Originally posted by: Pinecone
Abhira should have been inconsequential to maintaining boundaries and saying a clear NO to Ruhi. The issue is he made ruhi feel as if Abhira's presence as his zimmedari is the reason he cant be with her even though Rohit was gone. and to some extent it looked like he had even started entertaining the idea of getting with Ruhi after 1 year ended with Abhira. but he never spoke about to Abhira about how they would actually end things. He didnt even discuss it after Ruhi showed up in Mussoorie. that was a huge error. he encouraged Ruhi to dream of shaadi and all but he didnt give any warning to Abhira that he was still planning to end things with her. he made it seem as if he would never divorce her and tore papers, giving her hope of a real shaadi.
Yes, I agree Armaan did many wrong things when it came to both Ruhi and Abhira. But we also have to remember that he genuinely believed Ruhi was is true love until Abhira hadn’t left Poddar house. That is when he started missing her, started thinking about her. The thought of not having abhira in his life, not being able to talk to her, not seeing her everyday made him realise that she is more than a zimmedari to him. His feelings towards Abhira were even pointed out by Kaveri. Armaan didn’t came to that realisation himself, beca He has never experienced that kind of feelings and emotions before Abhira. Not even for his family let alone Ruhi. So until his feelings for Abhira were not crystal clear to him, he was operating under the impression that Ruhi is his true love. And he would never do any to hurt someone he loves. After all acha Aadmi Jo hai. But jab use Abhira ke liye feelings realise hue to isme flip aa gya. And Armaan started maintaining distance from Ruhi.
He had told abhira clearly he will get new papers when the time is right, that he still has his promise to complete. Maybe he didn’t meant what he said, but he had told her they will get divorce when they both will decide and tore the papers. Yes he was not happy letting Abhira sign the papers, even later on when dadi-sa wanted them to get divorce he wasn’t ready, he was giving the excuse of his promise, but he also kept saying that only 3 months are left in one year and they should not end the marriage before that. He never once said he wants it to be a real marriage or that he sees a future with Abhira. So he never gave Abhira false hopes, but to Ruhi ke kept promising a marriage after his divorce.
he should have told Ruhi to move on , leave PH and go live her life but he wanted her to stay in PH and let her guilt trip him, he even went said no to the alliance that came for Ruhi from a good guy instead of letting Ruhi deal with it herself, and thereby he created a royal mess.
Even if Abhira didnt exist at all, morally Ruhi was off limits for him because she would always be his SIL, so he messed up a lot by letting Ruhi feel like she had a haq on him.
He should have told her clearly that Abhira ho na ho, he cannot be with her.
He should have told her clearly that Rohit mar bhi gaya toh doesnt mean he would get together with his brothers widow.
He should have refused to marry Ruhi even if he was divorcing Abhira
Without Rohit in the picture and Abhira out too as Ruhi has put countless times to Armaan there was no reason for him to refuse Ruhi a marriage anymore. It is not uncommon in failed to get babu and brother in law married if both are single/divorced/widowed. And Armaan had tried to excuse himself out of the situation, but as you had put he should have said no. But for him to say no he needed an introspection on his feelings to get clarity which he lacked until the moment he realised that he might lose Abhira forever. That is when he had gotten clarity about his feelings towards both Ruhi and Abhira. Before that he didn’t even know who he actually loves.
I am so so happy to see him finally distance himself from Ruhi and clearly say she was just an infatuation and never his love and he has stopped putting others over his own wishes and over Abhira. his character arc has been superb ever since he acknowledged his feelings for Abhira and dumped Ruhi. He has grown by leaps and bounds and everyday he is fixing his previous errors. Thats midblowing. But i kinda wish that him distancing Ruhi, realizing she isnt right for him and he wont ever love her- had all happened even without the need for an Abhira in his life and realizing he loves Abhira. he should have pushed Ruhi away even before he realized he loves Abhira. as of now, its like knowing about Abhira's feelings for him and the truth about Kaveri and her deal made him snap out of his Ruhi daze. but what if he didnt overhear the Kaveri-Ab conversation or didnt catch Abhira at an emotional moment when she spilled her feelings, would he have married Ruhi?
That is the transition in writing, from an Armaan who doesn’t know what he wants to the Armaan who is fighting for his love. If Armaan had been same from the beginning and had known what he wants from the beginning he would have fought for Ruhi and he would have married Ruhi not Abhira.
I believe he still would have left Ruhi, because no when he didn’t know the truth he was still pulling more towards Abhira than Ruhi, he would have eventually let go of what had happened in the court had and had left Ruhi at altar. It was wrong on his part after realising he loves Abhira he should have cancelled the marriage before bringing Ruhi to altar. But knowing Ruhi was happy about a relationship that was a lie, that made him snap. When family had sent jewellery on his behalf and Ruhi thought he was the one making efforts, that is when he had realised that he will never be able to love her, he will push Ruhi and himself into another loveless marriage again.
Also you have keepin mind, Armaan as a character is a person who never asks for anything but just accepts whatever is given to him. He had been conditioned in a manner where he never thought he could have wishes, wants and needs, because no one before Abhira had even cared about Armaan’s emotions. No one had offer him a shoulder to lean on. He was made to feel he is not wanted by anyone and is an unwanted part of people’s life.
Even in abhira’s life that’s how he entered. An unwanted husband. And she called their marriage a majbori too. He had always felt like majboori in Poddar house, and Abhira too called him that. On the other hand Ruhi kept saying she loves him. He didn’t wanted to keep Abhira in an unwanted marriage, because once he had done the same to Ruhi, got her married to his brother and Ruhi was never happy.
it was after Abhira confessed he realised she wants him too, and he realised his feelings too. When they both realised they want same things and before is was nothing but misunderstandings they decided to be together.
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