I will tell a incident i know
A woman very educated and good paying job her husband is hitting her and abusing her and shouting at her everyday. This his parents say is because of tensions in office and he works in top MNC. Wife is no uneducated as educated as kavya or kinjal and from very well to do family. But problem is family is from north so conservative and does not want daughter back in the mother house at any cost and want her to adjust. So shes bearing all from marriage time this is in a big metro city not small town etc. All friends and neighbors tell her why you stay you earn very well leave because he hits her badly with bruises every week or every few days.
Because its 3 years of marriage and hubby beating her from 1st month of marriage they even went counselling, psychiatrist etc he changes few days than back to hitting and abusing. Now recently the girl threatened to file divorce and leave him if he ill treats her like this. You know what her mom in law told her "look at anupama, she also divorced hubby do you see her condition. Finally whose giving her shelter in india or USA only ex hubby vanraj. She has to go fall at vanraj and in laws shah feet only for home shelter food safety family etc she quoted. Only hes loyal to her your condition also will be same after few years if you divorce my son". She told this to that girl. So girl scared to leave or divorce.
That is affect anupama serial having in reality. Even girl saying anyways my parents will not accept me back divorced, who will be there for me. Even if he hit me everyone respect me because i am his wife. If i divorce people may trouble me as my parents will never accept me back home. And i will have no one in life than i have no kids too yet. What will i do alone? If he hits me its ok better that i adjust few more years after kids happen he may change. I am in 30s now if i divorce i will not get another husband and my parents or brothers do not want me back.
Thus the girl decide not to divorce and again give abusive hubby another few years chance.
And this is real life incident and the girl in very educated master degree and her parents doctors. I was thinking with doctors as parents if family is so conservative about samaj main humari izzat jayegi, adjust karle. I mean so educated ppl yet their thinking is like uneducated villagers or like anupama mom kanta only. Just adjust with vanraj for 26 years same here girl has adjusted 3 years now she will adjust another 5 years of beating abuse etc.
Best part of this story is her mom in law gave anupama as example why her bahu should not divorce her son. I feel anupama running to shahs everyday is giving message to family and girls that anyway finally ex hubby first hubby only is your saviour all life no matter how much he abuses hits you so why leave hubby if finally you will run to him only everday after divorce. So why divorce at all?
What do you think other girls think about this affect of anupama in real life? Do you think anupama serial sending message that ok if first husband hit or abuse a woman should bear and stay because after divorce her life will still not be good and she has to run back to him for home, family, shelter, emotional stability, protection from society that do not respect single woman etc
What is told above is real life incident not imaginary. People think highly educated men never hit and abuse woman but thats not truth i have known US degree holder men working in biggest companies of world hit and abuse wife in home but outside they talk like they respect woman a lot. Problem is most ppl think outside public persona is same as what they are at home with family and wives. 80% humans are something in public in office college and with outsiders and completely different character wise in 4 walls at home. Because in 4 walls of house they can show their true nature but outside they put on masks of being great and nice and respectful etc. This is true of both men and woman. So the guy in office whose highly respectful to woman colleagues and helps them may be exactly opposite at home who beats and abuses his wife or even parents and his kids.
Another misconception ppl think that counselling and psychiatrist and kids solve all problems with hubby and wife. Like husband will stop hitting wife if he has kids from wife. Thats all wrong a true nature of human does not change with any counselling or phsychaitrist tablets or kids etc. They will more or less remain same. What an human nature is by age of 16 years it remains same till death it never changes. Mya be if a great incident happens some may change likie death experience or cancer, stroke etc but otherise human character remains same as what ist is first 15-16 years that is formed. Its all wrong to say a human changes after kids or going to counselling ec all that never happens after few months ppl will be back to real nature. No counsellor or psychiatrist can change true nature of an human. When a person will not listen to parents or wife you think he will obey an outside counsellor or phsyichatrist. They may promise but their real nature resurfaces after few weeks they cannot act being good and non abusive for long actually no human can.
Isnt anupama shah just like those woman we heard of in 15th century who would stay with husband even if he hits or beings 2 more women as wives. Except here for name sake shes given him an official divorce but she behaves like his wife all time.
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