Originally posted by: Apsvenky
Anger is a funny thing - when we get angry, our loved ones always bear the brunt of it. In this case while I completely understand Abhira's POV, I feel for Armaan's frustration even more. When a girl gets married, it's the boy's responsibility to make sure that she gets along and is respected in her sasural. Coz all those relationships are tied through him. W/O him those relationships have no inherent meaning. What tone he sets to his relationship with his wife and his wife's relationship with his family is how they're going to treat her going forward.
Armaan has grown leaps and bounds from how he was during the deal shaadi. Then Ab was just a responsibility, hence for him his family mattered more because in his head, she would leave within the year and he would have to stay with the family forever. That reflected in how Abhira was treated by the family, where she was never really given any kind of priority by anyone. Sab usse punching bag ki tarah treat karte the, coz Armaan allowed for it, coz he was not invested in the relationship.
Now the dynamics have completely changed. For Armaan, he has realised no one - literally no one apart from Abhira cares for him and his emotional stability. Baaki family may love him, but he is never their priority. Koi bhi Dadisa ke khilaaf uske liye kabhi nahi khada hoga and he understands that very well. That is reason why Armaan has decided to latch in to the one relationship that he knows will be there no matter what. Abhira for him truly represents everything - his love, his home, his life, his everything. For him walking away from family is possible because he knows she will be there with him - either physically, or even her love for him is enough. He has crossed that point where for him she is the only one that matters - his family now (including Rohit & Dadisa) have become as disposable as he was always to them.
So while Abhira's fears are not unfounded, she has viewed only 1 year of what was 29+ years of torture this person has dealt with all his life. And I can tell you one thing - aise insaan ka jab baan toot tha hai - then nothing, I mean nothing can change his decision. While tomorrow out of anger he may lash out at Abhira, but even she has to understand that she will do the same with him as well. But the only difference would be that in her case she genuinely doesn't have a physical family apart from Armaan, while he emotionally doesn't want a family apart from Abhira.
Armaan sa's glow up from telling Abhira to suck it up and tolerate insults from his family for a few more days during the deal marriage revelation to essentially moving out and getting a new home so that she does not have to stay at a place where she is insulted is insane.
Armaan and Abhira have often spoke about how Abhira is treated in the house, which obviously is an important thing to address. However, it is also important that they talk about how armaan himself is treated at that house.
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