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USwamy, @bold, remember we are constantly reminded that this is based on the producers' love story. I often have difficulty therefore knowing which is dramatic flavour and which is from reality. I hope that this slapping violence etc is truly only for dramatic effect and that in reality there is no such violence.I feel both were wrong but situation was more wrong. Haven't we all experienced bad days and our reaction to the same situation is very different when we are experiencing a regular day?
Also, both are extremely young and inexperienced. Don't we many times look back at our younger selves and realise how hot headed we were back then. The elder Sameer seems calm and mature.I don't agree that Naina should have given him space. Doesn't happen in real situations when your husband and the love of your life is telling you to never come back. Naina was being calm in the beginning.Also, personally, have experienced, giving space to your partner comes with time. I am somebody who can't go to bed without resolving a fight. And my husband is an extremely quiet person, communicating doesn't come easily to him. I have years of energy sapping experience of getting stuff out of him. In our initial years, me being me also, in a fight, I used to be confrontational and demanded answers immediately. This had an opposite reaction of him not wanting to talk even more. Over years, I had to train myself to keep my nerves and calm and let him become calm first coz I wasn't getting through to him but it has taken me years to reach that point. Naina being so young is still immature so expecting that level of maturity from her is also unrealistic.Slapping ofcourse was a big no. It does get murkier then. But I guess it was for ITV drama.
As for the fact that Naina and Sameer are young and therefore their behaviour is understandable is problematic. When they were, younger in school in particular, they were much more attuned to how others felt. From people's facial expressions they were able to see whether there was a problem or not. They could do this with each other, but also with their friends and family. Thus, it is difficult to believe that they cannot see how the other is feeling and then react appropriately. How come they have become so self centered that they only see their own emotions and not see the other person's feelings which are clearly displayed. Also, why do they not hear when the other says I don't want to talk right now? Giving each other space is something we learn early on with friends and family. Reading facial expression is also something we learn very early on. Immaturity cannot be an excuse for all foolishness.
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