What makes Anupama a terrible Female lead?? - Page 6

Originally posted by: surabhi01

What Iif anupama children ( from previous marriage ) are also small and their also same age may be 7 8 and 9 year old tub anuj kya karta tahi yahi bolta ki choti ko pehle priority do

And if anupama ke previous marriage ke bache anupama ke saath reh Rahe Hote

Aur anupama wohi baat bolti ki aap first priority pakhi toshu aur samar ko dijiye ..will anuj going to accept anupama demand or will it possible for anuj fulfill demand of anupama practically ki first priority samar pakhi toshu ko Dena Hai

And also agar anupama apne previous bachon ke saath Holi khel rahi hoti tub bhi kya anuj anupama ,aise hi anupama ko publicly humiliated karta ki Mai dukh hoon tum yahan Holi khel rahi ho ?

I mean agar anupama ke previous kw bache bhi chote hote tub kya anuj karta tabhi yahi question karta anupama ko ki tum apne bachon ke saath Holi kyon khel rahi ho tun has rahi ho

Agar. Situation reverse hoti to kya anuj apne pote ke welcome ceremony ya naming ceremony mein nahi jaata

Agar anuj choti ke saath Holi khel raha hota aur anupama aise hi blame karne lagti hoon Mai yahan dukhi hoon aap yahan choti ke saath Holi khel rage hai tub anuj ko kaise lagta,

Anuj anupama ki jagah rakh sochna chahiye that u r demanding unrealistic thing from anupama ki choti ko pehle priority do .it is possible

Anuj agar anupama ki jagah hota to kya anuj aisa,kar paata jaisa anuj anupama se umeed rakhta hai

We will never know what Anuj "would have done" if the roles were reversed, because it is an imaginary scenario. But, if he had acted like Anupama, we "would have" condemned his actions too.

Nobody, in fiction or reality should be so obsessed with their ex's family and grown up children that they ignore their spouse and young child.

Nobody will be applauded for ruining a second chance at a happy life.

Nobody will be commended for shrugging off their responsibilities. The list goes on... but the point is, it is wrong no matter who does it.

I/we have no axe to grind against Anupamaa.

I will never understand two statements

Anupama had informed Anuj of her baggage beforehand….ok so?

Why are relations called baggage? Aren’t people proud of their family, call them their strength/weakness whatever

Who calls their family members their baggage/ Matkas/ Jimmedariya

That too Ex Husband, his new wife, his parents, his new wife’s kid and so on 😂😂

Real life scenario - Wife has a family, husband has his family, they know each other’s family members and agree with certain real life conditions before marriage, he knows if any occassion (important), any emergency or any ad hoc situation she will have to run to her dad’s, iska matlab wo wahi jaake padi rahe? Kyonki usne pehle hi bol diya tha Baggage (relations) hai?

Shadi hai ya koi contract? Pehle hi bata diya tha so let’s not break the terms and conditions of baggage, even though it was never specified for what period and for how many hours each day Maa would spend at Shah house at the cost of current family, child, responsibilities and daily life suffering because of the past baggage 😂

Anupamaa apne bachon se milne shah house I year mei mein average 50 days se jyaada nahi jaati hogi.

50 days ka matalab hardly 1 and half month

Matalab anupama 365 din mein apne bachon se 50 days bhi nahi mil sakti ?

Yeh anuj itna bhi adjust nahi kar sakte ?

50 days milne mein bhi anuj ko faltu ka hangama faltu ka drama karna hai

Originally posted by: Dee-Dee

I will never understand two statements

Anupama had informed Anuj of her baggage beforehand….ok so?

So she wanted him to wait for her when she went to TamaShah Royal Palace everyday and then dutifully serve her when she gets back all tired and sweaty. Basically, serve her like a ghulam (the way she used to and still serves her pati parmeshwar vanrajan). And importantly, he was ready to do it but then the question of Aadhya cropped up

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Anupamaa apne bachon se milne shah house I year mei mein average 50 days se jyaada nahi jaati hogi.

50 days ka matalab hardly 1 and half month

Matalab anupama 365 din mein apne bachon se 50 days bhi nahi mil sakti ?

Yeh anuj itna bhi adjust nahi kar sakte ?

50 days milne mein bhi anuj ko faltu ka hangama faltu ka drama karna hai

Aapne thoda ulta bol diya

50 din nahi jati thi.

315 din jati thi.

Literally roz subah uth kar Anuj ko bolti thi aaj Shah house jana hai xxx kaam ke liye

Originally posted by: ShahH8er

So she wanted him to wait for her when she went to TamaShah Royal Palace everyday and then dutifully serve her when she gets back all tired and sweaty. Basically, serve her like a ghulam (the way she used to and still serves her pati parmeshwar vanrajan). And importantly, he was ready to do it but then the question of Aadhya cropped up

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Anupamaa apne bachon se milne shah house I year mei mein average 50 days se jyaada nahi jaati hogi.

50 days ka matalab hardly 1 and half month

Matalab anupama 365 din mein apne bachon se 50 days bhi nahi mil sakti ?

Yeh anuj itna bhi adjust nahi kar sakte ?

50 days milne mein bhi anuj ko faltu ka hangama faltu ka drama karna hai

apne bacchon se zarror mil sakti hai. But, there is a way to do it, since she is now divorced <-- most important point!!

50 days or 1 day does not matter. She was abused ( & continues to be abused!) in that house. Anyone with an ounce of self-respect would never set foot in that house.

After divorce, she ( & her ex husband, V) must have an arrangement to meet/live with their children ( who are adults to boot!), outside of the house. She cannot/should not live/meet under the same roof as her ex-husband.

She did not go on her own, but they called her - does not matter. She needs to use her common sense!
She went because her son was handicapped - no, she should not pack her bags and move into their house.

She went because of her grandchild's naming ceremony - nope, she should not go if the event is in SH. She should ask for the event to be held elsewhere. Otherwise, she must skip. Nothing is more important than the new lease of life she had( Anuj & CA)

Once, twice 100 times does not matter at all.

She is wrong. Period. Anyone doing that ( i.e living with their ex, going to meet their children in ex's house etc) will be called out like we are doing with Anupamaa.

If we are watching it through the lens of women empowerment, then the list is endless for which she can be counted as worst FL.

Not having a stable career despite given endless chances, not prioritising right things at right time, not letting go of the past or rather X family members, not able to reciprocate true feelings to a loving caring husband, not standing with other women who got cheated by their husbands and the list goes endless.

But if we see her through the lens of any ordinary character with flaws then it's ok. The problem is makers are constantly portraying her as righteous and strong independent women. She is always right, her decisions are always right. We have been constantly reminded of that in the show through various other characters. Which is why she is a terrible FL.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Anupamaa apne bachon se milne shah house I year mei mein average 50 days se jyaada nahi jaati hogi.

50 days ka matalab hardly 1 and half month

Matalab anupama 365 din mein apne bachon se 50 days bhi nahi mil sakti ?

Yeh anuj itna bhi adjust nahi kar sakte ?

50 days milne mein bhi anuj ko faltu ka hangama faltu ka drama karna hai

He seemed to be as an understanding husband in the beginning ,But as time passed he started becoming more selfish and demanding. His only concern was to prioritize his adopted daughter, which now looks like the biggest blunder MaAn has made .

Ek baar bataiye Anuj apni legal wife se demanding nhi hoga to kya Vanraj ki tarah ban Jaye , jo dusre biwi ko bhi control ki firak mein rehta tha ?

Anuj ki expectations sahi thi Jo ek normal husband rakhta , usne sirf naam ke liye shaadi nhi ki thi , konsa sa husband or wife chahega ki uska partner roj apne ex jr Ghar Jaye gaaliyan khane .

Agar isse selfish kehte hai to normal husband kaise hote hai? Vo kya naam ke liye shaadi karte hain, Anuj ka haq sabse jyada tha anupama ke time pe or ye baat anupama ne khud boli vanraj ko jab Anuj camp gaya tha maaya or CA ke saath or vanraj ko anupama se sukoon chahiye thaanupama ne Anuj ki tareef ki thi how much he understands her lekin koi kitna tolerate ki kare sabko ek limit hoti only exception Case anupama