Originally posted by: sadiltl
I asked this to few friends before! Wanting to know more about sai’s mindset.
What I think lately is that sai knows virat didn’t move on with pakhi after picnic accident. The vows freaked her out. Later seeing pakhi’s situation she would have also understood virat would not have consummated with her. Somewhere she knows he is a celibate without her. Still she will not accept him because for her I think his emotional involvement has been the problem always.
See how she accuses him of understanding pakhi’s mamta but not hers. How he supports her every time and picks pakhi over her. It is like pre leap only. She might think he didn’t change a bit after she is gone. He still takes pakhi’s side, now more because she is his wife.
Ultimately his celibacy is just a cherry on cake for sai. He is celibate which gives her some comfort but that is not enough for her! What mattered to her always, even when they had healthy and active sex life was that he didn’t support her when needed. So if virat gives back vinu to her, she will melt for him. She knows he misses her physically so she might be okay with his closeness. Though she might not let him cross the line?? Tomorrow if pakhi accuses her of seducing him which she already did multiple times during pani puri date also, sai will not get offended. But if Virat supports her and puts pakhi down, it will melt her more.
Bottom line is proving celibacy is not a big deal, sai might already know he is celibate. No one will consummate with a bleeding from stitches kind of a lady. And she knew after picnic that virat loved her always. The vows are the major setback to her. His involvement with her. How will he prove to sai that there were no emotions involved when he is sharing his space and time with pakhi?
To understand my point better, contrast it with virat himslef. He was agitated that sai slept with another guy. He didn’t see a man lingering around sai. She doesn’t have anyone with her. But the thought of her sleeping with another man who could be savi’s father troubled him more. Once he found savi is his daughter, he understood easily sai never cheated him. Or have such feelings for anyone. But how can sai be sure, even if she know he is celibate?
For sai it is his emotional infedility that freaks her. Now that he is married, he is emotionally involved with pakhi. How will he prove her his love? Only way is to prioritize her at every step. Show her that she comes first!!! Right?
It is hard to clearly put out my thoughts on this! The summary is virat’s celibacy doesn’t matter to sai anymore. She might Already know he is celibate. What matters is his emotional investment in pakhi!
Ok, I didn’t feel qualified to say something on this topic because I haven't followed the show as closely from the start as most of you here. But as much as I've seen and understood Sai and Virat, there are a few things I feel about them...
I read somewhere that between a couple, always there's one that loves and one that allows the loving.. In Sairat, it's been Virat who has loved and Sai "allowed" him.. Sai seems to me to be a girl who was never much into romantic love, her sexuality was also very late in development and of rather low intensity. As Virat says to her once she's only been loved and hasn't loved anyone or lost a love.. I think something like that.. So throughout their relationship it was Virat who always showed the love in different ways and she received, at first unwillingly and later after realization, with gratitude and joy. But no matter how much ever she was accepting of Virat's love in later times, he was always sort of dispensable for her, it seems. Quite closely on the heels of her realization of romantic love, came the love of motherhood.. And of course that easily superseded it then. Virat was pushed to second place to her child.. That's why she was able to so strongly stick to her resolve of leaving with Vinu.. The love for the child was there but if her love for her husband had been equally strong she would not have found it that simple to just leave.. Everybody is so emphatic in their support of Sai in that situation.. But I feel that was a terrible strategical mistake that cost her the battle. At that point she was the strongest, everybody was on her side.. It only required a little tact and patience to get back the baby from P, and Virat and Ashwini would definitely have helped her in every way they could if she had stayed back and given them some time. But Sai was in a panic and stubborn as always ..and it was understandable given their history.. But what I'm saying is that it proves Virat was dispensable for her.
People want another man in her life who will love her like nobody else.. But for one thing, I think Virat has loved her like that..the problem with him was the burden of family and Pakhi ka baggage.. And yet if we see from the beginning, despite the harsh environment of CN, the carved in stone family traditions, the venomous aggression of Pakhi and Sai's own indifference, his love for her took root and grew and eventually sparked feelings in Sai's heart too. That shows that it's a pretty strong and a very deep love. Secondly, Sai loving one man was itself a miracle, I don't think she'll be able to love another one, that too at this stage of her life.. No matter how wonderful he may be and how ever much he would love her..
As for Virat, if we keep aside what is shown on the screen, and go by the script, Virat's character has not been that inconsistent as appears at first. While seeing the early episodes, I came across one thing that kind of clears up much of his behavior.. We know he is a messed up, very much flawed man, with a lot of baggage in the form of family and the kind of upbringing he's had. He was always taught Duty, Farz is first, by his father. Then, that duty and emotions should always be kept separate, by his guru Kamal Joshi. And his police training and experience also teaches him this: that farz, should be decided by the haalat, not by jazbaat.
This last point I think is the one that has played havoc with his life..After Sai's death, under family pressure and Pakhi's unrelenting "sympathy and support", and in his own state of emotional instability, farz was decided by the haalat even though his jazbaat would have gone against it. And till now he is trying to keep up the farz. Sai coming back and all that happened with Savi's reveal caused the anger at the feeling of betrayal he must have felt to suppress the love, but couldn't kill it..which again shows the strength of that love.. I am not considering the way the execution of this part of the story was butchered, and whatever off screen dynamics may have come in play, but only going by the script, the overall narrative. So in this way, I don't think Virat has some hidden motive or plan, as you suggest, but is only acting like the man he is and as his twisted sense of duty leads him to. After his marriage with Sai, in the beginning, his developing feelings coincided with his duty towards her, so it was easy for him to love and be in love. Now, after his realization of love for Sai that never died, fate is again favouring him by aligning his duty with his emotions and pointing towards doing right by the woman who is the mother of his children, and who has had her son snatched from her, and whose life and the life of their daughter is in danger. So now, Virat is again happily going around his duty towards Sai.
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