Let's be real - Page 5

Originally posted by: MyThoughts

@ Bold In my view, I never felt Virat was in moral dilemma. He was very clear (i.e. he will remain celebate all his life, will preserve Pakhi's love in his heart and that love will be expressed outwardly as deep friendship with no romantic color to it. Pakhi will marry Samrat (in true sense), move on in life with his Jiva and will have a happy life. Period). In the given situation the Vadaa did come across as ambiguous but from that moment, it was an end to any possibility of romantic relationship between the two from Virat's end and he imagined it meant the same for Pakhi(which was not the case (he still does not know it)).Rather, his morality is such that it did not even cross his mind that his Vadaa is construed as license for an EMA.

I know many stories where people end up marrying someone (family, self-cicumstances) even though they have not moved on (/do not want to). If they are true to their future spouse about their status and future intention (e.g. I will need time to overcome my past), it is upto the future spouse to make a decision (as in case of Sai).Transparancy is the crux here (from my POV). I know stories where person who feels confidant of getting the partner out of the past have married them. I would not have had issues marrying someone like Virat who opened all his cards before marriage.

@bold, but that is not the case for Virat. He clearly stated that he can not move on and will not fulfill any rights as a husband.

Originally posted by: lobster_9521

it's around 55%

Oh no.. so surprise.. half of population cheats

Great discussion here. Personally, no I wouldn't marry someone like virat knowing about his unresolved emotional baggage. But even otherwise, I find some traits in him that I absolutely can't tolerate. Like his cant-even-boil-water, expecting to be waited on, silence on observing his mom being abused etc, and I find that to be a big issue. I wouldn't be able to tolerate such people for long. So why bother in the first place. 😂

Originally posted by: Roroo

Oh no.. so surprise.. half of population cheats

but the thing is people aren't vocal enough to voice out the things.... they just make themselves and their families life's hell

just like Virat chavan, if he could just take a stand and informed his mother about pakhi she would have helped him but nahi main mature hun... even pakhi thought shaadi nahi toh EMA sahi...

No

There's nothing good about him

But he has enablers in women around him be it his mother, Sai or Pakhi

My answer would be No

On the other hand, i don't think anybody would make such a idiotic promise and stick to it! Making a promise is easy but sticking to it is much difficult, creating unwanted complications in life!

Originally posted by: by_stander

@bold, but that is not the case for Virat. He clearly stated that he can not move on and will not fulfill any rights as a husband.

First and foremost my heart is all for Sai, the pure soul she is...❤️❤️

@ Bold With that clarity from one end, the decision does lie in the future spouse's (Sai's) court. Sai, the real mature one here, took an informed decision considering her circumstances. I felt Sai had objection for marriage itself but she did not feel a big deal (she did feel a small deal though) about this deal wali shadi as it promised her, her dream (to become a doctor) which was only thing on her mind at that moment.

For realities sake:If the person knows that heart/feelings change (like here: everyone except Pakhi knew that what is being said/promised by Virat was being said in moment of emotional vulnerability and not an eternal truth) and that s/he feels confidant of the bringing that change, one can go ahead.Informed decisions are way better than being cheated.

*Rather one should never marry a person like Pakhi who was outright dishonest with her future spouse which many people are.

Originally posted by: by_stander

@bold, but that is not the case for Virat. He clearly stated that he can not move on and will not fulfill any rights as a husband.

That's why - my answer is NO.

He is NOT willing to move on - he gave pakhi a promise any one would not give to own brothers wife.... highly immoral.

I can marry a person with past -if he is willing to move on... not immoral....