nosedive for RuNak!
Originally posted by: PPak
very well captured Soyini - this is it.
What I would like but would never likely get is the acknowlegement that he lost his love not bcos something was done to him, but bcos he did not have the spine to stand up and 'be a man' if you will, bcos he was a child and did pda when he felt upset with J, becos he wanted to return J's one insult 1000 fold, and all this came back to bite him.
I'm looking for this. Even the flashback...he remembered the food req for his bday but not what he did on the day of his last meal ceremony to J. .
If he had acknowledged the truth, not continued along the path of emotional cheating and fooling Arshi intentionally and fessed up earlier, he could have avoided being in this mess.
Reationships break, marrying someone bcos your self acknowledged dysfunctional family forces you to, is no excuse for a grown man. He is hurting Arshi in the long run. At least if he had told Arshi he loved J but would stay with A since he promised her, I would have appreciated him.
Remember he tells J - their first encounter after she comes back to BH from Kashmir - mere haath me nahi hai...
uske haath me hamesha kuch nahi hai. Why would anyone want a fatalistic man like him? His monologue indicates he knows J loves him...that makes his agreeing to marry Arshi to satisfy one of the two at least makes him a very weak ghulam like he called himself.
Edited by rysohini - 3 months ago
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