Originally posted by: Pinecone
Abhira loves Armaan and knows he is deeply disturbed so she's giving him a long rope and is understanding towards him. She is giving a hug to her husband to comfort him when he looks anxious. shes not throwing herself at a man who said he loves someone else. Nor is she imposing on a guy who said he did not want to marry her. She was coaxed to marry by Armaan but now he's upset and shes trying to be understanding. I dont think that amounts to lack of self worth. At some point if Armaan doesn't course correct she will also have an outburst. And i certainly dont think there can be any comparison between Abhira and Ruhi. Thats just crazy. Ruhi is a psycho. And comparing Abhira to Ruhi is absolutely not fair or logical.
It wasn't a comparison it was a retrospection. If we can criticize personality traits of the characters we dislike, we can also criticize/discuss similar personality traits of the characters we like. I can't be a blind fan not to point out the flaws of my favorite character or to justify her mistakes or to justify the way writers have written her character (my POV). I still feel connected to her character the most despite criticizing Abhira so the criticism is for betterment it is to see her growth as a character (writers do visit the forum/sm sites and take up few ideas so maybe they can give her a scene where she vents it all out or they can address the issue somehow).
Ruhi has psychological disorder to exhibit traits of lack of self-worth her actions obviously can't be excused as she is dangerous for the people around her, even the switch in character is a form of psychological disorder, but Abhira is mentally sound yet she is behaving as if her existence & happiness depends on approval from dadisa & now maa. She will keep trying for days infact months despite being rejected repeatedly? Why she is still hellbent on pleasing Vidya and not showing disappointment infront of Armaan as the matter is about "maa" (otherwise she always vented out her frustration when he prioritized dadisa/ruhi).
Vidya cursed Abhira and mentally tortured her, called her names. Abhira is least affected infact she is forcefully serving kheer to Vidya & now preparing for Vidya's birthday knowing it will affect Vidya and if anything went wrong it will affect Armaan too. Isn't Vidya the same woman who outcasted Abhira for being infertile? Shouldn't she fight back for her self-worth that it's not "her fault" that she can't conceive. If she can't fight back as it's maa and "maa lovvves Armaan & Abhira" alteast maintain some distance from the woman who considers her a curse for her family. It's called sef-preservance. Vidya isn't just angry she wished bad for her and Armaan.
Then comes her dependence on Armaan, not even once she could leave Armaan for months let alone for days. When Armaan was getting married to Ruhi not caring about her feelings she cried for him for days (almost every single day she had a breakdown scene) & now when Armaan is being distant and apparently doesn't care about her anymore as maa is the priority, why isn't she having a serious conversation with him? How long is she going to let it go? Armaan is Abhira's husband and she is trying to set things right. Ok. She can't give up on him as she believes their relationship won't be same again if she gave up. Understandable. But if he is constantly shutting her out whenever she is trying to get closer to him physically or emotionally there is no way to make him understand other than making him realize that u are also a human with feelings. She must give him the space, to miss her presence by his side, she need to be out of his sight/ignore him for days only then he will realize. She is letting herself be treated that way by the man she loved and married against her instinct (he won't be happy in this marriage). That's clearly her lack of self-worth.
Abhira who blamed him and his family and called them out every single time (initially she called out Vidya too) isn't expressing any emotion? Abhira who loved herself first & spoke for herself whenever anybody tried to humiliate her is now a person who doesn't feel anything after humiliation, insults & curses? Abhira the character who was an inspiration is reduced to? Nobody should be this prone to rejection, humiliation, rudeness, curses & namecalling. Abhira can hug Armaan and do anything she want to do with Armaan (Armaan Abhira ka hai ) but Armaan should also be in mood or responding to it otherwise it will keep hurting her pride.
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