Originally posted by: NiharikaMishra
Hold on!!
Tagging all abused women women who are unable to get out of abusive relationships has never been my intention. There are a huge number of women who genuinely want to get out and only lack resources.
I have just tried to explain why Anupamaa works for our audience.
You cannot deny the fact that there is a very specific sect of women who support, promote and propagate patriarchal values and ONLY cry when they are just "unlucky" to happen to get verbally or physically abusive families as in-laws. Just because they are abused, doesn't make them good people, because they will probably abuse others when handed over the baton.
This is so true and happening from generations. One of my known friend was born a girl her parents both are doctors. her grandparents also highly educated. But they hated the fact that girl is born both girls. Imagine the doctor couple hate their daughters. what is use of education if you discriminate on daughters and want only son? Even after being qualified doctor working in big city you hate a daughter a girl only want boys? Further i know many where daughters have to do house work while sons only study or play in school or college because he has to focus on career hes ghar ka chirag. But daughter has to help at home do all house work and than stuy or do home work. Same way daughters are not sent for coaching only sons are in many house holds as its waste of money. This i am talking of big metro cities like delhi, mumbai, bangalore not small town or village. All these are educated parents working as doctor, teacher, engineers etc only whoo do all this not some uneducated. Yes 30-40% may be modern thinking but not remaining 60%. Even in US you see same attitude by indian families, girls must go to school help in dishes and cooking and taking care of younger siblings. But boys need not cook, sweep, mop as they are boys.
A show like Anupamaa works because it suits the narrative of such women. How many people talked about promoting adoption when CA was brought in and turned out to be exceptionally understanding?And how many said that serves Anupamaa right for adoption because "Khoon to apna hi apna hota hai" when CA just asked for her attention, even though her own kids had been worse? Why do you think was that? Simply because it validated a thinking they already had, instead of making them change a regressive notion. Here the audience was already problematic, the show only said what they liked and hence got attention.
Adoption is blasphemy in indian society. Very few people adopt and relatives and neighbours treat that child like outcast. They do not treat like CA was treated by kapadiyas at all but like Shahs. Also they prefer adopting a relative child than a real orphan as property and name will go to that child. If child is adopted than they have children than that kid becomes second class at home like anupama treats CA same will happen ignore her only think of blood kids.
Except for not tolerating cheating, what other patriarchal value did Anupamaa let go of? She started careers which she abandoned for family, villianized Kavya and Kinjal for not prioritizing house work over officework, villianized and even hit Dimple for speaking against verbal abuse, didn't let her leave because she inherently thinks her child "rightfully" belongs to Shahs more than Dimple (exactly how she didn't let Samar accompany her), villianizing all other female characters with full-time careers using one reason or another while implying time and again that she would have never left if she wouldn't have been cheated upon
Anupama is more regressive and supports partricahy like Baa and Hasmukh and Toshu and vanraj only. Now Kinjal, Dimpy too has become like Anupama supporting abusive Toshu and worshipping Baa and vanraj.
The aspect of abused women villianizing "career women" irrespective of how awful their own life is, is a major real life stereotype. You can give them all resources you want to and they will still back out. Making them understand that they need to leave makes them look at you like a villain. And a show like Anupamaa validates it for them.
Now she has a career, but in COOKING. And she keeps adding MAA references to give herself credit for that, as if those who aren't mothers can't cook. Why couldn't they have done the green screen drama for a dance career? Because it doesn't suit the mindset of the viewers. Don't judge me, I cook really well and also have a decent career that's NOT cooking.
Think from a flip narrative, a movie like Animal was a huge hit because it worked well for people with a thinking of a real life Vanraj, which are plenty in our society. Respecting the idea of a father more than the father himself (kicked his mother out for insulting his father but never listens to the father himself), thinks men can cheat but women shouldn't even consider moving on, strong notion of blood, lineage and inheritance, and resorts to violence for everything. Almost all points tick.
Yes Ranbir Kapoor was a real villan in animal than bobby deol. Bobby deol atleast was taking revenge and outright shown as one. But Ranbir was real villan as look at his mindset so horrible. Abrar had 3 wives but Ranbir had one wife one side kick in Tripti. Abrar raped his new wife Ranbir made her lick his boots etc. I mean he looked worst than SRK in anjaam actually but is hero. Where as in anjaam SRK was shown as villan not glorified like Ranbir was glorified
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