Originally posted by: ShadowImbue
@bold people live in nuclear family where a woman is not a "bahu" but even before being a bahu living in a joint family she is a "woman" who can't stay mute on being called "behudi" and other plesentaries that also multiple times (watch Abhira's entry episode in PH after marriage Dadisa addressed her that). She has to take that being mute because she is a bahu? Maybe u have that logic of bahu or might have seen those kinds of bahus who are doormats but I haven't. I've seen fierce DILs. You support Ruhi but why didn't she consider that she is a "bahu" while getting married to one brother to stay closer to another? Her husband saw her confessing that she can't forget Armaan or move on was she the "bahu" or "wife" that time? Was she "bahu" setting her eyes on jeth ji? It's pukeworthy to even imagine. Why Ruhi's role as a "bahu" never debated? Just because she hid her EMA or was disloyal & Abhira isn't disloyal, manipulative and dogli like her?
I can't understand why even Armaan is living in PH? To get humiliated and betrayed by KP? KP addressed him "ganda khoon" beside that she always made him feel indebted to her, treated him like a puppet and robot without emotions not as grandson. Vidya also made him feel indebted to her He always felt lonely in that house filled with people. Armaan and Abhira living away from Poddars will solve 90% of their problems. Armaan sa is the new favorite 
Ruhi will also give reasons to discuss her epic growth. Even KP is absolutely right now. Is it? as Abhira is deal wali bahu according to deal marriage logic 
First of all, I do not support anyone. Neither I am going to justify Ruhi as I know she was wrong and I will not bring one more character to prove she is the goddess of purity. In the end, they are fictional currently we are talking about Abhira so maybe let's talk about her without bringing up another character as if one character is jumping into well because that character is foolish we can not say another character who is already in the well is responsible for that
Yes DIL has every right to call out issues. But not in public. I will never go in public and call my elders they did something terrible even with proof or without proof. Will Abhira do that if tomorrow Goenka gives her proof of what and all Ak did?. Abhira was not a DIL. She never had the intention to become the DIL of poddars. Her ultimate goal was mumma ka sapna.
Proofs for that
1. She told Armaan and Ruhi that post-deal marriage Armaan could go back to Chitwali.
2. A person who is a family member does not doubt them. They take a neutral stand as it would be wrong to call someone as culprit without actually knowing the truth and it can also put a dent in the relationship.
3. She was cool when she saw her husband hugging women in the middle of the night in Sunsaan hut.
So there is no way we can say Abhira was serious about this marriage.
She was only serious about being the DIL when she fell in love so whatever happened before that she only treated it them like how she treats any normal stranger or person other than her family. If she is meant for a nuclear family Armaan can not leave his family as for him he was not in love with Abhira back then. Just because she married him for her motive which is to complete her education that will not put a sacred seal that he has to follow her blindly and leave his family and stay in 1BHK just because she is scolded by dadisa as for him dadisa > deal wife..
Why should Armaan leave PH? Yes KP is manipulative, But she and Vidya are the ones who raised him when his real mom and his dad hardly cared about him. First, they need to try to understand what is Kaveri's issue. If it really can not be solved yes Armaan can think about moving out with Abhira but currently, why should he as Abhira not even said yes to his proposal for him to leave the house for her? Why he should lose everything for that love which he is not even sure about.
Yes, I agree now society is moving towards the nuclear family. But does Abhira want to give her child the same life as hers after her demise ? If she and Armaan die due to an accident her child will be left alone and will be handed over to an orphanage. Why would Poddars raise those kids when their parents disrespected them? As we know what happened with Goenka's.
People make decisions just based on the current situation but in reality, people should think about past, present, and future. As no one knows what lies in the future. She can not get her child married so she should have someone backup who will raise the child even if something happens to her. She will be bashed the same as Akshara for leaving nothing for her child not even relationships to cherish.
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