Originally posted by: You-Know-Who
You’re correct in that I have not read any of the discussions that have happened so far. So, perhaps my comment is just a repetition of what has already been discussed. Thank you for indulging me.
I agree with most of what you said. They made horrible mistakes, most of all not communicating when things didnt go their way. Like Khushi as she was, was perfect for Arnav when they got married and Arnav was struggling. Arnav was perfect for Khushi because he gave her the freedom, Khushi had not thought was possible for someone like her. In a way their perceived insecurities also complemented each other. However, down the line they stopped being perfect for each other. Now, one could say that is because thats when their true differences started showing when Arnav was no longer in a phase where he constantly needed Khushi to bring him joy. There were other things in his life that gave him the sense of fulfilment and there is nothing wrong with that. For Khushi however what brought her joy never changed. It is tragic.
I am curious to know why you think the way he went about divorce is disgraceful and disrespectful? I think he truly convinced himself that he was no longer the right person for Khushi and Khushi would never concede to divorce (due to her traditional upbringing) even if she was not happy with him (which he truly believed she wasn’t). I believe he really wanted to have a talk with Khushi about it before going through with it as well. However, Khushi was too heartbroken after seeing the pictures to even talk about it. He did not anticipate that, neither did he anticipate Khushi knowing about it before he had a chance to talk to her. I honestly do not think in this situation there is a “graceful” way to get a divorce…
I think and I may be wrong, but I think he was convinced he was not worthy of Khushi (he could not give her a child, she was not happy in his world, he was dirty now since he slept with Lavanya). And hence he had to get a divorce. He would go about it as clinically as he has in life. But he truly did not realize how much Khushi still impacted him, or how important she still was in his life….
Hey hii, first of all welcome to the discussion.
I actually planned to not indulge in anymore discussion about how much arnav is wrong or right because
a) I think i am tired, doing this for a while now.
b) we are anyways going to get an update from his perspective today.
But this part of your comment made me.
Don't they say, the character of a man is not judged when he has nothing, but when he has everything.
and, You can easily judge a character of a man by how he treats someone who can do nothing for him.
Let's assume that now khushi doesn't bring much to his table like she is used to when he had nothing, and now he has other things to give him a sense of fulfillment.... But can that justify the way he has treated khushi. Even khushi had other things to give her a sense of fulfillment, her NGO being one, i am sure being the wife of such a rich man now she also had access to all the fine things in the world (also the fact that they became rich together so she is worth half of all his wealth), but did that make her behave with arnav that way. Doesn't this say something about a person's character, ethics, morals?
I have said yesterday in one of my comments that I am not an arnav hater, my heart absolutely breaks for the 24 year old arnav also and this 34yr old has not only wronged khushi to the extent of probably never being able to make it right for her, but also the 24year old arnav.
Arnav even at this point has everything in place in his life, his parents, his friends, his business, his girl friend who is sitting their with opened arms for him. He has/had it all, emotional, physical all his needs catered.
But Khushi? NONE OF IT. Her parents also have send her back, the one place where she thought she could find a little peace. Her life is as good as barren.
And about his affair, their is no doubt that he continued the affair even after khushi came back from Lucknow, may be slept again or not with L but the affair was continuing with L, do you think they would had had such an easy conversation over the phone where she knows- he is throwing an anniversary party (which was supposed to be a very private one, so there is no chance of her knowing it from any media outlet), he is divorcing his wife, even, i repeat even when he is going to talk to his wife. She is being informed about it all. But not khushi.
I would have still cut him some slack if he would have had come clean to khushi about L after she came back, but no, he went on for months to make her feel like a miserable creature and walked over her self esteem again and again who at that point was not even worthy enough to have a conversation. He can have his reasons but that's what she felt about the whole thing. He didn't even discussed with her, even when he had lawyers on board, when he was sorting out the legalities. CAN YOU BELIEVE? Someone is writing off her fate and she have absolutely no idea.
The GUTs of him to say if he had known that the divorce would break her so much, he would not have proceeded in the first place, so then what he planned to do? continue the affair with his girl friend behind his wife's back or tell her that he slept with another woman, would that have not broken khushi?.
In front of khushi's miseries my mind just gets fogged I guess to understand anything else, may be I myself need more maturing. I understand the then arnav but can NEVER sympathize with the one now.
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