Is Anuj really a stalker? - Page 3

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

Anupamaa encouraged it by not knowing of his existence? Anupamaa got married as a teenager, got abused for 26 years, then got lovebombed by a softboi whom her bbf approved and encouraged. She literally had very little experience in relationships apart from Vanraj's emotional abuse. You castigating her for not cutting off her only friend and guy who had magically reappeared to give her the cindrella experience doesn't make sense to me when the other people knew of her vulnerable state and had way more power than her

She had no idea of being stalked while she was stalked. She literally could not have done anything in regards to Anuj being obsessed with her.

It's amazing how Upmaa gets castigated even when she is the victim in the situation.

If she can be hated for not resolving her 'baggage' without therapy and being utterly clueless, Anuj very much is responsible for his own shitty life by being obsessed with a married woman.

The only innocent people in this show are the kids because there parents are raising them to be horrid adults.

@ Bold 1 : Even though Vanraj abused her physically, mentally and emotionally for 26 years, she continued to visit him, cook Khichdi for his parents after getting married to Anuj.

@ Bold 2 : I agree that you can be in love with any 1 but you should not become blind in love without seeing the reality. Anuj had made a mess of his own shitty life by marrying Anupama. On the day of that fateful accident he regrets and tells Anupama "Maine apne 26 saal ke pyaar se shaadi karne main na thodi jaldbaazi kardi". It was not thodi jaldbaazi from Anuj, it was his blind love for Anupama that made him not to see the reality that Anupama will always remain attached to her toxic ex family even after he gets married to her. Had Anuj married in the US after setting up his own business, he could have lived a happy life and might have had his own children as well without having to adopt Aadhya from an orphanage.

Usually any sane man will think twice before marrying Anupama who has a baggage with her toxic ex family. But Anuj was blind in love and in a mad rush to marry her. Anuj and Aadhya were crushed under the weight of Anupama's baggage with her toxic ex family.

Anupama had neither loved Anuj nor her Bebli as much as she had loved the members of her toxic ex family. Anupama was always a door mat wife for Vanraj, while Anuj was a door mat husband for Anupama.

Originally posted by: bsnk040187

@ Bold 1 : Even though Vanraj abused her physically, mentally and emotionally for 26 years, she continued to visit him, cook Khichdi for his parents after getting married to Anuj.

@ Bold 2 : I agree that you can be in love with any 1 but you should not become blind in love without seeing the reality. Anuj had made a mess of his own shitty life by marrying Anupama. On the day of that fateful accident he regrets and tells Anupama "Maine apne 26 saal ke pyaar se shaadi karne main na thodi jaldbaazi kardi". It was not thodi jaldbaazi from Anuj, it was his blind love for Anupama that made him not to see the reality that Anupama will always remain attached to her toxic ex family even after he gets married to her. Had Anuj married in the US after setting up his own business, he could have lived a happy life and might have had his own children as well without having to adopt Aadhya from an orphanage.

Usually any sane man will think twice before marrying Anupama who has a baggage with her toxic ex family. But Anuj was blind in love and in a mad rush to marry her. Anuj and Aadhya were crushed with the weight of Anupama's baggage with her toxic ex family.

Anupama had neither loved Anuj nor her Bebli as much as she had loved the members of her toxic ex family. Anupama was always a door mat wife for Vanraj, while Anuj was a door mat husband for Anupama.

Obsession is not love. Anuj not starting a family in his 20s, 30s because he was obsessed with someone else's wife is solely on him. Him them blaming the same woman for having her own children while his fostered child was taken away by her legal guardian ia abusive af. Him, again, not starting a family in his young years is him. Him expecting a woman in her mid-late 40s to do all the childcare, have no interaction with her other children, grandchildren, and people whom she loved for 26 years so that he can play a naya navela dampati is beyond manipulative and abusive.

Indian parents hit us; that is child abuse. But we do not cut ties with them because believe it or not, abuse is hard to recognise when it is shrouded in the language of love.

Upmaa literally became a person of her own in Shah household, that is where her adulthood began. Anuj can be allowed to not move on from a literal crush, Shruti is allowed to not move on from a sleazy fiance of five years.

But Upmaa, a woman who did not have any peer-group, any autonomy, any education, is supposed to recognise that the bapuji who has been kind to her for 26 years is manipulative, the DIL who has fought for her is bad, and that the guy who is been showering love on her for the first time in her life actually wants her to not interact with her own children and grandchildren. Without any therapy.

Anuj can go play home with another woman for his foster daughter, Anuj can catfish yet another woman to parent his daughter on his behalf. But Upmaa cannot be invested in her (albeit shitty) children and grandchildren's lives? Because Anuuuuuuj the great wanted a clean slate.

Lmao what

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

Obsession is not love. Anuj not starting a family in his 20s, 30s because he was obsessed with someone else's wife is solely on him. Him them blaming the same woman for having her own children while his fostered child was taken away by her legal guardian ia abusive af. Him, again, not starting a family in his young years is him. Him expecting a woman in her mid-late 40s to do all the childcare, have no interaction with her other children, grandchildren, and people whom she loved for 26 years so that he can play a naya navela dampati is beyond manipulative and abusive.

Indian parents hit us; that is child abuse. But we do not cut ties with them because believe it or not, abuse is hard to recognise when it is shrouded in the language of love.

Upmaa literally became a person of her own in Shah household, that is where her adulthood began. Anuj can be allowed to not move on from a literal crush, Shruti is allowed to not move on from a sleazy fiance of five years.

But Upmaa, a woman who did not have any peer-group, any autonomy, any education, is supposed to recognise that the bapuji who has been kind to her for 26 years is manipulative, the DIL who has fought for her is bad, and that the guy who is been showering love on her for the first time in her life actually wants her to not interact with her own children and grandchildren. Without any therapy.

Anuj can go play home with another woman for his foster daughter, Anuj can catfish yet another woman to parent his daughter on his behalf. But Upmaa cannot be invested in her (albeit shitty) children and grandchildren's lives? Because Anuuuuuuj the great wanted a clean slate.

Lmao what

Can I understand from your post that Anuj was right in marrying Anupama who has a baggage with her toxic ex family?

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

Anupamaa encouraged it by not knowing of his existence? Anupamaa got married as a teenager, got abused for 26 years, then got lovebombed by a softboi whom her bbf approved and encouraged. She literally had very little experience in relationships apart from Vanraj's emotional abuse. You castigating her for not cutting off her only friend and guy who had magically reappeared to give her the cindrella experience doesn't make sense to me when the other people knew of her vulnerable state and had way more power than her

She had no idea of being stalked while she was stalked. She literally could not have done anything in regards to Anuj being obsessed with her.

It's amazing how Upmaa gets castigated even when she is the victim in the situation.

If she can be hated for not resolving her 'baggage' without therapy and being utterly clueless, Anuj very much is responsible for his own shitty life by being obsessed with a married woman.

The only innocent people in this show are the kids because there parents are raising them to be horrid adults.

I am talking of atfer when anuj started coming and meeting her on one reason or another after divorce

any woman will understand he loves her if a man behaves so meeting you again and again giving you business which you never deserve etc always dropping you picking you up and over interested n you in office. Which CEO runs after a female emp like anuj did to anupama none

even most uneducated village women understand all this

You do not have to see world or go to college to learn all this

its a woman basic instinct

even as 10-12 year old a girl can understand if a boy is taking extra interest in her

it does not really need any training

and anupama is someone who has a husband and kids from 26 years if she do not understand all this how will unmarried girls understand

except girls whose mental growth has slowed or not happened all girls understand all this basics

anupama understood all this when it happned to pakhi and kinjal when men were behind them

but acted naive when it came to herself is it?

Pls at 45 years of age a woman is not so naive having seen life given birth to 3 kids

Regarding stalking - devika herself admitted after reunion party anuj liked you in college hit other college boys who troubled you, kept tab on you 26 years through me in front of vanraj baa and full family that night

should we assume after devika told also anupama was deaf and did not hear or understand anything about someone getting her info from devika 26 years, beating rival college boys for talking about anupama dance in college etc which normal male classmate does all this for female classmate in college?

as far as cinderall experience from anuj- this is kalyug no one does something for others free of cost

anuj loved anupama wanted to impress her so was after her giving her business etc he had ulterior motive only

if anuj had no uletror motive only business he would give hotel business to kavya an mba with experience

he also had her play item fallen 26 years back with him in office

you think mother of 3 adults at 45 do not understand what all this means from anuj?

Originally posted by: bsnk040187

Can I understand from your post that Anuj was right in marrying Anupama who has a baggage with her toxic ex family?

From what I have understood of the character; he does not like to take responsibility and doesn't actually see the women around him as their own person. This goes for Muku, Shruti, Upmaa, Adhya.

Upmaa was in her late-40s, needed therapy to break the cycle abuse. If at all, he were a good human being, he would have let her have her space and time. He would not have lovebombed her.

I know I have boxed my friends ears' off about therapy when they seemed emotionally vulnerable.

But nah, he decides to marry her without any sort of family planning knowing full well that they would a blended family. Then, he proceeds to adoption, again, without any discussion with his new, middle-aged wife. He actually is not even a good father; all of Adhya's parenting is done by the women. They are incompatible, and he has messed up Adhya's life trying to fulfill his navdampati fantasies.

Originally posted by: myviewprem

I am talking of atfer when anuj started coming and meeting her on one reason or another after divorce

any woman will understand he loves her if a man behaves so meeting you again and again giving you business which you never deserve etc always dropping you picking you up and over interested n you in office. Which CEO runs after a female emp like anuj did to anupama none

even most uneducated village women understand all this

You do not have to see world or go to college to learn all this

its a woman basic instinct

even as 10-12 year old a girl can understand if a boy is taking extra interest in her

it does not really need any training

and anupama is someone who has a husband and kids from 26 years if she do not understand all this how will unmarried girls understand

except girls whose mental growth has slowed or not happened all girls understand all this basics

anupama understood all this when it happned to pakhi and kinjal when men were behind them

but acted naive when it came to herself is it?

Pls at 45 years of age a woman is not so naive having seen life given birth to 3 kids

Regarding stalking - devika herself admitted after reunion party anuj liked you in college hit other college boys who troubled you, kept tab on you 26 years through me in front of vanraj baa and full family that night

should we assume after devika told also anupama was deaf and did not hear or understand anything about someone getting her info from devika 26 years, beating rival college boys for talking about anupama dance in college etc which normal male classmate does all this for female classmate in college?

as far as cinderall experience from anuj- this is kalyug no one does something for others free of cost

anuj loved anupama wanted to impress her so was after her giving her business etc he had ulterior motive only

if anuj had no uletror motive only business he would give hotel business to kavya an mba with experience

he also had her play item fallen 26 years back with him in office

you think mother of 3 adults at 45 do not understand what all this means from anuj?

Yeah lmao. How is upmaa responsible for Anuj's creepy actions and 'ulterior motives'? He did those things because he is an obsessive creep who never had anyone tell him deal with his own mess.

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

From what I have understood of the character; he does not like to take responsibility and doesn't actually see the women around him as their own person. This goes for Muku, Shruti, Upmaa, Adhya.

Upmaa was in her late-40s, needed therapy to break the cycle abuse. If at all, he were a good human being, he would have let her have her space and time. He would not have lovebombed her.

I know I have boxed my friends ears' off about therapy when they seemed emotionally vulnerable.

But nah, he decides to marry her without any sort of family planning knowing full well that they would a blended family. Then, he proceeds to adoption, again, without any discussion with his new, middle-aged wife. He actually is not even a good father; all of Adhya's parenting is done by the women. They are incompatible, and he has messed up Adhya's life trying to fulfill his navdampati fantasies.

Anupama was initially hesitant to marry Anuj thinking that she was a divorcee with 3 children. She receives a 440 volts current shock and remains speechless when Anuj declares in front of Vanraj that he loves Anupama and he will continue to love Anupama. Anupama initially was mature enough saying to Anuj that she will not be able to love him back but can offer her friendship. But Anuj was in a mad rush to marry her. Anuj should have given Anupama more time to think about the decision regarding marrying him. He could have disclosed his decision to Anupama that he was planning to adopt a child from an orphanage before the wedding. As if his love bombing Anupama was not enough, he had dropped the bomb of adoption on Anupama without discussing with her. He had already created a mess for himself (By marrying Anupama, he had inherited her baggage with the toxic ex family). Why was he so desperate to adopt Aadhya?

I say it again, Anupama was not the right choice for Anuj. Anuj could have easily got a suitable girl for himself in the US, but his blind obsession for Anupama meant that he had made life miserable for himself. Anuj and Anupama should not have got married. Also Anuj should not have adopted Aadhya.

By marrying Anupama and also by adopting Aadhya, Anuj had made a mess of his own life.

Stalker not not but both of them are hella toxic. Anuj, I find people in general like him disgusting. After their seperation, he slept around & kept that girl around to look after his daughter but the moment he saw the LOHL, he ditched her. Anupama is also disgusting. Keeping aside her mahanata aside, any women who make 🥺 eyes to her ex who apprently been sleeping with other women who gave her daughter the time of her life when she left & she gives all hints that she wanna run in his arms, I don't know what's more puke worthy than that.