Originally posted by: tgota92
lol if everyone in that family is just plain evil including Bakhtawar and Pamir, then the same categorisation should apply to Zamda’s family for being the dumbest people on earth to move back into the area with said evil family and expect them to just “believe them and move on” - her father actually thought the likes of Duraab would believe Zamda’s dad has forgiven them and move on? Was he really that dumb? And then not contacting them at all and sneaking a Zamda wedding right under this evil family’s nose? What was he thinking? That he’s talking to a forgiving family ?
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So I won't say her father is dumb but rather that he was hopeful. He had been gone for over 25 years and he had no feelings for revenge. He was the one who lost his father but yet, he was magnanimous enough to say that the past is the past. That is not dumb -- that requires tremendous amount of courage.
I am reminded of this cartoon I watched with my niece - Raya and the last dragon. There is a great quote from there in regards to conflict resolution --
Even in the cartoon, the dragon actually does get hurt by taking the first step towards peace. Yet, the movie shows us that it was a vital step and the main character, Raya, in the end also takes a step of trust even though she does not trust the other party necessarily.
Now, why am I talking about a cartoon? Because I thought it was hugely philosophical and interesting study on conflict resolution and finding peace.
A couple of pages back, aaaaa77 asked a very interesting question -- whether khaie is the solution and what is the conclusion to this cycle of violence?
If we are to end the cycle of violence, then someone has to be brave enough to take the first step towards peace. They have to believe in the goodness of people. Otherwise, we are going to keep fighting each other and keeping scores of who hurt who. There is no end to the conflict cycle.
Now in some societies, peace is restored when justice is given through law. Here, this is a lawless family who don't heed to the village or people's feelings. So what is the solution to such people? Khaie is a result of lawlessness and no avenue of people getting justice. It is the result of evil people who go unchecked and are arrogant enough to think that there will not be any consequences for their actions ever.
If we say her father is dumb for coming back, then we should not be surprised that Zamda has become coldblooded and bent on wiping everyone out in this family. What did she learn from her father? That seeing the good in this family will lead to eventual death and destruction. So the only solution is khaie.
That has been her painful takeaway from what happened to her family -- there can be no peace, no forgiveness and no room for redemption. There can be no room for some to survive just because they are not super evil like old man and Chanar Khan. All of the family have to be wiped out in order to get justice.
Now why would her father choose to come back? Because he missed home.
I was watching a documentary about a small minority who was caught in a skirmish between two groups in a conflict zone. People fled to nearby countries and those villages remained empty for decades. Now those very villages are seeing some people come back. Some of them have moved back permanently while others are coming in the summer and bringing their children to experience the community.
For some, they are swept in an intense feeling of being at home, among their people, speaking their language, following their religious festivals and experiencing the community. For some, it is a trip down memory lane but their home is now wherever they live. For the second generation, they get to understand the parents better as well as get an insight into their own culture and community.
So in real life, it is a very complex issue when people choose to move back or visit a former conflict zone. They are very aware of the pitfalls, the dangers but the feeling of home still stirs their heart deeply. Whereas for others, the past is past. It all varies from person to person.
Regarding Zamda's marriage, her father realized that he had made a huge mistake in trying to extend a hand of peace as Chanar Khan was now lusting after Zamda and wanted her as third wife. Would any sane father agree to that? So obviously he is going to arrange a quick wedding and try and get her out of the way from that vile family. However, they all get killed.
Now do I see any good people in this family? Only Barera. But what did she get for seeing the goodness in this family? She has been abused, traumatized and treated as a servant.
When we choose to stay silent or not speak up when something wrong is happening, we can become complicit in the crime to a small degree. While Badshah Khan's family were not present or involved, they thought nothing wrong with what happened. So for that sin, they have been wiped out. So they took on the sin by being involved with that family. That may sound unfair to some but they are just collateral damage. It is evil old man who taught Zamda that mercy is overrated. So the family is reaping what they sowed. That is not on Zamda but on the actions of evil old man and Chanar Khan.
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