I feel bad for Anuj today - Page 3

Originally posted by: Snowdrrop

She didn’t had good relationship with her ex-in- laws. So did your father and uncles left home with her. If yes than there were not two house where she had to run to take care like Anupama.

If here Anupama’s kids left house to be with their mom than Anupama have more responsibility but they choose to live with Vanraj and his second wife. So Anupama don’t have full responsibility for them. Your grandma leaving kids behind would be more like Anupama left Adhya not her bio kids because Anupama’s bio kids were all adult and one is them was married at that time.

Initially her in-laws didn't allow to send dad and the second uncle with her. So they stayed back at the family house(Tharavadu).But in due course they moved out and started staying with her and step father. What I want to inform u is that even in all these adversities this couple couple stayed together and managed all the challenges that came in their way.

All stories wouldn't be same. But if u see, this couple also had their share of challenges and complexities which they handled it well and made their marriage successful. She didn't have to visit her ex-in laws frequently but used to meet them occasionally in functions or events as they were distant relatives.

There is lots of difference between Anupama and your grandma.Your grandma didn’t carry unnecessary matkas with her like her ex in laws.

Anupama also can maintain healthy boundary with her in laws and meets only her kids and live a happy life. Anupama can’t have all expectations from Anuj she also had to took some responsibility in their marriage.

I don’t think your grandma took her second husband or her daughter for granted like Anupama did.

There is lots of second marriage with kids involved but no one ignores second husband for them. They made balance between them.

Anupama’s second marriage end up like this because she was unable to make healthy boundaries. She was too much involved in her ex husband and ex in laws matter. She never done anything so her second marriage could work.

In maaya track if Anupama didn’t made the 15 days bet with maaya and go with court way then there would be no problem. Even if she stayed with Anuj in his pain instead of celebrating Holi with shahs and talk to him give him time then also anuj would have not left.

In accident time also she choose to walk out it was also not Anuj fault that she was not ready to work on their relationship. She had all expectations from Anuj. This way a marriage will not work even if this was first marriage for both of them. For a successful marriage both party have to work on it. Both parties have to make each other their first priority.

Originally posted by: Paru...

Initially her in-laws didn't allow to send dad and the second uncle with her. So they stayed back at the family house(Tharavadu).But in due course they moved out and started staying with her and step father. What I want to inform u is that even in all these adversities this couple couple stayed together and managed all the challenges that came in their way.

I agree with you, one does not have to sacrifice one’s role as mother and daughter in law to form another successful relationship.

First I want to know what is meant by healthy boundaries

Do we want to say anupama should have just have formal relationship with her biological children just because she is married to anuj ? How is it possible to have just have formal relationship .

As far I watch the serial in this serial anupama basically visit shsh when there is problem and issue related to children like adhik and pakhi marriage then kinjal toshu marriage problem. Pari kidnapping and then samar wedding then samar death then pakhi kidnapping amd domestic violence with pakhi these problems are not small so how can possible for anupama to have such only formal relationship with such problem

And anupama is not outsider for pakhi toshu and samar ki koi bhi problem ho anupama bus formalities bus poori ke aajayegi and anuj should have understood this

Incorrect post for the topic.

Healthy boundaries is when you don’t poke your nose in your ex husband and her current wife matters.

Healthy boundaries is when you not bother about your ex in laws food preferences. It is your ex husband and his current wife duty not yours.

Healthy boundaries is when you not decides how to divide your ex in laws house. It is not come under your decision.

Healthy boundaries is when you goes there you took over the cooking in their house.

Healthy boundaries is when you not goes there every single day even when you left your house for going to work.

Healthy boundaries is when you not allow your ex in laws to insult your current husband and in laws at every given chance.

Healing boundaries is when you are not obsessed that your ex in laws house can’t run without you.

Anupama has shown just concern for child who is anirudh child that for time time being other wise anupama did not do any dharna for maahi and kavya

Originally posted by: Bodhianveshika

I hope someone shows him the mirror and makes him realise of what he lost in his intense love for Anupama.

A sister he could have cherished for life, a father figure who raised him, Bhai and Maa samaan Bhabhi, an adorable child and a girl who could complete his family and love him back just as much.

The realisation has started and if anything, it's the right way to phase them out, although with Adhik-Pakhi, it seems unlikely. May be another realisation of misplaced trust. But eventually they should phase them out.

Uh there were times his sister WAS wrong. Also the maa samaan bhabi only cared about his business and property. While criticizing Anupama/Anuj people are whitewashing other characters now?

Originally posted by: Kabhi18

Uh there were times his sister WAS wrong. Also the maa samaan bhabi only cared about his business and property. While criticizing Anupama/Anuj people are whitewashing other characters now?

And what was the time Makavika was wrong?

And why did Maa samaan Bhabhi only care about business and property?

Chalo issues the toh chod denge kya? When it was revealed that Ankush-Barkha were "thinking" of sabotaging Kapadia Empire, Anuj asked the same Bhai-Bhabhi to apologise to Anupama and Shahs. Shahs? Really? They were thinking, Vanraj actually did that. Ankush-Barkha NEVER received the respect "elders" of the family did. Apparently elders should have a "Shah" surname.

About whitewashing, you mean just the way every character HAS to be butchered to elevate the Lead?