Originally posted by: FleetingWishes.
I think you are overrating this just given the amount of time. Your premise is because he knew her past he 'knew' her. My premise is to really really know someone you have to spend day in and day out with someone that Abhinav did for over 7 years. Abhimanyu saw Akshara a certain way -- in fact everything he knew about her was colored through a certain lens. This is where most of the conflict arose in their marriage, either times. Because he expected her to act one way, she acted another, and they hardly ever were able to resolve their conflicts in a just understandable manner. Knowing your partner means being able to create a sort of synergy where you're also able to handle one another, each picking up the slack when the other fails. From the way I look at it, Abhimanyu had built up an image of her in his head based on the information he had and that image came crashing down many times during the period their marriage lasted. Which hardly amounted to anything.
Abhinav on the other hand was able to manage Akshara, intuitively understand and adjust to her needs, handle her stress and her far better. They both had the kind of synergy Abhira lacked which shows in how long the relationships lasted. And like I said somebody who lives with you for 7 years will always 'know' you more than somebody who hasn't. Every single second spent with someone is a second of knowing something about them through the choices they make. It's all active primary information over secondary sources. This is especially the case in a partnership like Abhinav/Akshara's.
I disagree with this wholeheartedly. Abhira knew each other really well, the issue isn't that, the issue is that they are very different people and they disagree on things, which Akshnav mostly didn't cause they are very similar people. Most of the times Abhira have had issues, it isn't that Ak did something Abhi didn't expect her to do, but that she did exactly the thing he was afraid of her doing. The thing he had asked her repeatedly not to do. Whether or not it was fair of him to ask her not to do something or go against her own nature is a very different discussion. But the fact is, that yes, they knew each other, but that does not mean they agreed with each other.
On the other hand Akshnav didn't actually know each other. Nav only knew the traumatized Ak who didn't open up to him for six years. I agree that one can develop a synergy by living with someone for six years. But that is not knowing someone internally. Its not knowing what they like/dislike, what their values are, what their past mistakes are, what their hopes and dreams are etc. To me they were just roommates and that is it. But the good thing for them was that they were both such similar people that they hardly ever clashed in their perspectives.
Biggest example for this is when they are directly compared to Abhira by the show. When Ak lied/hid the truth to Abhi he couldn't handle that and got really really mad - because he values honesty about all and doesn't really see the point of lying, hiding or even waiting to tell the truth in a relationship. But when she did the same with Nav, he was okie with it. Even he hid his feelings and thoughts from her and only told her after a certain point. Both of them were so similar that they understood that hiding things or waiting to tell the truth might be ok. This is a basic difference in what these characters value.
Plus Abhira valued their own opinions and morals over the relationship they had, while Akshnav always kept their relationship above their own values and ideas. The expectations that Ak had with both of them are also very different.
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