How or why would Sai think of these? - Page 4

Here where he reminds her of deal shaadi and then calls her jealous, how he explains Didi everything

https://twitter.com/weekend_firefly/status/1459137424873779205?t=uTmRPQjMjSkCM2xcRwg7jA&s=19

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Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Because when the gentleman, loving and best husband in the world decides to not be celibate, the woman he wants to break his waada for should be ready, irrespective of him telling her about his feelings because you see he has done so so SO MUCH for Sai.. She needs to adhere to his needs...How selfish of her to not realise it..She is not a kid at 19 to not think in that aspect. However if she wanted it for herself and Virat did not, well she got in this out of her choice even after being told she should not expect a husband out of him...

Exactly how people would have taunted her in that paagal khaana and Didi I am sure she would have done some disgusting things to show how Virat cares more for her

Originally posted by: Rdigest

Here where he reminds her of deal shaadi and then calls her jealous, how he explains Didi everything

https://twitter.com/weekend_firefly/status/1459137424873779205?t=uTmRPQjMjSkCM2xcRwg7jA&s=19

https://twitter.com/weekend_firefly/status/1459134058005295106?t=3O5QX-_dXDyFCbFkk7KyDw&s=19

This person is doing another level ka bolti band on 🐦🐦 today...nice memory refresh for all of us too🤣

Originally posted by: Tapdance

This person is doing another level ka bolti band on 🐦🐦 today...nice memory refresh for all of us too🤣

This all because Sai was being questioned and Kaku supported over her BS. And top of that Virat had to be defended for lifting PP up... The fact that this has come up so late, itself, proves FD lets go things...But Virat is at it...

So Virat is her sugar daddy?

Do people really think that if a man does nice things out of responsibility or some reason, he is entitled to the girl, like she is supposed to sleep with him, no questions asked, as you know he did bahut kuch for her.

Sai knows that even with her, Virat would not be with any other girl than Pakhi. So she has no need to even think about what Virat is losing.

When she has not thought about her own self, why will she think about Virat as she thinks he got what he wanted out of this marriage. Escape from real marriage and convincing another girl that she can't expect anything else of marriage, he can never find such a girl except for an orphan who he already found and convinced her of deal.

Originally posted by: Sofna

Just checking if it's Laksh making a post 🧐😁😁😁

Hello dear 🤗

It is me 😂. Not too active on the forum, but I do comment once in a while or make a post too 😂😂.

Originally posted by: vimeo

I completely agree. I hv always maintained that both knew what they were getting into. That's what I hv kept saying Sai cant complain nor can Virat of course. But its the Sai bhakts who keeps saying oh Sai is bechara... She had no choice etc. But actually I feel both knew what wud happen so bhukto... Sai came back hime voluntarily twice before this time. What dis ahe think when she came back?! Virat in fact had asked her why cant we gv a pati-patni kind of relationship? So when she came back what did she expect? That she cud stay a kuvari at her sasural?! She I agree both knew what they were getting into so no sympathies for either from my side.

I have a different view about this. What I have felt is that Sai at that time wasn’t in a position to think or be her usual strong self. She had just lost her Dad, didn’t have anyone who thought if it was even an age for her to get married, who just wanted to hand over her responsibility to someone. She wasn’t given much of time to even grieve over her Dad’s death and so, she just surrendered to the situation. She was a burden on the villagers too and she knew it. She also couldn’t have refused Usha Maushi who was asking if she meant nothing and was just a maid whose words Sai wouldn’t follow. Anyway, my post was to say that I don’t understand why is physical relationship brought into picture now and not when they got married when Virat didn’t think that Sai can have needs or what would be Sai’s future after all this ended. He was the one who put the idea in her head that he had promised someone that he will stay single throughout his life, then I don’t see why or how Sai will be thinking about his needs or desires. When he shared about his waada, it only meant that he planned to stay single throughout his life and that he has no such expectations from her and she also shouldn’t have from him.

It is now that when Kaku or Ashwini are speaking is Sai even able to see or might have got an idea that Virat doesn’t have issues with these and he is okay to have a child with her.

Let me share my understanding of Sai.

She came with him only because Ashwini manipulated her by saying Virat’s life will be at risk. In the past, Sai hasn’t pushed him away or rejected his advances. It all changed at Mahabaleshwar after she heard the yoga instructor talk about Virat Pakhi chemistry, how she thought they were perfect and also Virat’s misleading story at lovers’s point. And then also in the previous track where she thought that Samrat’s return was disturbing him. That too it wasn’t because he wasn’t happy his brother returned but she thought that he probably wasn’t happy that Samrat and Pakhi might become one and that is why he was reacting to her that way, behaving mercilessly with her and even crossed all boundaries acting inhuman with her locking her up in the room. She has not seen him this wild though she has seen him a couple of times during Amay track or ousting or even during Ajinkya track. All of those events, she knew the reason and this time, she wasn’t able to even think that it was happening because what happened between them during the anniversary because she didn’t know that he wanted them to have a real marriage. He has never clarified or told her that whatever he spoke during the marriage doesn’t matter and he plans to move on, asking her if she will be willing to consider to be a real marriage.

In my view, there was an agreement between them which Virat had initiated so the onus is on him to clarify if the terms have changed. He hasn’t told till today that he has no feelings for Pakhi. He has only said he has told Pakhi that he won’t be fulfilling the commitment anymore. To her, it all looks like he is doing it all because she will think bad since she got upset after the pool incident.

When Virat wanted it to be a deal marriage, she agreed to it. When Virat wants it to be a real marriage, he should say it out as clearly as how he spoke whatever he spoke when they got married. Also, she agreed to marry him at that age only because of her compulsion, her situation. She has conditioned herself to think that this marriage comes with an expiry date and that she was his responsibility only so that she doesn’t develop any kind of expectations from him which he can’t fulfill as a husband.

Virat has had a change of feelings, but she isn’t aware of it. Sometimes such things can be quite tricky and not easy for everyone to understand. Virat has been dumb till today to be ignoring Pakhi’s advances. He has not even been able to believe when Sai told him what Pakhi is feeling or doing. If being a police officer, he is not able to connect the dots, what can we say about this girl not been able to realise her feelings. How is she going to be able to believe that he has feelings for her after the way he keeps supporting his friend, ganging up with his friend to put her down, after the way he abused her by locking her up in the room. Any person in her state would be traumatised and she is going with the flow and has returned to the house only because Ashwini told that. She isn’t sure about what Virat feels for Pakhi and not quite confident about Virat himself. Whatever she is seeing in this friendship phase is something that she likes and would love to be his wife but she is also not certain and is scared as what if he would go back to his old ways of abusing her or humiliating her. A person can think about any kind of physical relationship only when they feel secured with their partner in terms of everything and here I won’t blame her if Sai is not feeling secured.

To your question about whEn she came back, what she expected. She just listened to Ashwini’s words and returned having no expectations or thoughts about how things are going to be. She was just going with the flow. She is in the phase where she has slowly started to trust Virat. I am not talking about wrt Pakhi, talking wrt his behaviour. She must have got so depressed before she left the house after the way he behaved and I am not sure if she can be blamed for not able to move on with him as a wife after however he behaved. She needs time to trust him completely again. Kaku spoke about kids when things were going on well between them as friends. The thought scares her. She isn’t confident to be his wife since he was a different person as a husband. She needs to be able to believe that he will be with her and won’t behave like that again with her for her to be able to accept him as her husband. One can’t push her to accept him especially after whatever has happened.

And about her staying kuvari at her sasural. Isn’t that what Virat planned to do when they got married? My post is to address this too. If Virat had not fallen in love with Sai, would he have himself agreed to Kaku’s demands? Did he not plan not to have any physical relationship with Sai and end this marriage like that after she finishes her studies? Did he not plan to not get married at all? Then how was Sai supposed to think this? As per Sai, Virat wanted it this way and he will be the one who will handle his family because he wanted it this way. It is very obvious, if Virat had not fallen in love with Sai, whenever Kaku or someone demanded for a child, it would have been him who would have asked them not to talk about it or expect anything from him. Because in that scenario, he will be fulfilling his waada and he will be taking care of anything that came its way.

Everything comes back to only one thing that Viratms feelings have changed but not the agreement or conditions that he had put forth to Sai. She has moved back to this house from the hospital just like how she walked in to this house after their marriage.

Originally posted by: sadiltl

And Ofcourse the physical aspect. It is expected from sai because of the kind of relationship they share on paper. That’s the deciding point also whether they can stay together married or not. It is wrong to expect sai to accede to it by force and equally wrong to judge virat if he expects it from her. He is in a position where he sees her as his wife and expects that kind of love from her. If he forces it out of her it is wrong. But except for the elders like kaku he is not expecting anything like that from her. He is again willing to let her be in whatever comfort she found for herself in this relationship. Again anniversary hurt is nothing to do with him being denied by her. It is more to do with his intentions being questioned.

I have no complaints on sai till now. She has faced so much just being in that house in the presence of his ex and without any clarity. I also hope that if she realizes her love it is because she sees him as he is. Not because he has done something to her or because he is her husband. As you said it is an open marriage to start with and should be looked like that without any burden on both sides.


Sorry I missed to add it before

Your last point is the answer to your first line. It cannot be expected from Sai after Virat had put on their paper that she shouldn’t have any expectations from him to act as a husband. This is exactly when she said that he also can’t have any expectations from her to act as a wife.

I am not saying Virat’s expectations from her is wrong but anyone thinking that she is not thinking about it doesn’t make sense to me because the idea was put in her by Virat himself. He was the who made her believe that he has decided to remain single throughout his life and has promised someone else. This marriage was a samjhautha for him and till now, she used to think he regrets marrying her. It has changed now and she has been let know of it but it is not going to be that easy for her to believe all this. Everything has to take its own time.

Sai has never rejected his advances, but there was always a doubt, an uncertainty about their relationship that she never set her free from all the conditions that he had put. Since he had put them, it was easier for him to break free from it. Anyway, as I have said, she has not rejected his advances earlier. This time she had set herself free from all the burden when they became friends. In this relationship they share, she felt easy to talk to him, could call him something confidently which she couldn’t when they were husband and wife. He had taken away the wifely rights from her since he said it wasn’t a real marriage but in friendship, she felt so liberated and could act like a friend without any inhibition. She had rights on him as a friend, there was no pabandhi. She was getting to see a different and better side of him. Kaku’s words burdened her and freaked her out since she is worried to lose whatever comfort they are sharing now. She is worried how he will be once he becomes her husband and once they share husband and wife relationship. She doesn’t have confidence in him especially after whatever happened before she left the house.

Had none of those things happened, even if he had made some move, she might have just gone with the flow.

I don’t agree that physical relationship is the deciding factor whether they will stay together married or not. Sai is just living with him as per the original arrangement. Was it a factor to stay together married or not, when they got married? Then why now? Because Virat has developed feelings for her? That seems wrong to me. She can stay with him thinking that he had anyway brought her to this house without having any such expectation and that was the understanding between them when they got married. She need not be thinking about it at all.

It can happen naturally, but even if it doesn’t happen, she can stay till the time she wants or until Virat asks her to leave without sharing any relationship with him at all as per the original plan or proposal of Virat. Just my views.

Yes, Virat was hurt with his intentions being questioned but he also wasn’t happy that she wasn’t considering him to be a prospective partner for her at all. He was a little okay during janmashtami celebration too but after he heard that she got his transfer cancelled for his family sake, he got even more mad. He didn’t like that she didn’t think about him or doesn’t want him at all. He didn’t like the feeling of not getting liked/wanted by her. That pushed him to gang up with Pakhi, that pushed him to humiliate her.

Originally posted by: laksh

Your last point is the answer to your first line. It cannot be expected from Sai after Virat had put on their paper that she shouldn’t have any expectations from him to act as a husband. This is exactly when she said that he also can’t have any expectations from her to act as a wife.

I am not saying Virat’s expectations from her is wrong but anyone thinking that she is not thinking about it doesn’t make sense to me because the idea was put in her by Virat himself. He was the who made her believe that he has decided to remain single throughout his life and has promised someone else. This marriage was a samjhautha for him and till now, she used to think he regrets marrying her. It has changed now and she has been let know of it but it is not going to be that easy for her to believe all this. Everything has to take its own time.

Sai has never rejected his advances, but there was always a doubt, an uncertainty about their relationship that she never set her free from all the conditions that he had put. Since he had put them, it was easier for him to break free from it. Anyway, as I have said, she has not rejected his advances earlier. This time she had set herself free from all the burden when they became friends. In this relationship they share, she felt easy to talk to him, could call him something confidently which she couldn’t when they were husband and wife. He had taken away the wifely rights from her since he said it wasn’t a real marriage but in friendship, she felt so liberated and could act like a friend without any inhibition. She had rights on him as a friend, there was no pabandhi. She was getting to see a different and better side of him. Kaku’s words burdened her and freaked her out since she is worried to lose whatever comfort they are sharing now. She is worried how he will be once he becomes her husband and once they share husband and wife relationship. She doesn’t have confidence in him especially after whatever happened before she left the house.

Had none of those things happened, even if he had made some move, she might have just gone with the flow.

I don’t agree that physical relationship is the deciding factor whether they will stay together married or not. Sai is just living with him as per the original arrangement. Was it a factor to stay together married or not, when they got married? Then why now? Because Virat has developed feelings for her? That seems wrong to me. She can stay with him thinking that he had anyway brought her to this house without having any such expectation and that was the understanding between them when they got married. She need not be thinking about it at all.

It can happen naturally, but even if it doesn’t happen, she can stay till the time she wants or until Virat asks her to leave without sharing any relationship with him at all as per the original plan or proposal of Virat. Just my views.

Yes, Virat was hurt with his intentions being questioned but he also wasn’t happy that she wasn’t considering him to be a prospective partner for her at all. He was a little okay during janmashtami celebration too but after he heard that she got his transfer cancelled for his family sake, he got even more mad. He didn’t like that she didn’t think about him or doesn’t want him at all. He didn’t like the feeling of not getting liked/wanted by her. That pushed him to gang up with Pakhi, that pushed him to humiliate her.

@bold

precisely what others expect out of her is irrelevant. VIrat is definitely not forcing her to be anything other than what she is comfortable with. atleast now. He is ready to free her.

@Red

This is absolutely important and thats why Ashwini pissed me off yesterday.

@blue

yes especially now when she has time to rethink what she wants, she should be left alone. I agree.

@pink

this I dont agree. neither the society nor family will agree. Yes Virat made this deal so he should protect her if she was questioned about her stay, even if she is not willing to stay in the marriage. But this deal always has expiry. after 5 years, still the decision to continue in marriage depends on whether they will have physical relationship. It has to be the deciding point at some point of time. Otherwise, they will fight it out. Just the dyanmics will not let them be. i meant to say it is impractical.

@green

I think virat will wait if she considers it. But how long depends on his mental state. If Sai leaves him, it appears that he will be a celibate. So logically he should wait for her...but is it humanly possible without flipping in the middle. Thats where his karma bites. He does not have easy way out due to the commitment he made. But he will try his best.

@bold again

Yes I did believe he put his hurt over Sai in that period. If only he had all these words that he has now, the terrible accident would have been avoided. He learnt his lesson the hard way.

Hi Lakshmi,

Thnx for such a detailed explanation abt ur understanding of Sais feelings. I hv just one thing to ask. I understand that Virat and Sai started with a deal. But from Ajinkya episode onwards Virats intentions towards Sai have been crystal clear. And again several times during and post holi the physical intimacy has always been initiated by Virat. So Sai as a woman shud hv got it by now what Virats intentions were. So when she chose to return to Virat after Ajinkya episode she shud hv done it acknowledging the fact that she wud hv to be Virats wife some day in the real sense. Again anniversary it was crystal clear what Virat had in mind. Agreed Ashwini said they will stay alag alag kuch dino ke liye... With no timeline of course.but there is bound tobe family pressure right. Its common sense. That's what I saying what did Sai think? That she cud stay like a daughter. That's impossible. If she didn't want it she shud again hv not agreed to come back or shud hv come back only for a few days till UM cud come and look after her. Ashwini said something might happen to Virat if she moves away. And wud be for life right?! So wud Sai hv wanted to live eternally with Virat like this. Its makes no sense to me. When there is no child involved it is always best to end a relationship at the earliest before complicating things further. This is too much dragging and too much indecisiveness from Sais side. As audience ita boring. I am not saying that Sai shud agree to whatever Virat or family says. What I want to sat is she shud walk out and the cvs can show a leap or with the same status qui they shud show a leap. Seeing the same jaap again and again is too boring for me!!!