My maid wants relationship advice from MAA - Page 6

Fair enough

Originally posted by: Blueeeee

Bruh, I just said that it is not okay to mock anybody's social markers. You brought in theories about self-love to justify elitist comments. Self-love is a theory by Audre Lorde and she'd turning in her grave if she sees this thread about how women's looks and sweaters can be mocked just because they are annoying or lack self-love.

In thia thread and forum, I have called Upmaa an abuser and enabler many times (See, how I managed to insult her many times without bringing uo her sari, sweaters, looks, job? Not that hard, shocking, I know.) I must be a very bad propagandist

Anuj is the biggest victim on this forum despite being a privileged rich dude who creepily stalked a married woman, who didn't know his existence, for 26 years. Then got obsessed with his foster child to the point that he abandoned the same woman to go hassle the bio mom of the same child in another city (any parent apart from Maya would have called the cops on him), and now has catfished another woman. He is a grade-A creep fictional or not; so even I am out of this forum's Anuj propaganda and anti-sweater propaganda. Is forum being sponspered by BIG-JACKET? Genuine question.

Whiile you are at exposing how bad a propagandist I am, please call out the OP for using a real woman's love life as a literary prop to make fun of the annoying, abuser Anupamaa lol.

Yes I talked about self love to self elevate and not have bechari mindset, but not to justify elitist behavior. Parr aapko jo samjhnaa hai woh samjho.

Behenji, aapko toh jairamji ki. Hummey apney khaethh sambhalney hai. Duss ganttey internet par baithh kaar maathaa nahi dukhwana. Aap apney upmaa boss key payroll parr propogand sambhaliye.

Aur nahi jaannaa ki Rihanna, Audrey Hepburn, oscar key rishteydaar, yaa aur koi umrikaan anupamaa ki kitni chintaa karr rahey hai.

Lagta hai ye kahaani yahi khatam ho jati hai.

Thank you to the actors who improvised their scenes perfectly in order to create such natural conflict that didn’t require a script.

It was really nice viewing the story on how a maid wants relationship advice to the war of a maids details being shared online. Truly inspiring

Originally posted by: hoshiyaar

Yes I talked about self love to self elevate and not have bechari mindset, but not to justify elitist behavior. Parr aapko jo samjhnaa hai woh samjho.

Behenji, aapko toh jairamji ki. Hummey apney khaethh sambhalney hai. Duss ganttey internet par baithh kaar maathaa nahi dukhwana. Aap apney upmaa boss key payroll parr propogand sambhaliye.

Aur nahi jaannaa ki Rihanna, Audrey Hepburn, oscar key rishteydaar, yaa aur koi umrikaan anupamaa ki kitni chintaa karr rahey hai.

Yeah tell someone who is a victim of abuse to not have bechari mindset. Like what does stop abused women from going to a salon and get a makeover while Saiyyan ji se maine breakup kar lia plays in the background? Voila! All denied socioeconomic opportunities cease having an effect on life; trauma gone; internalised misogyny gone, instant self-love produced — ready to be perfect socialite wives of rich creeps like Anuj

Therapy or rehabilatiobn toh intellectual jumle hain. Abused auraton ko Maybelline ke vouchers aur English speaking courses lene chahiye. Maybelline is too down market for bhest mahn Anooj waise, unhe Dior ke vouchers lene chahiye to be eligible for him.

Devi ji hum jaise gareeb logon ko OP ke gharme kaam karne wali mahila se zyada hamdardi hai. Humne apne khet jote hain aur ghar par tane sunkar vishwavidyalaya ki talim payi hai. Humare paas bhi time nahi hai kisi ik-tarfa ashiq ameerzade Anooj ka propaganda padhne ke liye internet par.

Chahein toh hum yeh devnagri me bhi likh de. Par hume humare sweaters boonke Angrezi uccharan ka abhyas karne jaana hai. Hum apne ooni sweater se bahut self-lovh karte hain.

Alvida, namaskar, sabbakhair.

I think aap enjoy karengi this newfound way to be an empowered woman

🤔

**long post alert**

Axiom:

Every situation has a victim and None can be branded an eternal victim notwithstanding the circumstances and their role in the circumstance.

Situation 1: Anupama was a teen bride married at 19, stayed In an abusive relation for 26 years.

Here the victim is Anupama, undoubtedly.

Situation 2: Anupama finds out about Vanraj's affair and is unable to handle the situation.

Here again, no doubt, the victim us Anupama.

Situation 3: Her mother and brother(for those who may not remember), Kanta and Bhavesh, encourages her to break the marriage and the betrayal and return to her (real) Mayka. Anupama repeatedly denies this.

Who us the victim?

Situation 4: During and post her treatment and recovery, Anupama's family (Joshis) insist on taking her citing the situation with Kavya-Vanraj being married Md the toxic nature of Shah House but are welcome with taunts from Leela with No defense from Anupama and firm rejection from her to return.

Here Kanta and Bhavesh are victims of verbal abuse in defending their kin.

Situation 5: Encouraged by Hansmukh, Anupama (after hestation) makes a very public proposal to Anuj for marriage. Kanta and Kapadias want the marriage to get done at a neutral venue but Hansmukh and under his influence, Anupama, despite despise from Leela, insist on being done from Shah House. Kanta warns her off her gature and to prioritise her new life and NOT look back at Shahs. She faces taunts etc. at Shah House with No defense ftom Anupama.

Here again, Kanta is the victim.

So, until now Anupama, who was a victim had the opportunities to break free from toxicity but CHOSE to stay away from resolution, help and healing.

She is no longer the victim of the circumstances, she Made the Choices.

..... continued.

Situation 6: Anupama's new family, now with a child, tries to protect her from the abusers and requests to maintain a healthy distance either the rest of the Shah family to breathe freely and heal. Kanta advises her against her obsession with Shahs which goes on deaf ears. Anupama continues to serve Shahs under (in Kanta and Anuj's and Anupama's own words) one pretext or the other. She faces abuse from Leela, Vanraj, her adult, married, "kids". She is given charge of Kapadia Empire, gets an opportunist to complete her studies through a Finance Literacy Course

Again, Anupama CHOSE to ignore advise, help to go back to her abusers each time.

Situation 7: After Maaya's arrival, Kanta and once even Leela is shown advising against keeping Maaya in Kapadia House without proper proof of parentage. Again goeson deaf ears. She goes a step further in proving the claim and betting the future of a child, she adopted,like a pawn. She hides the truth of Choti Anu's departure from the family. She is advised to stand by her husband in the broken state by Kapadias but calls him "mad" for crying over their daughter who was lost to them forever. She insists on them celebrating Holi with Shahs in a vulnerable state as this.

Who is the victim her? Certainly NOT Anupama.

Situation 8: A hearbroken Anuj leaves aimlessly in search of his daughter making her and Ankush PoA. Hurt by this, she leaves to stay with Kanta. (Again she doesn't tell the truth of their Rocky life after Choti Anu's departure. Be that as it may.) But keeps falling back to her abusers despite warnings and advise from Kanta who also advises her to call and enquire about her husband's whereabouts and well being which she conveniently ignores.

Again, out of Choice.

Situation 9: Kanta gives her a place and encourages her to re-start a new Dance Academy along with her thriving Tiffin Service. She takes NO interest on the business or matters of Kapadia Empire or Mansion knowing well the malicious intentions of the next of Kapadia kin.

She stops the Academy mid way to pursue Dance at Gurukul.

She takes in Bhairavi and parades her to Shah where she is abusedonly to be met with a mild advisory to Leela which is conveniently ignored.

Who are the victims here? Kanta, Bhairavi and the students at the Academy, Kapadia Empire.

Situation 10: Samar and Dimple wish to marry. Dimple is loud mouthed and insists on giving back as good as she gets but Anupama warns her off stating Never to go against Leela since she is elder (not ALL elders just Leela).

Here the Victim Was Dimple.

Situation: 11: She is encountered with Anuj after month of being away only be seen with a mentally ill Maaya. ALL this through The wedding preparations of Samar and Dimple's.

Here Anupama was the victim. Although she was also wrong in doing the rituals with her ex-husband.

Situation: 12: Maaya loses her life in saving Anupama. Their adopted child is going through hell woth the setback. Anupama chooses her Udaan only to give it up since being awakened last minute by her conscience and guilty promise to take care of their adopted daughter.

This becomes but a reason since she goes back to serve Shahs.

NO Victim here, no sacrifices. It was again, her Choice.

Becoming a victim is not in one's control but what we do to come out of it, is a choice.

Did Anupama Not have a Choice to move away from the toxicity? She had plenty of opportunities.

Did she Not have the means or the people to help her out of the situation? Anupama had an Army of Champions who stood by her. She just never valued them and never wanted to come out of the situation. She had the means, more so, post being married to Anuj in terms of access and a broader world view that did Not treat it as a stigma.

Was it the timing? Well, she had to take the first step and before that, she has to recognise the problem which she never did, then where does the problem of rushing come? Secondly, after a public proposal, had Anuj postponed the marriage with the reason of giving her time to heal, would anyone have bought into it? Everyone, including Anupama would have doubted his intentions (thus is not shown so cannot really tell).

She is no longer a victim under these conditions.

Originally posted by: hoshiyaar

Yes I talked about self love to self elevate and not have bechari mindset, but not to justify elitist behavior. Parr aapko jo samjhnaa hai woh samjho.

Behenji, aapko toh jairamji ki. Hummey apney khaethh sambhalney hai. Duss ganttey internet par baithh kaar maathaa nahi dukhwana. Aap apney upmaa boss key payroll parr propogand sambhaliye.

Aur nahi jaannaa ki Rihanna, Audrey Hepburn, oscar key rishteydaar, yaa aur koi umrikaan anupamaa ki kitni chintaa karr rahey hai.

Woah! Nice summary of Anupama's life. I wonder how the writers would react if they read the summary of 1000+ episodes.

Finally - the clear victim here is the viewers who were taken for a ride who were given the false hope of "unique" women empowerment story.