If the girl is well educated and earning good, and still thinks my parents won’t accept me back, comes in manipulation by MIL that too based on a stupid TV show and is happily getting abused just to show the society that she has a husband, then I’m sorry problem lies with the girl.
And pls don’t say a well to do family which is from North so conservative, I belong there too and no people I know around me are not like that. Depends on family to family.Maybe she doesn’t have the right support or guidance, but staying in an abusive marriage is no solution.
Getting inspired by a TV show like this is no solution.
I have a distant relative who had a child and taken divorce at 40, is independent and earning well, built her own house after that and recently got her son married with her own money.
In corporate world many such cases are there where woman will even shift abroad to make marriage work than leave abusive hubby
If all working woman would be brave enough to divorce many would but sadly thats not true most adjust to hubby abuses or hubby two timing them in office with another woman etc
Unlike serials or thapad movie no indian woman leaves hubby for one thapad or insult or many years of abuse too. Also unike that movie daughters are not welcome back by parents if hubby abuses or she divorces. Its only possible in serials and movies all this.
Sadly thats reality of indian women whether in big big MNC or anywhere else
If all abused educated woman and independent woman start divorce than courts will be filled with cases
Yes they are very well to as her family is doctors and her grand father was doctor and family business too etc and kandaani rich family
But they come from rajasthan where divorce is taboo(they say) and full family gets social bahiskar or avoided if woman divorce (that girl says like that only that her family will get boycotted by their society if she divorces) i am not sure how much this holds in 2024
The boy is a rajasthani too but highly educated in USA his masters(like anuj kapadiya kind) and it was arranged marriage
Shes highly under confident and shes been brought up like that by her family although shes highly educated and works in TOp 5 company of india
Problem is society and family will boycott abused woman, government also does not support any which way financially or giving job help etc so on one side girls who divorce have to work themselves and second is protect themselves from back lash by their community its not that easy as it may sound. Also private sector jobs are not permanent you could lose them any time and notable to pay next house rent or gt grocery home if you divorce and be alone.
And biggest problem is in these 3 years after marriage whatever she earn her hubby takes off every month. Before marriage she would give all her salary to mother now husband. If she do not give she will get beaten again and abused by in laws too. Lots of issues in indian divorce for women its not as easy as USA/europe where even if you have no food or house you have unemployment batta etc to fall on and society will not trouble you bec you are divorced from hubby
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