Abusive marriage

Hi all,

I was just passing through the forum. After reading a few posts, this thought suddenly stuck me. Will we also force our sisters or daughters to stay in an abusive marriage? Will we also constantly criticize our girls for moving on from a relationship which seemed to drain her energy. This scared me so much. Hope this thought process is limited to only fictional shows. But it scares me that we still are able to think like this even if for fictional characters.

I am just sharing what I thoughts. Do not want to hurt anyone.

Originally posted by: zeal123

Hi all,

I was just passing through the forum. After reading a few posts, this thought suddenly stuck me. Will we also force our sisters or daughters to stay in an abusive marriage? Will we also constantly criticize our girls for moving on from a relationship which seemed to drain her energy. This scared me so much. Hope this thought process is limited to only fictional shows. But it scares me that we still are able to think like this even if for fictional characters.

I am just sharing what I thoughts. Do not want to hurt anyone.

This is a fictional show. Where ml is prone to get damaged for trp race. If it was show like anupama people will not feel bad for vanraj as they have spent 300 odd episodes to show how anupama was tortured.

Here abhi was never abusive he just had anger issues. For me ideal man is that one who supports my family, my career aspirations,even loves me.

Here abhi had all the characters.

He took care of akshu's family, supported her with her career even though his career itself was at stake, respected her and loved her.

The white day had mistakes of both the leads. Will any mother risks her child over some strangers? Or will any women being emotional chooses strangers over her family. In reality no. If akshu really wanted to save kids they could have silently followed than just over reacting in that situation. Neil was irresponsible too but trigger was akshu as she herself wanted to jump. When we some one is trouble we will analyze situation will we ever be able to fight 5 to 6 gundes without anything no. If neil would have not prevented akshu she would have died.

Both were responsible. Abhi was not abusive. He just asked her all valid questions and he had anger issues so instead of taking out his anger on her he took out on other items. He has told her multiple times to take care of yourself you have complicated pregnancy. She risked her kids life multiple times and did not listen to his words.

That's the reaction when you get when you don't listen to the words thst is good for you. Abhi blaming her for sirath death also was a reaction of his anger like how we tend to look back when we trusted this person try to reanalyze situation like uss din bhi tumne shayad jhoot bola hoga when some caught some one lyring red handed.

Abhi divorcing her was wrong but abhi contacted her post that day which was spoiled by abhinav.

So i still support abhi as his action was reaction to what happend on that day and i don't think it was an abuse as he has not hit her nor gave her any gaali. I just saw him asking sunthi kyun nahi ho meri baath. In the end i have not watched full epi this is based on clips i saw.

Since my sisters are not akshara they will have happy life with a character like abhi and he will not even shout at them 😂

Originally posted by: zeal123

Hi all,

I was just passing through the forum. After reading a few posts, this thought suddenly stuck me. Will we also force our sisters or daughters to stay in an abusive marriage? Will we also constantly criticize our girls for moving on from a relationship which seemed to drain her energy. This scared me so much. Hope this thought process is limited to only fictional shows. But it scares me that we still are able to think like this even if for fictional characters.

I am just sharing what I thoughts. Do not want to hurt anyone.

No that's why if you have seen the recently polls of forum here, majority of the people don't support Abhimanyu or Abhira.

It is only few Harshad/Harshali fans who are attached to them. It's fair too as we all have different reasons to watch the serial. Few watch for leads and few for story/tracks.

Originally posted by: firewings_diya

This is a fictional show. Where ml is prone to get damaged for trp race. If it was show like anupama people will not feel bad for vanraj as they have spent 300 odd episodes to show how anupama was tortured.

Here abhi was never abusive he just had anger issues. For me ideal man is that one who supports my family, my career aspirations,even loves me.

Here abhi had all the characters.

He took care of akshu's family, supported her with her career even though his career itself was at stake, respected her and loved her.

The white day had mistakes of both the leads. Will any mother risks her child over some strangers? Or will any women being emotional chooses strangers over her family. In reality no. If akshu really wanted to save kids they could have silently followed than just over reacting in that situation. Neil was irresponsible too but trigger was akshu as she herself wanted to jump. When we some one is trouble we will analyze situation will we ever be able to fight 5 to 6 gundes without anything no. If neil would have not prevented akshu she would have died.

Both were responsible. Abhi was not abusive. He just asked her all valid questions and he had anger issues so instead of taking out his anger on her he took out on other items. He has told her multiple times to take care of yourself you have complicated pregnancy. She risked her kids life multiple times and did not listen to his words.

That's the reaction when you get when you don't listen to the words thst is good for you. Abhi blaming her for sirath death also was a reaction of his anger like how we tend to look back when we trusted this person try to reanalyze situation like uss din bhi tumne shayad jhoot bola hoga when some caught some one lyring red handed.

Abhi divorcing her was wrong but abhi contacted her post that day which was spoiled by abhinav.

So i still support abhi as his action was reaction to what happend on that day and i don't think it was an abuse as he has not hit her nor gave her any gaali. I just saw him asking sunthi kyun nahi ho meri baath. In the end i have not watched full epi this is based on clips i saw.

Since my sisters are not akshara they will have happy life with a character like abhi and he will not even shout at them 😂

Plus one to each and every point here. Mostly people are being bias here just because Abhi has anger issues. Every human has some or the other flaws but no one is trying to analyse the situation in which he did what he did. We can simply put it this way when two people have argument no matter who ever is at fault, the one who raised his/her voice is always blamed and the real reason goes behind the curtain. Same thing happened on white day, Abhi’s action were purely reaction to loosing his children and brother because of Ak’s carelessness. Divorce was too much but had Abhinav directly told him about the kid the situation would have been completely different.

Originally posted by: reddit_toe

Plus one to each and every point here. Mostly people are being bias here just because Abhi has anger issues. Every human has some or the other flaws but no one is trying to analyse the situation in which he did what he did. We can simply put it this way when two people have argument no matter who ever is at fault, the one who raised his/her voice is always blamed and the real reason goes behind the curtain. Same thing happened on white day, Abhi’s action were purely reaction to loosing his children and brother because of Ak’s carelessness. Divorce was too much but had Abhinav directly told him about the kid the situation would have been completely different.

@verve just read your post on another thread but sorry replying you here with @Bold quotes here

See mostly people are biased to not understand him and Abhimanyu just have anger issues.

After it all it is all Abhinavs fault.

@TM asked why do we support toxicity and not moving on in relationship and the reply is this. Because the guy with whom she moved on Abhinav is actually the cause of all problems. The original guy Abhimanyu was never toxic. He just have anger issues. Itna tho samjho yaar.

@reddit_toe i am sorry I am quoting your post and your entitled to your opinion but your short answer was best way to reply to my friend here.

Originally posted by: reddit_toe

Plus one to each and every point here. Mostly people are being bias here just because Abhi has anger issues. Every human has some or the other flaws but no one is trying to analyse the situation in which he did what he did. We can simply put it this way when two people have argument no matter who ever is at fault, the one who raised his/her voice is always blamed and the real reason goes behind the curtain. Same thing happened on white day, Abhi’s action were purely reaction to loosing his children and brother because of Ak’s carelessness. Divorce was too much but had Abhinav directly told him about the kid the situation would have been completely different.

Yes if we start taking decisions over one or two day event we will never find any perfect man unless he is a pet who just listens to us.

Akshu has abused abhi multiple times blaming him for harming her kid. Even though abhi was not even responsible for those. But did abhi ever judged her or decided she is not a great mum or she should be jailed.

He understands the situarion before taking decisiom which is missing in ak.

1. Ak agreed for khera's condition she could have found better doctor as abhi's hand condition was not life threatening.

2. Ak decided that abhi does not need his kids just because he did not picked her call on the day she wanted.

3. Ak decided that abhi is not a father for showing her the mirror

I agree.

Just would like to add that Abhimanyu did care about Akshara after she left. He visited Goenka’s to check if she has returned or been found. It’s only after learning that she’s safe and at her friend’s place did he leave.

At that time he didn’t wish to get back together with her or melt towards her so he didn’t go with BP to bring her home when BP asked him.

Both Akshara and Abhimanyu broke down and couldn’t be each other’s support. Abhimanyu didn’t know about the pregnancy and Akshara too didn’t know that he cared about her well-being or what situations in his life were preventing him from thinking of her. People can debate over who is more wrong but the truth is both suffered.

When one loves so deeply it’s difficult to move on without closure.

Abhimanyu has learnt a lot about what happened in Akshara’s life after she left but Akshara still has a lot to find out.

Akshara seems to have closed her heart to love as maybe she is scared that it can just disappear one day and it only leaves pain and emptiness behind. Abhimanyu prioritized his family over love as he feels he failed to protect them - he has been in guilt all these years and add to that all the things pointed out by Akshara regarding the past.

Originally posted by: PeacefulLove

@verve just read your post on another thread but sorry replying you here with @Bold quotes here

See mostly people are biased to not understand him and Abhimanyu just have anger issues.

After it all it is all Abhinavs fault.

@TM asked why do we support toxicity and not moving on in relationship and the reply is this. Because the guy with whom she moved on Abhinav is actually the cause of all problems. The original guy Abhimanyu was never toxic. He just have anger issues. Itna tho samjho yaar.

@reddit_toe i am sorry I am quoting your post and your entitled to your opinion but your short answer was best way to reply to my friend here.

Completely second you ❤️ 👏

@bold This is the exact reason I wrote the post you're referring to. In fact, so many people have raised this issue already on the forum.

Abhinav gets dragged for everything - things he has never done, things he could have done or will/won't do in future. There've been n no. of posts where he takes the sole brunt for the blind defense of both leads. Whether pre-leap or post-leap episodes are gettin' discussed, as soon as Abhimanyu's or Akshara's defense start showing cracks, the motto is to instantly target Abhinav.

I get people have their own likings n reasons for watching & everyone can't have same outlook. But one upping yourself or your fav ckt. by giving any xyz baseless, bogus, nonsensical reasons is beyond me.

I've toh made it a pt. to just engage with my friends and people who's posts I enjoy. (Tho there are always some posts that are too much to ignore)

I guess that's the point of these shows .

One can take whatever they want to but I'll be extra cautious of boys with red flags ..

Anger issues are not "normal" . Pl don't normalize it. It stems into a disturbed personality and more serious issues which can't be controlled. The wife shouldn't bear the brunt of it and wait for the hubby to calm down so he changes his decisions. Words said in rage or otherwise have equal affect on the other person..hearing things like "you bring bad luck to my family " is never pleasant.

Secondly abhinanyu has serious momma issues and boys such as him can never keep his wife happy .

Thirdly , yes it's said that in love we should be forgiving , compromising , and what not ..but practically speaking , it's impossible To love the person who crushes your self respect. Unless its a serious Stockholm syndrome case...wives like anupama put up with their husbands bec they are not capable of independent existence. Why should girls be like anupama ?

Originally posted by: Krinya

I guess that's the point of these shows .

One can take whatever they want to but I'll be extra cautious of boys with red flags ..

Anger issues are not "normal" . Pl don't normalize it. It stems into a disturbed personality and more serious issues which can't be controlled. The wife shouldn't bear the brunt of it and wait for the hubby to calm down so he changes his decisions. Words said in rage or otherwise have equal affect on the other person..hearing things like "you bring bad luck to my family " is never pleasant.

Secondly abhinanyu has serious momma issues and boys such as him can never keep his wife happy .

Thirdly , yes it's said that in love we should be forgiving , compromising , and what not ..but practically speaking , it's impossible To love the person who crushes your self respect. Unless its a serious Stockholm syndrome case...wives like anupama put up with their husbands bec they are not capable of independent existence. Why should girls be like anupama ?

Thanks for writing this ❤️ Every word you said is true reality.

Extreme anger kills a person, spoils everything around you and should never be justified. And mumma boys can never keep wife happy. That is the hard truth.