Conversation Starters for Couples

Part of the excitement of falling in love is getting to know someone new. At the beginning of a relationship, we’re often interested in every little thing about our crush.

As time passes, though, sometimes we start to take our partner a bit for granted. Life feels busy, and we may think we know “what there is to know” about him or her. Truth be told, we might tend to spend our time together talking about where to get dinner, what we need from the store, or what to watch on Netflix.

Other vital areas are communication preferences, how partners show support, dealbreakers, family dynamics, and the health of the current relationship.

While there’s definitely a time and place for “Burgers or pizza?,” don’t forget to continue to make time for other, more powerful conversations in your relationships. Talking about deeper, more personal topics (what researchers call “self-disclosure”) brings people together and makes them feel closer to each other.

And if you’re interested in the list of questions used in the study to help strangers feel close to one another, they’re available here. Check it out!

Firstly

Talk about how you and your partner prefer to express and receive love, such as acts of service, gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, or physical touch.