Originally posted by: Pinecone
One thing I feel is he didn't always take her side. He was always protective but he often didn't take her side, picking Ruhi and family over her. He has taken her for granted a lot. Asking her to adjust. He actually forgot very quickly about the circumstances of why she ended up with him. He took to being in her life so easily that he forgot why she was even there. He supported her education and career but even there he let her take the lead and supported from the side, hesitant to confront his dadi. He could ask Ab to apologize to Ruhi but never vice versa unless it was extreme situation. Rather than take her side he often took the haq to project his frustration on her because no one else ever gave him that haq. He knew she'd forgive him or not judge him if he vented at her. He is always walking on eggshells around Ruhi and his family, even younger siblings but with Abhira he was often very direct and confrontational completely against his character. He would often vent first and then go apologize later when he realized he over reacted or he was wrong. But with others he never did that. He always weighs his words. Its only now when he's head over heels in love that he's found the courage to step up and speak his mind to everyone when Abhira and his relationship is on the line.
Also imo theres a distinct difference between protecive and parental even though theres overlapping gestures and the thing I appreciate most is that he never got "parental" because if he did this love story would look really weird now. He used to always be a friend but an older friend who feels like he has the right to give advice or make decisions on her behalf or expect her to comply with his expectations of her. He never saw her as a "wife" in an intimate way until much later and even with that he used to often respond like a spouse in terms of caring or referring to themselves as a single unit without even realizing it and then get awkward or defensive if people pointed it out to him.
His siblings,and Vidya, chachi , even Ruhi all saw him behave as a regular husband to Abhira even before he acknowledged it. But He lived in denial because he was fixated on zimmedari.
Yes, afterall she was initially his zimmedari na. As you said the circumstances due to which she ended up with him were not ideal. And he forgot about that quite often too but he remembered it too most times, for him the only reason abhira was with him because her mother died because of him and gave him her responsibility. To care care of her daughter.
In his head he was only her guardian for a long time, what people perceived initially as a husband fighting for his wife was a man fulfilling his promise to a dying women.
This is the fault of the direction and editing. Perspectives are not clear on this show from the beginning. They wanted people to swoon over the hero taking care of heroine for trp, they butchered the entire character development and transition. And romantic BGM doesn't help.
But, the fact of the matter is in armaan's eyes she was nothing more than a person who was under his care and protection placed by her dying mother. That why he had refused to marry abhira at first, she was too young for him to be his wife.. because they had not yet decided on the deal part yet. To have a girl's life tied to him who is basically not even a fully grown adult. It must have felt weird to him and abhira both.
But because of akshara he took upon akshara's duty and responsibility playing her role in abhira's life.
And he was not wrong when he said it's not what his family is thinking.
It was after he observed her closely he started getting sucked into this abhira vortex.
That's why he was fixated on zimmedari for too long because in his head anything else would have been a betrayal to Akshara and ruhi. He would be breaking 2 promises at one time.
And you are right he did claimed his right on abhira a lot, infact took liberties with it too much even for my liking.
But anything that happened during first leaf's time seems to have been scraped from the show except for the broader story line. I have still not gotten over the fact how everyone had behaved with abhira on Rohit leaving the house, dadi-sa broke all of akshara's souvenirs.
And armaan sometimes not taking abhira's side, well I don't expect armaan to always support abhira or to abhira to reciprocate the favour. It's just not humanly possible to always agree with the same person on everything.
Armaan and abhira's basic distinction is that they are naturally different people with different opinions and beliefs. They cannot have same opinions but the point is they both have same care values.
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