Anuj and Anupamaa - Leads or villains ? - Page 3

Originally posted by: InsaneDivine

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Shouldn't leads have some moral compass? At least the ones who boast about sanskaars, culture and morality ? I mean just imagine giving lectures on moral values, bhakti, shardha, sanskruti, taking pride in the ancient wisdom of Bharat, and then going about cheating a woman who is bedridden and took care of your daughter when one parent left for her ego and the other one was clearly incapable, as per his own acceptance, of filling the void of both parents...

Why wouldn't Shruti feel insecure? Is she so dispensable? She listens to the laughter of Anuj who is with Anupamaa, which is perhaps the loudest in the past 5 years. Behind her back, they touch each other. Anuj literally eyes on Anupamaa, and wants to be around her all the time. When Shruti talks to him about marriage he keeps on avoiding the answer. Wouldn't anyone in her place wonder why? They were supposed to get married anyway. Anuj avoiding to answer her almost seems like he is waiting for Adhya and Anupamaa to reconcile so that eventually he can dump Shruti. This doesn't makes him romantic, it makes him disgusting. Unlike Ekta's shows the Shruti is so far not even negative. She genuinely loves Adhya and Anuj. A person with an absolutely dheela character will do what Anuj is doing to Shruti at this point of time that too when she is at her weakest, is bedridden and vulnerable. So far I never commented on his ONS & multiple affairs because firstly his life in US was never explicitly shown to us and secondly I didn't find anything wrong in him trying to move on in life or forming consensual relationships, which may have a fallout due to variety of reasons. But now seeing what he is doing to Shruti, it makes me feel he is absolutely, intentionally capable of using women for his advantage and then dumping them. If that was not enough, he even dumps the complete responsibility of bringing Anupamaa to their house on Shruti and even brushes off her insecurity as trivial. How is this man even a hero?

Coming to Anupamaa - self-respect toh Maa ne kab ka bech di hai to us baare mein kya hi kahen, but talking of relationships aren't they a two-way street? So far there is nothing that makes me as a viewer believe that Adhya "needs" Anupamaa, an argument used by Anuj to bring her home. Something that Anupamaa can do for Adhya that Shruti can't do better.

Anupamaa thinks that a mother's role is limited to cooking food for the child or maximum taking care of the material needs, the core reason why no matter how much Bhashan she gives to Tosu and Pakhi, they don't give a damn to what she thinks, feels or believes. Her role in Adhya's life in the past was even more limited than it was in Pakhi and Toshu's life, which is very unfortunate because this is a child whom she could have raised, a child in whose life she would have had a say, which previously she never had. So the result is that Pakhi and Tosu turned out to be rude because she never had any authority and Adhya is rude to her because she had too much authority but never utilized it properly.

Now that she has entered Adhya's life, she again limits her role to serving food to her or holding her tight in panic attacks, which anyway makes you wonder how that helps. She is great enough to take care of her during fever, which she might have had so many times in the past five years when Anupamaa was not present and before that also, when Anupamaa had to be pushed by Bapuji to attend her. So what does Anupamaa contribute to Adhya's life now? Why should Anupamaa and Adhya be together apart from the only fact that Anupamaa is the lead? What is Anupamaa's role in Adhya's life apart from being a cook or an artificial psychiatrist who is bad at her job? If she is not even putting in effort to understand why there is a deep-seated hatred, what has been Adhya's life in the past five years, not even introspecting a little, no conversation is happening between the two, what is she even doing over there? Treating ailments is the job of a doctor. A mother's role beyond cooking & taking care has to be that of a guide, a mentor, a listener and at times also a friend. Good food can reach the stomach but kind & considerate words and the quality time spent will only reach the child's heart. Perhaps why Shruti despite not being a good cook, a traditional woman or a biological mother, managed to touch Adhya's heart but Anupamaa still struggles to find that place in the lives of all of her three children.

Is Adhya just a tool to keep the leads apart when she has very genuine issues? It is anyway extremely difficult to bring these two people together. There is no space created or left for Anupamaa to find a position in Adhya's life. Adhya despises her and Maa keeps doing what she is best at - cooking and giving lectures without understanding the pulse of the matter. But if it is so inevitable, at least put in some effort. At least make Adhya talk about her life, and make Anupamaa listen for once and please do that without making Shruti collateral damage. Given that Adhya and Shruti's relationship overcame huge storms of life and stabilized over a period of time, it is more believable despite the details not being shown, while Anupamaa and Adhya's relationship would look extremely hollow, with the half-hearted effort that is being put on and the emotional damage to Shruti that is happening because of that.

At this point, Anuj and Anupamaa are just coming out to be two people who are using a child's mental and emotional issues to come together, while throwing a really nice woman Shruti under the bus.

A mother should not just be restricted to the kitchen. Toshu and Pakhi had become spoilt brats thanks to her being "attached" to kitchen. Bapuji was also a mute spectator to Ravanraj supporting Toshu in his evil ways. Both the parents should love all their children equally. This is where AnuRaj had failed as parents. While Ravanraj had turned Toshu and Pakhi to spoilt brats with his endless pampering, Samar had failed to come out of Anupama's shadow thanks to her endless pampering. All 3 children of AnuRaj are failures in terms of their career and job. AnuRaj in their 25 years of married life have raised 3 defective products who could not be role models to society.