Yeh meri pehli shadi hai - Page 9

Originally posted by: inlieu

He understood that indeed, in just a small timeframe, just as well as he understood how they don't live up to her image of a great loving family at all. He saw them for what they are instantly, which is why seeing her love and care for them made him feel it was a hopeless situation, that she was best moving on from that undeserving lot. Heck even he couldn't accept the fact that they'd throw her out of the house based on his lies and that it was purely a one-sided 'relationship'.

He had sensed out the family's mistrust way before, though, or he wouldn't have chosen to do that tamasha for revenge. He did it bcz he expected them to believe him and not her. No normal family would hear that kind of crap about their daughter from a stranger and believe it — no matter how many "proofs" were presented. He had known beforehand that Pallu's footing wasn't strong enough in that family (probably from the time VD had come to visit him), even though she basically lived her life for them. He knew they would act out against her, he expected it. Yet to see it actually happen, to witness firsthand the kind of nothingness they feel for her — that's getting to him. Especially now that he actually cares about her and is seeing things from her side.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Completely agree. It's all fine for Ayi to tell her she should have confided in her, but something deep down has always made Pallavi hold back from sharing her problems, not just in this incident but overall. And it's not because she wants to protect them from harsh truths, rather, subconsciously she doesn't quite feel she can go to them with her problems.

With Raghav, even before marrying him, when she didn't know him that well, she would often go to him for help and she'd know he'd oblige.

This is a very good point. I've always admired the kind of ease and comfort she feels around Raghav — it's like she lets go of the shackles that bind her in front of the Deshmukhs. With him, she's free to be herself. She says whatever she wants, however she wants, without being burdened by anything.

Raat ko workspace chahiye — Raghav se help le lo. Araam se chai coffee mangwa lo, sui dhaaga dhoond lo. Who has that kind of camaraderie with their enemy? 😆 Heck, even when he handed them the freaking eviction notice, she knew he wouldn't do anything. She had such a weird understanding with him! ❤️ It's also why she actually ended up believing the fake agreement 😔 To any normal rival, the idea would sound so ridiculous, no matter how genuine they made it sound. But these two weren't really rivals, were they? 🙃 And both of them knew it, which is why Raghav planned it and Pallu fell for it

Even when he humiliated her, her main emotion wasn't anger, more than that it was disappointment and frustration 😪 She just wanted to know why he'd done what he did 😔

Very unconventional couple. Kuch na hoke bhi something was always there between them, something warm and special.

Originally posted by: Bee222

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He had sensed out the family's mistrust way before, though, or he wouldn't have chosen to do that tamasha for revenge. He did it bcz he expected them to believe him and not her. No normal family would hear that kind of crap about their daughter from a stranger and believe it — no matter how many "proofs" were presented. He had known beforehand that Pallu's footing wasn't strong enough in that family (probably from the time VD had come to visit him), even though she basically lived her life for them. He knew they would act out against her, he expected it. Yet to see it actually happen, to witness firsthand the kind of nothingness they feel for her — that's getting to him. Especially now that he actually cares about her and is seeing things from her side.

Yes, he read Rambo perfectly when he came over to his house, seeing him reconfirm what Pallavi had already told him. Jeez. I don't think he expected her to be kicked out of the house, that too in the middle of the night, but yes, his entire game plan was based on the fact that he realized they didn't trust her. He'd also seen the fractures during the abortion fiasco where he realized she was being blamed for it too. This final interaction cemented it.

At least with Jaya and Keerti, they have emotions for him, it's not nothingness as you mentioned. Raghav has that consolation. Pallavi? Nope, nothing from the Ds. Hopefully he will reach out to Siddhesh because that's his real sasural and he'll have a different experience as a damaad there.

Originally posted by: Bee222

This is a very good point. I've always admired the kind of ease and comfort she feels around Raghav — it's like she lets go of the shackles that bind her in front of the Deshmukhs. With him, she's free to be herself. She says whatever she wants, however she wants, without being burdened by anything.

Raat ko workspace chahiye — Raghav se help le lo. Araam se chai coffee mangwa lo, sui dhaaga dhoond lo. Who has that kind of camaraderie with their enemy? 😆 Heck, even when he handed them the freaking eviction notice, she knew he wouldn't do anything. She had such a weird understanding with him! ❤️ It's also why she actually ended up believing the fake agreement 😔 To any normal rival, the idea would sound so ridiculous, no matter how genuine they made it sound. But these two weren't really rivals, were they? 🙃 And both of them knew it, which is why Raghav planned it and Pallu fell for it

Even when he humiliated her, her main emotion wasn't anger, more than that it was disappointment and frustration 😪 She just wanted to know why he'd done what he did 😔

Very unconventional couple. Kuch na hoke bhi something was always there between them, something warm and special.

@bold.. this... it's why we're still here and the entire fandom is rooting for them. Very refreshing to see this. ❤️

Can't wait for Pallavi to realize he's the one to help her find her freedom one day.

Originally posted by: MistyDawn

Yup loved how he said "wo meri biwi hai" to his alter ego. This shadi is no more a deal for him..I dont think it ever was..he is not that kinda guy who would have flings or non serious relationships...the lil changes im seeing in him..how he now always knocks before he enters her room..is so much more receptive as opposed to being imposing, is a welcome change...He is even ready to take her hurtful comments about not being the reason for his family being with him..that must've hurt because we know how touchy he is when it comes to his family.. but he took it on the chin..Its time for him to make big amends really.. and so far he has not disappointed..

I loved how easily he said it, without even having to think about it. She's my wife now, a part of my circle — I will of course be taking a stand for her. The words flowed out so naturally.

I do think he was viewing this marriage as a lifetime commitment right from the beginning, which was why he tried coaxing her into it initially, so that she would willingly enter the relationship. It was also why he begged his amma not to force him into it — because he knew exactly what she was asking him to do. He definitely values the sanctity of marriage. Even without the mu getting solved and even without amma's pestering, I do think he would've ensured Pallavi as his wife did not suffer in any way. He would've kept her comfortable, maybe with as less interaction as he could possibly manage... just like he had promised. Now the difference is that he actively wants to help her out, make her life better and happier. Not just bcz of the guilt, but bcz he has started caring about her so much more. But he would've never shirked away from taking responsibility as a husband.

Originally posted by: Bee222

I loved how easily he said it, without even having to think about it. She's my wife now, a part of my circle — I will of course be taking a stand for her. The words flowed out so naturally.

I do think he was viewing this marriage as a lifetime commitment right from the beginning, which was why he tried coaxing her into it initially, so that she would willingly enter the relationship. It was also why he begged his amma not to force him into it — because he knew exactly what she was asking him to do. He definitely values the sanctity of marriage. Even without the mu getting solved and even without amma's pestering, I do think he would've ensured Pallavi as his wife did not suffer in any way. He would've kept her comfortable, maybe with as less interaction as he could possibly manage... just like he had promised. Now the difference is that he actively wants to help her out, make her life better and happier. Not just bcz of the guilt, but bcz he has started caring about her so much more. But he would've never shirked away from taking responsibility as a husband.

I had said exactly this in a couple of other posts. He respects marriage, no matter what the circumstances and he would always take his responsibilities as a husband seriously, romance or love or not. They are two separate things that he can compartmentalize and still offer her in the marriage. That's why he gave her the incentives when he 'proposed' to her: you will have a comfortable life, I'll make sure you get stores in the mall, I will stay out of your way, etc. She would have received all the social and legal rights of a wife, even if he couldn't promise her care, affection, and love. The latter is going to happen, we know it, but he didn't at that point and still doesn't. Right now he's operating from a point of extreme guilt and in a bid to ensure his egoistic brain doesn't take over his ability to think rationally, he's going to have to exert a lot of self control and really pay attention to her, outside of all the madness surrounding them. Only, then will he know who Pallavi really is as a person. That journey has started, but he has a long way to go. When he sees the real her, the positive aspects of her personality will be numerous and more than enough for him to fall for her nature. We've always said he is more interested in her seerat vs. soorat, and this is the starting of that journey. He confirmed to Farhad today that he had known somewhere that she was a good person, and he is going to listen to that part of his brain more actively from now on.

Originally posted by: Viewpoint

For a change, I would like him to initiate this conversation about her wanting to move on in life. It will be so mature of him to do so. He may fall in love with her but for her sake, he can initiate this talk so that she has a choice, regardless of his broken heart. Love raises people to greatness. If Raghav does this, he will be one of my fav characters ever. Most ML never speak about their wrongdoings and just hope that the FL falls in love so that he does not have to take the long route. Till then he just sits in fear and insecurities. I find this to be utterly lazy writing.

I know for TV, to separate leads is difficult due to TRP monster always ready to eat up the creative flow, but depending on how they structure it, it will be highly mature of him to do this and it will also be the right thing to do. Even if they do not separate, just the fact that he raises this topic for her ....I'll be clapping 👏

As much as I would love her to have the choice, I also see RR as the kind of ML who would do anything to keep her by his side once he falls for her. I think we'll get both ways. He'll try everything to keep her in this marriage, but at one point he'll realise he's done all he can and give up, leaving the decision in her hands. At that point, she might have realised her love already and choose to stay on. OR she might choose to walk away, bcz she'll see no reason to stay, and we'll get a separation track where she realises her feelings for him. Maybe that is also the time we'll get the Mandaar track, accentuating both their feelings for each other.

Either way, when Pallavi decides to stay on with Raghav, it'll definitely be bcz she chooses to do so.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Yes, I do foresee him going through periods of frustration when his attempts fail and she keeps trying to put up walls. He will have to get creative to disarm her, and we know he's capable of quirky ideas. Bring it on, RR!

Regarding her devotion to the Deshmukhs and him respecting her for it, well we all predicted this would happen, so far it's good. I just didn't think it would be shown so soon after the wedding, but fine. He now has to build a roadmap of where he wants to go with this, as hinted by his alter ego. It won't be a surgical strike like last time, he'll have to adapt and course correct as he gets to know her better.

It will be special indeed because if Amma and Keerti's current behavior is any indication, he will have them physically in his home but there will be this emotional distance between them. Not for a long while, I think. Later on, only Pallavi can fill the void and the way he's fought to keep Amma and Keerti with him, he'll do whatever it takes to make things better between his wife and him. He started off this marriage on the backfoot and he knows he'll have to work extra hard. Reminds me of the situation with Mr. Bajaj of KZK S1, who was always afraid he could lose Prerna/she could walk out any moment because she was forced to marrying him. There was nothing keeping her there or holding her back. Raghav will feel insecure about this with or without Mandaar in the picture. The day she regains her self-confidence and figures out what she wants to do in life, she can just walk out and be independent. She won't need him and this will make him worried. On what basis will he ask her to stay back and build a life with him? After his current guilt trip, he will probably get to a point later on where he will not stop her, even if he knows that Pallavi leaving might mean Amma and Keerti leaving again, and him being thrown back into that loneliness he had tried so hard to overcome.

Sigh... I'm loving this...

Ah, ah, Mr Bajaj of KZK1! Yes, please! I want to see Raghav feel those pangs of insecurity 😈

Originally posted by: OceanicHeart.

Last episode ! 😲

I'll die if I have to wait for so long 🤣🤣

Dekho dekho, kitni bechain pareshaan ho rahi hai humari public 😆🤣

Originally posted by: inlieu

Don't worry, the depict romance just by breathing on screen. CVs will keep giving us crumbs along the way. 😆

Why do I suddenly feel like we're chickens being led to a trap? 🤪🤣