Kankar | Sanam Baloch & Fahad - spoiler pg 33 - Page 105

Originally posted by: HeavenlyBliss.

I hate men who do that. I don't know his reasons though, haven't seen the episode.

the reason was that she wont be able to pay complete attention to home if she resumed her job..
this is what irked Rukhsar that she has been doing job for ages and her brother never asked her to quit the job.

Your own family [sisters] turn your worst enemies with those perpetual taunts about divorcing an upmarket rich man & wedding a little shop owner. The everlasting fiscal hangover a poor family can't seem to snap out of.

Now Kiran's subjected to further miscellaneous taunts in her new home, but this should be a cake walk for her, given all she's dealt with and suffered at the hands of Sikander and family unless we see a sudden drastic negative metamorphosis of Adnan's character which is highly unlikely, purely going by instinct here since I haven't read the book so have no idea.

The scene between Kiran and her Mother once again was the clincher. Kiran has so much nooraniyat dripping from her face, so clinquant her voice pitching in emotional scenes is incredible that's her defining trademark as an actress.

Adnan's sister has suffered plus her late marriage and being sidelined and taunted over the years has bred severe discontent & as a result left her embittered, hence the needling into Kiran's affairs as to why she left her job and picking on it.

I think she feels a certain resentment since she worked so hard and was a contributer to the household, she doesn't want Kiran to have it easy & be a given laxed approach by anyone but would rather see her graft away in a similar manner plus her preconception about Kiran [ensnaring a rich guy & freeloading a wealthy family] doesn't help affairs either including Adnan's priorities towards Kiran taking precendence over her. The real test will be with Adnan to see how he negotiates attention between all three. He's already insecure financially about tending to Kiran's needs hence the constant monetary comparative to Sikandar. Hope he stabilises that part to his thought process soon before it infests permanently.

Originally posted by: Usman.

Naj.. is that you?

Haanji!, Just a name change Taken from one of our Pak Punjabi films incase you're wondering :)

Originally posted by: Gujar

Haanji!, Just a name change Taken from one of our Pak Punjabi films incase you're wondering :)

lol.. acha hai..

But did Kiran want to do the job?

Originally posted by: NigelMolesworth

Kiran said that she left school/work because Adnan doesn't like it. I find that curbing a woman's desire...at least in this era. Regressive thought.

I really didn't get the impression Kiran wanted to work at all. In fact the way things have been shown so far I got the impression Kiran is glad she no longer has to work. To me it seemed like she told Rukhsar that the reason she's not working is because Adnan doesn't want her to, to be tactful and stop Rukhsar from losing her temper (obviously it didn't work).

Adnan tells Kiran he is going to uphold all his responsibilities towards her and Kiran was extremely happy hearing this. The way I read it Kiran believes it is her husbands responsibility to provide for her financially, meaning she doesn't have to work.

Of course if Kiran wanted to work and Adnan forbade it with no valid reason then there would be a problem. However from what I've seen so far that's not what happened.


The only negative shade to Adnan's character I've noticed so far is that he seems to have an inferiority complex and is comparing his own financial situation with Sikandars. That annoyed me because I do think it's disrespectful to bring up your wife's ex-husband and question her on whether she misses the luxuries she got whilst married to him. He married Kiran knowing her character, the reasons behind her divorce, and what she wants out of a marriage, he is therefore in no position to start talking about her past now that they are married. He should trust, and respect her enough to not doubt her.

All the men in this drama are flawed. Sikandar was possessive and was merely after Kiran as a trophy-wife. He didn't treat her like an individual person but like something he owned. He expected her to sit, eat, walk, talk, etc the way he wanted. He didn't want her to have her own mind, and opinions. She was just meant to sit there looking pretty and agreeing to everything he said and did. If she didn't he would beat her.

Rukhsar's husband is very similar to Sikandar. He wants Rukhsar to live her life in such a way so his own is comfortable. He married her but doesn't want to uphold his responsibilities towards her. Before marriage he damaged her ego and self respect by continually prolonging the engagement. Post marriage he's damaging her self worth by forcing her to work and uphold her own financial expenses and his families, instead of fulfilling his own financial obligations towards her.

Did anyone else pay attention to the lyrics from last week's background song after Sikandar and Aarzoo's fight?

Originally posted by: NigelMolesworth

I've few questions.

Was Kiran's issue only about physical abuse? When she demanded respect from the first guy...was it only about abuse?

I was shocked to hear that she left college because this second guy is against it. Isn't curbing your dreams disrespect? It almost looked like they were taunting working women. So much for respect.

^respect is given and earned by allowing others to make their own choices and not forcing your wishes on someone else, be it in any relationship.

Originally posted by: NigelMolesworth

^respect is given and earned by allowing others to make their own choices and not forcing your wishes on someone else, be it in any relationship.

WohAjnabee, that's exactly my point. The line I objected to was 'Adnan thinks I should be at home.' Kiran could've said that I decided to stay at home. I thought the show will be much more than domestic abuse. I thought it will showcase more options for women than just to cook and look after men. Yes, Adnan is not abusive but other than that I don't find him appealing at all. I wish Kiran had better options. She showed so much potential at school, she wanted to study further and now it's sad to see her ironing clothes and making dabba for her husband.

I've nothing against women who stay at home. So please don't misinterpret my view. I found last episode kind of regressive.