Originally posted by: sanfan
Priya, I have responded in line Purple - italic sorry some responses are messed up but mostly my points are in italic and purple or just italic ๐๐ I am not able to edit it properly ๐คฆ๐ปโโ๏ธ
While I have responded to most of what you have written, in line purple /itslic below I cannot do complete justice to the points where you are discussing Arshiโs change or transformationโฆ and your charge that Ani had a role in it..
I have a difference in how I read that. While Ani stays culpable for the emotional infidelity while being in a relationship ( and physical one if he remembers it) and his inability to confide in Arshi of his desire to take responsibility for a hapless Jhanak upfront, there is nothing in the narrative that tells me that the outcome would have been too different if he had confided. Ofc this is hypothetical but my surmise is based on Arshiโs reaction to Jhanak as an individual. While it is true that it is not possible for a woman to feel comfortable with a fiancรฉ this involved in the life of a young girl and obviously matters had to come to a head. However, what I noted in the narrative wasnโt matters coming to a head but a guy hell bent on a course of action which wasnโt approved by his fiancรฉe yet things moved ahead with both fixated in how things would move ahead. Ani insisted that Jhanakโs welfare was paramount and Arshi wanting to ignore or obfuscate this with threats often empty or choose underhand methods to weed Jhanak out. If something is this important for an individual in a relationship, either the relationship dies or it works on a compromiseโฆ I donโt see a third way out.
Do read my comments in purple italic
ok purple italics -
Anger post Kashmir how to deciper it??
this is a big joke -
option 1 - Ani remembers the extent of his declaration of love for J and therefore finds her reaction to him in BH cruel and sets about hurting J and ends up marrying Arshi OR
option 2 he forgot the whole delirium induced coercing he did to Jhanak to get her to be physical with him and then has no reason to be upset with jhanak.
Here Leena smartly made the scenario unclear and pursued both options.
option 1 first - gave viewers the justification against J - as her being cruel to push him to Arshi - as though Ani is a 5 year old kid - who listens to everything J tells him to do. Problem is J wants Ani to behave like an intelligent man who disregards the things she feels compelled to say out of the sad state of affairs her past life has dealt her with. Unfortunately for her Ani is a 5 year old who listens to J apparently and does what she tells exactly him to do and not what any intelligent 28 yr old man will do.
Then he has the gall to tell her - you pick on what I tell you and dont see what I do for you.....in one of the more recent episodes....both are 100% the same.
next Leena madam explored option 2 - here is where Ani's core trait is highlighted - its sahi or galat ham baad me dekhenge....day of bhimmaari - he did not care that he is putting the 'unmaaried J' in his own words at risk because he could not control his physical need. At least if he thought she was his wife at the time I can justify this. but no. When J tells him she is pregnant - he shames her saying she is unmarried; yet the man when he comes to see J during her stomach operation apparently thinks of J as his wife.
if Ani thought J was his wife physical indulgence was ok - if he did not then he did grave injustice to J; further he insulted her and let others insult her beyond tolerance. Just go back and watch the episodes when Ani and J meet at the dance compretiotion till she leaves BH. The way he keeps mum when Lal, Tammi, Bi Arshi Shristi, Tanu, Shubo all bad mouth her is sickening, and he does it worse than all of them....that too after using her.
Ani has dual personality syndrome Rekha. 200%
second purple italic
Ani late realization of love
he realized or he did not? - we can safely say he did know at this point he knew he loved J - his confession in train; during delirium ; saying clearly during his sangeet song is for her; also during wedding that if J accepted him; no way he would have married Arshi.
Forget realization - even if Ani thought - love realization was late - did he consider 2 main points an intelligent man would?
1. h/e loves J so he does not love Arshi and is lying to her and thereby taking her agency off. No excusr that this did not cross hs mind? J explained this to him as one would to a 2 year old. By acting performance to Arshi he was insulting her big time. Still his narcissictic mentality that makes him think Arshi cannot live without him forces him to keep saying the 'ilu's he does not eman to Arshi.
2. when Arshi herself has asked to leave the relationship why has Ani felt the need to uphold it - if he did not love Arshi? Either he loves Arshi and want her and begs her to stay OR he feels she needs him and in his overestimated sense on self wants to give Arhsi the pleasure of owning him at his own expense. Ridiculous dont you think?
So tell me - does he think he still loves Arshi and thats why he begs er to stay with him or is it his guilt and need for self punishment and put Arshi at further risk of mental stress that causes him to still stay with Arshi int he same room.
Afer all the damage the man did to J; the gall these days to put it all out on Arshi? Its like he is saying - I knew you wanted me - so I let both of us hurt J so much and also let you and your mom torture her, to pls you and further I hurt her for having a friend in AK - while I was sleeping with you in the same room.. So you wanting me and me needing to oblige you is the the reason for J's death - but its all you - becasue I was forced to prioritize you? Senseless dont you think? He forces Arshi to stay with him begs her to and now its all Arshi's fault because he chose to indulge her need for him.
Ani's payment for his emotional & physical infidelity if he consideres himself true to Arshi and it was just insaaniyat with J.
Ani needs a big long hard lesson - and I hope Leena will give him one.
I know many will call me a Ani hater - but I do love Ani and his other good characteristics. For the sake of argument points i'm sticking to his flaws.
Ani needs to realize and acknowldege
1.he was def playing 2 roles - insaaniyat and love for J from day 1. 100% there was a selifsh motive to helping J.
2. he was stringing Arshi along with many lies and persuading her to listen to him and not focus on what he was doing. he strung Arshi along; so he could secretly pursue J without his family removing her from BH
3. his jealousy issues are to blame for many things...abusing J many times - badmouthing her mom; badmouthing J on account of Rahul even Tejas that she was stringing him along; AK. his inhumane treatment of her when she came to BH announcing her pregnancy
4. he is the root cause of all trouble that has happened - not Jhanak not Arshi
5. realize his hypocrisy in living with Arshi and requiring J to live alone
6. Suggesting J taking care of him like a maid when she has no right to him makes her a better person than Arshi. Arshi behaved with Ani the way any person would when the other has called wolf on them multiple times. It was sad to see but Ani deserved it. I can blame Ani's parents more than Arshi. Arshi at least wanted to walk away many times - Ani's mom dad Bipash and Lal are worse than Shristi or Arshi. J behaved like a fool in insisting on taking care of Ani and then discarding him to Arshi. How will she know if Arshi treats him bad the next tiem in UK?
Overall Leena in the last month has been a big disappoinment. she could have brought all the loose opeings together in a way that explained Ani's behavior and gave him insight to address; rather than the vllianizing of Arshia and Shristi....which for me unfortunately makes Ani look the worst rigth now.
J's memory loss is the best thing to happent to the story..hopefully we wont have any more sirji love that is undeserved since episode 200.
I want Ani to have a realization of why he is where he is and I really want a ony friendship relation growing between J and AK; where J learns life is not just to be centred on one man - but to form other equally good and fruitful relationshsips like Appu AK Bodoma, Minu etc.
Sorry - did not get to edit the flow of my thoughts. its 5am and i am furoiusly typing away my thoughts to you. Time for bed.
Lets hope Leena gets to resurrect her plot so I can enjoy my Ani better.
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