Originally posted by: Ekahriz
Again. I am clinically diagnosed with mixed anxiety and depressive disorder. And my major symptoms are irritability, compassionate fatigue and you guessed it, right. Anger!
I have had explosive episodes. You know people who take care of people with mental health get super exhausted physically and mentally. And I am not a kid, not a teenager that other people should manage me. I am glad I have my parents. I am glad I am in therapy. But the moment I start accusing people and taking out my anger on others, I become toxic. I become a reason their mental health is affected. Anger issues are not normal. Just like having a fever is not normal. Your body is fighting an infection, meaning there is something wrong with it. So, you go to a doctor and take medication. You don't sit at home with a contagious disease expecting your loved ones to take care of you putting their physical health at risk.
So is the case with mental health. Here, Abhimanyu is a doctor. And I honestly do not think it's Akshara's duty to help Abhimanyu through his anger. If she decides to do it, good. But if she didn't and do not want to be in an suffocating and unhealthy relationship, her leaving is not wrong. You can't justify ymhurting other people by saying your have mental health issues.
Anger issues or any mental issues are never shown properly on ITV. But if a person has some issues and you are aware of them, that should help you navigate things with them. I don't personally have anger issues, but my Mom did, and I often bore the brunt of it. The thing is, that doesn't look like this. People with anger issues are quick to anger, yes, and often have disproportionate reactions, even misplaced anger. But they are like that all the time and with everybody. Abhi was not. He is shown to be extremely caring a delicate towards Ak most of the time, except when she messes things up, and then he does get angry. And towards Neil and Manjari, he is never angry. But his anger is very reactionary. It's hardly ever like, he got irritated with someone and blasted them. He is also never shown to have any anger issues with random people, I think he fought once or twice, but even then, it wasn't like he had insane rage. Infact, the Abhinav scene was much worse for me, but that is also because it happened out of nowhere without context.
My point is I don't think Abhi has what one might term anger issues. It's more that he has disproportionate reactions to things. And this includes anger, love, sadness, guilt, etc. Ak knew this going into that relationship and had no issues with it. She only expressed any issues later after they got married. Abhi himself has tried to change himself multiple times. Each time he hurts people in his anger, he apologizes and tries to do better next time. In the last pregnancy time, he was extremely stressed and anxious but never really got angry with Ak. He kept trying to reason with her, trying to explain his pov, etc.
The reason why it's hard for people to dislike Abhi or term him an "abuser" is because, apart from some isolated incidents, they really haven't shown anything like that. And his motivations for those outbursts are also very clear.
As to him being a momma's boy, I disagree completely. I know momma's boys, and they are not like this. He loves his mother, and most of the time, she is the only one in his life who loves him. She influences him and often instigates him, yes, but he hasn't really realized that. The thing is, at the end of the day, Manjari's influence on Abhi's actions is nominal. I don't really blame Manjari for a single decision of Abhi's cause it's his decision. He is not doing anything just to please her.
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