Kankar | Sanam Baloch & Fahad - spoiler pg 33 - Page 72

Originally posted by: NigelMolesworth

Don't agree. If I'm not in the mood, I refuse to go. It has nothing to do with importance, respect or love.

That's you but many people don't, in fact can't. It happened to me even. My first cousin ki mehendi pai I couldn't refuse to go, especially when I was among the people on behalf of whom mehendi invitation was sent out. Albeit I was really tired after coming back from office and I am among very "qunooti" type people. I do not really like to go at every place. I like to stay at home. Even then I had to go, couldn't refuse because of the relation.

Originally posted by: tot-batot

That's you but many people don't, in fact can't. It happened to me even. My first cousin ki mehendi pai I couldn't refuse to go, especially when I was among the people on behalf of whom mehendi invitation was sent out. Albeit I was really tired after coming back from office and I am among very "qunooti" type people. I do not really like to go at every place. I like to stay at home. Even then I had to go, couldn't refuse because of the relation.

Originally posted by: NigelMolesworth

I was objecting to the last line. I'm not disrespecting or giving someone less importance if I refuse them. Again, situations matter. Mehendi or Wedding is an important and one time affair but refusing a dinner because you're tired or unwell is okay. Kiran was just being silly when she threw stuff and showed tantrums.

No I can give you many examples beside wedding where you can not refuse to go. You might not be disrespecting them but you can not stop people from thinking. Here is another example for you. My department arranged a dawat for my manager after his shadi. It was on saturday. I didn't want to go. Saturdays I like to spend resting and spending time with my family. But again I couldn't refuse. On the other hand if this dawat would have been for any other colleague of mine I would have very conveniently refused. The difference was "who is important for me". Aap ko buhat saaray kaam apni marzi kai khilaf karnay partay hain because of social pressures ya kisi aur wajah sai such as you want to maintain better contacts and good will with certain people.
Kiran kai liye her sister's dawat was important because she cared for her sister and I can also understand her sister's situation. Sikandar on the other hand did not want to consider it. Agar yehi dawat kisi aur kai haan hoti jo Sikandar kai liye ehem hota tou no matter how tired Sikandar was he would have gone.

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Kankar episode 15 - Review

This time, Sikander has crossed all boundaries. He is a savage who likes to rip apart anyone who he can control and most of the times, that anyone is his beloved wife, Kiran.

So let's go over yesterday's episode shall we? It started of with Sikander asking Kiran, very innocently, what he can do to make her happy. She told him, very honestly, that it is respect that she wants and not his money and the expensive gifts he keeps showering her with. For some reason, her answer leaves him baffled. Apparently to him, the thought that his wife expects him to treat her with some respect, just like he expects her to treat him, is unfathomable.

I couldn't believe he could stoop so low as to discuss his marital issue with his friend! Wasn't he the one who Kiran off for talking about his attitude to his mother, saying that he doesn't appreciate that she discusses their personal issues with anyone else? It was wrong of her to discuss their problems with a family member but that was a problem because he was the one who looked bad. But it's OK for him to complain about his wife to his friend. He didn't even stop him when he called her names, while cheering his attitude.

Kiran's relatives, meanwhile, have a new pastime now. Gossiping about Kiran's life and how she is the one ruining it. Though her phopo's heart is in the right place, I still don't like the way she blamed Kiran for her messy marriage.

Things got better when Kiran found out she was expecting. After a long time, we got to see the old, cheerful Kiran again, wearing that adorable smile of hers. Immediately, her mother-in-law issued warnings to Sikander, telling him to behave, did everything possible to make sure Kiran was comfortable and happy and distributed mithai amongst all her relatives. She didn't waste an instant in assuring Faiqa, her sister, that Kiran was the best thing that ever happened to her family, which naturally made her twist with rage and jealousy.

But Sikander couldn't curb his true nature for long. First, he casually threw aside his plan to go to Irum's house. I mean, OK fine, you are tired, you had a lot of work to do. Couldn't he have called and told Kiran that he won't be able to go that day and ask her to tell her sister BEFORE, instead of cancelling at the last minute? But what would Sikander know about propriety. All he knows is that he was tired. The fact that Kiran was upset didn't rattle him, he really didn't seem to care. What did upset him was that she threw away his present in protest. This was too much for him, and after twisting her arm, forcing her to pick up the earrings, he threw her away. While she writhed in pain, he gave a speech on how tired he was and walked right past her, leaving her on the floor. What followed was expected; she had a miscarriage.

The drama accurately portrays an abusive relationship and the self righteous attitude of the violent partners. Making the victim look bad, while giving the lamest excuses for their violent behaviour, beating her up and then earnestly asking for forgiveness every time, promising that it would never happen, over and over again. I have no words to describe the flawless acting of both Fahad Mustafa and Sanam Baloch. Both of them were mind blowing. Fahad Mustafa made Sikander look real, we could feel everything he felt, his rage, his guilt, his uneasiness as he tried to convince others and himself that he is a good husband and Kiran is the one at fault. Same goes for Sanam Baloch. Yesterday's episode was perfect in every way, be it direction, acting or the script.

By Farwa Batool Naqvi

I just caught up with Kankar's 14th episode..

LOLOL Sikandar's face when Kiran didn't give him the answer he wanted in regards to "can you leave me, Kiran?" ..that expression was priceless. Fahad is such an amazing actor..,I love this guy. He plays Sikandar the douche so well.

I just caught up on the discussion about Kiran and Sikandar's argument about not going to Erum's home for dinner. I personally feel Kiran wasn't at fault. Realistically speaking, you just don't cancel a dinner invite randomly last minute just because you're "tired." That's not how the real world works.

Rants aside though..LOL this drama really makes your blood boil. 😆..Sanam Baloch and Fahad Mustafa are such brilliant actors..I think I've said this a million times but I just can't help it. These last two episodes were so intense and if we had some lame actors portraying Kiran and Sikandar respectively..the aftermath of all that has happened wouldn't have been so impactful at least for me.

I was watching this video mix someone made with this song and some scenes from Kankar..I liked it so thought I share. The song goes so well with this show.