Originally posted by: sanashau
Tere bina review:
Again, it was a wonderful episode full of emotions and outstanding acting by the entire team. There were many impactful scenes and umair and pakeeza have an amazing chemistry. This is the second show of neelum Muneer I have seen (the other was qaide tanhai) so I didn't have any expectations but she is fabulous! Her portrayal of a girl in love, her regrets, her heart rending breakdown is real and Her conversations with sami are heartfelt.
Sami is phenomenal as umair displaying the emotions of a man who is torn between his love, wives, parents. He is playing, sorry to say, a spineless character but sami makes us empathize with umair. That is an accomplishment in itself!
I still need to warm up to zubayr though. Bushra is good too. Everyone is good in their respective roles.
It was heartwarming to see a kind of friendly conversation between bushra and pakeeza instead of a spiteful conversations we usually see between two women competing for one man. Why can't two women be married to one man and be happy? Why is there always jealousy between them? Why can't they act like sisters? Maybe I have never been in the situation so I can't comprehend? I wonder if both bushra and pakeeza find out the truth, would they accept each other or ask to divorce one?
I feel like we can learn a few life lessons from this show:
Lessons that can be derived:
1. For the parents out there: Please listen to your children. Be a friend. It's essential to be strict at certain times, but it's just as essential to be a friend to them when needed. Choose your battles wisely when it comes to your children. If pakeeza's parents had gotten them married, she wouldn't have run away, got nikah without a wali and get into the situation she is now. Yes, she is now married but running away with a non mahram is haram even if the intention is to get married. Sheikh Omar Sulaiman once said in a lecture: "to all the parents out there, do not make halal difficult that haram seems easy." Like it was in this situation. This statement has profound meaning and can be used in multiple situations of life; especially when it comes to raising our children.
2. The second lesson we can extract is that one shouldn't disobey our parents (unless they force us to do haram); because disobeying our parents, will not give us happiness in life. There is a reason why parents' respect and approval is given importance in Islam.
3. Allah has a plan; for all of us. He finds means for us to to get to that destination. It is all qadr Allah. Pakeeza's marriage to umair, her elopement, and then staying at his house was maybe a way for her to meet Zubair? Her final destination in life? If that's what the writer is trying to show; that is. In every situation of life, we just have to trust Allah. Yes, it was a wrong decision to run away from home; but that wrong decision was Allah's will too. (Not saying we should do wrong and say it was Qadr Allah; and it gets complicated if we start thinking about these things because like Prophet SAW said in a hadeeth that don't think about Allah' qadr because it's ilm ul ghaib and you won't understand it). I went in a tangent again! Anyways, back to what I'm saying is that Sabr, shukr and Tawakul Allah is what pakeeza needs to do now that she is in this dreadful situation. These are the three qualities of a mo'min and imo the best qualities a Muslim can have.
4. Umair's marrying bushra and pakeeza at the same time IS allowed in Islam. Yes, a person's heart maybe drawn more towards one wife, but his actions shouldn't show that. The writer has done what I have never seen in a Pakistani drama: show a husband being nice to his "other" wife who he doesn't love (yet) and giving her her basic rights as a wife. But Umair still has ways to go. But atleast we are headed in the right direction when it comes to umair and bushra. His crime is not in getting married to bushra, but his crime is not being just to pakeeza and not giving her the status she rightfully deserves as his wife.
5. Umair is not a bad person; he is in a difficult situation and doesn't know how to approach it. His intentions are pure. He is selfish when it comes to love though. Maybe in this situation asking advice from an elderly/experienced friend/ relative or a religious scholar might be helpful. (Can we show that in future Pakistani dramas?) again, we see that umair is scared of his parents. I know I keep reiterating this, but it is very important for parents to listen to their children, help them in making decisions of life and to be just a friend to them. Raise them in a way that they come to you first if they are ever in a difficult situation in life. Again don't make halal difficult that haram seems easy. Giving pakeeza her rights as a wife/ daughter in law is the right (halal) thing to do and being unjust to her (what umair is doing) is obviously wrong (haram). If only he could confide in one of his parents, he may have not even been married to bushra in the first place.
This is it for now.
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