Originally posted by: nethraa_99
 
@laksh I was just thinking about what you had written in @bold. I'm trying hard to delve into his thinking. In the initial days of his marriage, he did criticize Sai for feeling bad when he talks to Pakhi - and Sai denied it saying that nothing is more important than her father's dream. A couple of days later, he himself asked if Sai doesn't like it when he speaks to Pakhi - to which Sai replies "mujhe farak nahi padta" and he seems to believe it(& be a little disappointed with it). Since then, he seems to have made up his mind that Sai and Pakhi are at loggerheads due to personality clash - and that's why he makes the dumbass Ladakh plan. When Sai called him out on using his pati haq on her whilst being in love with Pakhi - I think somewhere he knows the validity of Sai's expectations and sees the justification in her anger - which is why the aftermath of the family reveal doesn't turn into a huge fight. He is hurt that she revealed this to the family, but is not angry or arrogant about it. Even in the episode where he accepts that he is not committed to anyone anymore - he wants to know if him talking to Pakhi affects her because till now he doesn't belive he is important enough to Sai for it to actually bother her. So can we say that he is not being a hypocrite consciously? Sometimes we ourselves behave like a hypocrite without realising - but when somebody calls us out, we reflect and change our behaviour - that is the mark of an honest person. I could be missing a lot of pieces here - so do correct me if I'm wrong. I don't remember all the details but did he try to maintain distance with Pakhi after that atleast? 
 I'm also appalled at his inability to put two and two together - when he was surprised at Sai's mudda of Pakhi being a roadblock between them. Being unable to gauge her feelings is different, but didn't she raise the same mudda during the vaada reveal to the family? Why is he acting surprised? I'm clueless as to what went on in his dumb head after the vaada reveal.
As for Virakhi, whatever be his reasons, it doesn't absolve him of his behaviour with Pakhi. My mind zones out whenever any thing is about them - because they act without any common sense or even basic decorum. I really get uncomfortable with the familiarity with which they behave with each other, the liberties they take with each other. It is disconcerting to see Virat going into Pakhi's room without knocking - either to speak to her or during a fight, allowing Pakhi to keep her hand on his shoulder, holding her hand etc - it borders on being inappropriate, even if we take Sai out of the picture. Contrast that with his behaviour towards Sai when she refuses to not take part in fresher's program - he behaves in an abnoxious way during the alta episode - there is absolutely no introspection on why he is going overboard at Sai's innocent actions which is something every college girl will do - even as I understand that he was confused and unable to comprehend his budding feelings. He only gets mollified when he learns that Sai has applied alta. Ssince then he is making visible efforts to not be controlling and let his go of his jealousy - although he succeeds only partially. 
P.S: As usual my post may not any conclusion and is a just an endless pondering😆
 I don't remember all the details but did he try to maintain distance with Pakhi after that atleast? 
Bold: This certainly got me go back and think over. 
Did Virat maintain distance then onwards? 
Yes mostly except the two incidents that irked the fandom and we all discussed unendingly during those episodes.
 when he was planning the secret surprise for Sai’s birthday. His hand holding and whispering standing too close looked cringeworthy.
Second when he was shouting at her for causing injury to Sai. Here also the proximity and handholding did not look appropriate.
Barring these I think he displayed a detached attitude towards Pakhi and also got sarcastic couple of times..
Virat’s miffed expressions voiced without covering with his usual softness at the dining table on Sai’s birthday night was worthy of applause..but 
Again he spoilt the fun by saying sorry for celebrating Sai’s birthday when Pakhi threatened to leave the house.
On the whole,I do believe that he has moved on but still not satisfied with his wavering ways..case in point I didnt like his sorry to Pakhi for birthday celebration! Sai didn’t hear that otherwise she would have felt disheartened and questioned him also..
Just my thoughts on reading yours.
Edited by ltelidevara - 4 years ago