What makes Anupama a terrible Female lead?? - Page 15

Originally posted by: Ashita5500

Agreed! Adult kids need their mom BUT only during difficult times whereas a 7 year old REAL kid needs to be PRIORITIZED coz it's her growth years when mother's presence is utmost required. But Anupama devi expected CA to adjust and compromise,act beyond her age so that she can cater to her bio kids for trivial reasons. She even mollycoddled them when they actually needed to be dealt with iron hands. She spoiled and made them a co dependent mess.

Now coming to V and Kavya's equation, whether Kavya trusted her or not,it simply doesn't matter. Anupama should have drawn the line and stayed away from her ex's personal matters. Nothing apart from her kids should have defined her relationship with Vanraj. She did a blunder here.

Now coming to Anuj "supporting" Anupama's unhealthy obsession with her fake maayka. Did he had any other way out? He had to accommodate. He tried myriad ways but she just couldn't let go off . She is accustomed to toxicity.

Anuj simply asked some VALID questions. Public humiliation was what Anuj had to face at the hands of Anupama Devi's ex while she mutely kept gazing. Not to forget the silent treatment she made him experience despite being innocent. Don't oppose just for the sake of opposing. Try to understand the crux.

Anu's Bio kids were very much dependent on her. Eventhough she used to support bio kids when they needed ,she has never expected Ca to adjust beyond her age, She has apologized to Ca and Anuj whenever she couldn't do Ca's motherly duties. She has treated all her children equally which wasn't enough for Anuj and CA..T hey always wanted undivided attention.

Kavya always seeked Anupama's help whenever she needed. Infact Anupama was the first one to know that Kavya's child was not V's. She also asked for Anu's help when she needed a job, when she wanted a rented house etc etc .So naturally Anu got involved in K and V's personnel matters.

Anuj knew from the beginning that his marriage with Anu was an unconventional type. So he should have been mentally prepared before marrying a woman like Anu. He couldn't adjust with her baggage with passing time. That is the reason he got suffocated which resulted in their final separation.

His questions may be valid .But the way asked asked her was not in the right way. He was publicly humiliating her by pointing only her flaws one by one.

What do u expect from a mother who lost her favourite son ?I felt she was mentally disturbed to defend him. That is the reason she asked him to leave SH in order to avoid further scene.

Originally posted by: Dee-Dee

Then who sat on the Jhula with Dadaji leaving husband on a wheelchair with a 6 yr old to take care of him?

Who was doing a video call with Vanraj gale mein haath dalkar while Anuj was watching from the other side?

Her actions have always been questionable, she has been spending her days at Shah House leaving legally wedded husband and an adopted daughter and giving more attention to Mishter Shah. Anuj was 100% at fault when he came back with Maya, lekin Anupama, she knew Vanraj’s intentions, he indirectly asked her to come back to Shah house as Malkin which means he proposed her, she knew it but kept on leading him, went on drives with him, he was her official driver when Anuj was missing, Vanraj was stalking her like a psycho whenever she went out of the house and she allowed him to do that, he even dropped her to to airport for her failed Udaan, he threw his own wife Kavya out of the house to bring back Anupamaa, but fir bhi Anupamaa Mahaan hai? Sorry she lacked character here, Vanraj was her divorced ex husband and Kavya’s husband, she had no right to roam around with him everyday.

And how was sending CA with the thought that Mere Mummy Papa meri wajah se ladte hain, a right decision? CA said she didn’t want to go but has to go for the sake of her parents.

And who is Anupamaa to take the decision alone for her child with Anuj? Why was he kept in the dark? Why did she call him Pagal? Why did she keep pestering him with questions like aapko main bhi nahi chahiye when he wanted to meet his daughter?

She was the one who was looking after Anuj when he was in Coma and was taking care of Ca and business. So if she goes to fulfill her dadi duties ,it isn't an issue. She went after taking Anuj's permission eventhough he has later complained about it.

She hardly used to stay at SH leaving her child and husband at home. Only two incidents I remember were when Toshu had stroke and when Samar died she stayed back at Sh.

Anu was staying with Kanthaben when Anuj left her and started staying at Mumbai. V's intentions were not good. But Anu has never encouraged him to cross the limits. She had to visit SH as Samar's wedding preparations happened during that period.

Sending Ca with her bio mom was legally and morally a correct decision. But as Anuj couldn't agree with it he left her and chose CA and M.

Now Anu is out of Anuj's and CA's life and Ca and Ak r together. Then what is bothering u guys? .Let her lead a solo life. and kindly stop ur blame game.

Originally posted by: Paru...

Anu's Bio kids were very much dependent on her. Eventhough she used to support bio kids when they needed ,she has never expected Ca to adjust beyond her age, She has apologized to Ca and Anuj whenever she couldn't do Ca's motherly duties. She has treated all her children equally which wasn't enough for Anuj and CA..T hey always wanted undivided attention.

Kavya always seeked Anupama's help whenever she needed. Infact Anupama was the first one to know that Kavya's child was not V's. She also asked for Anu's help when she needed a job, when she wanted a rented house etc etc .So naturally Anu got involved in K and V's personnel matters.

Anuj knew from the beginning that his marriage with Anu was an unconventional type. So he should have been mentally prepared before marrying a woman like Anu. He couldn't adjust with her baggage with passing time. That is the reason he got suffocated which resulted in their final separation.

His questions may be valid .But the way asked asked her was not in the right way. He was publicly humiliating her by pointing only her flaws one by one.

What do u expect from a mother who lost her favourite son ?I felt she was mentally disturbed to defend him. That is the reason she asked him to leave SH in order to avoid further scene.

Kavya seeked her help and Devi ji obliged? Is she a 5 year old kid? Didn't she understood that Vanraj is her ex and instead of focusing on his personal matters,she should PRIORITIZE her new family? Where is the boundary?

She did expected CA to act beyond her age. Remember the Khichdi fiasco where she asked the child to remain happy in other's happiness and also in one of the recent episodes she was explaining to her that how she couldn't remain with her always as she has multiple matkas to belence even though the child was insecure.

The same traumatized mother stood up for her DIL but not for her husband?She even made him guilty for staying alive. Taunted him when he was willing to help during court case "Samar ke pita hai mere saath". Kicked him out of his bedroom in his own house.She only started talking to him when she realized he was the sole eye witness and she NEEDS him to win.

Anuj accepted her along with her baggage but this woman crushed him under the weight of her so called unnecessary baggage (Baa Bapuji V and Kavya). Had she maintained healthy boundaries and cut off the abusers, treated her children as adults,things wouldn't have got this bad. Everything would have been sorted easily.

Originally posted by: Paru...

She was the one who was looking after Anuj when he was in Coma and was taking care of Ca and business. So if she goes to fulfill her dadi duties ,it isn't an issue. She went after taking Anuj's permission eventhough he has later complained about it.

She hardly used to stay at SH leaving her child and husband at home. Only two incidents I remember were when Toshu had stroke and when Samar died she stayed back at Sh.

Anu was staying with Kanthaben when Anuj left her and started staying at Mumbai. V's intentions were not good. But Anu has never encouraged him to cross the limits. She had to visit SH as Samar's wedding preparations happened during that period.

Sending Ca with her bio mom was legally and morally a correct decision. But as Anuj couldn't agree with it he left her and chose CA and M.

Now Anu is out of Anuj's and CA's life and Ca and Ak r together. Then what is bothering u guys? .Let her lead a solo life. and kindly stop ur blame game.

This is a show and discussions positive or negative about the lead are bound to happen, not any blame game.

Neither is she out of their lives in the show that I watch

Again, talking about Dadi duties, nothing would’ve changed if she would’ve decided to not attend the function or attend it for a shorter time. I have seen the show too and know how frequently she used to go and for how long, how many times a day.

Even if he said jao, it’s on a spouse to think whether or not I should go, had he said No, she would fake anxiety attacks and keep sitting with that tensed sad face all day. She js a master at manipulation.

Sending CA with a misunderstanding and hiding truth from Anuj was morally a wrong decision.

R we seeing same serial ? Who came along with vanraj in Shah house when he returned from hospital thou someone is claiming she only came for Samar wedding & promised vanraj to take care of baa bapuji if he dies, it happened after heart attack drama of vanraj.

She can't stay away from vanraj , it's a fact of this serial, even kantaben. Raised this point cross check it

Jo bhi vanraj ne predict Kiya tha maan ki shaadi ke liye she turned it correct .

U still not answering my questions why kanta Ben don't support anupama love for shah family if she is so correct & performing all duties towards Anuj & CA as u say .

Today anupama owe her life to maaya jiska naam leke Anupama ki har galti ko cover kar rahe ho , maaya gave away her life thinking CA will be happy with anupama & what she did ? Today CA is burning deviji is enjoying in self victimization still d girl has question why she abonden her , neither Anuj or aadhya no d answer , deviji unki Khushi ke liye chhoda , she could never understand why they r complaining their happiness lies with her but her happiness lies never with them it only lies with Vanraj Shah , she never left vanraj & her nalayak aulaade when they kept insulting her . Vo dono aaj bhi khush nhi hai , she is happy with kintosh, pari, she allergic to those who love & respect her but deeply attached & love those who insult & use her . I so want turn

Do deviji have zameer , how do she see mirror. Sorry for u see d most correct human of this serial

I so want aadhya someone manage to make Anuj hate anupama so that she will feel hell on this earth only but will she will able to digest his hatred as she never loved or respected Anuj that's d reason she so easily left

1000% correct, I fully agree

If she really loves Anuj and CA, she cannot be so happy with Toshu, Kinajal and Pari. How they are suffering but she is dancing and all, not missing them, that means she never loved them

Originally posted by: Dee-Dee

This is a show and discussions positive or negative about the lead are bound to happen, not any blame game.

Neither is she out of their lives in the show that I watch

Again, talking about Dadi duties, nothing would’ve changed if she would’ve decided to not attend the function or attend it for a shorter time. I have seen the show too and know how frequently she used to go and for how long, how many times a day.

Even if he said jao, it’s on a spouse to think whether or not I should go, had he said No, she would fake anxiety attacks and keep sitting with that tensed sad face all day. She js a master at manipulation.

Sending CA with a misunderstanding and hiding truth from Anuj was morally a wrong decision.

But here only negative discussions are happening. They r separated now. This is reason I wrote she is out of their lives. Hope Ca and Anuj do not disturb her furthur and let them live happily in their lives with Shruthi who can meet all their expectations which they wish from a wife/mom.

Even Rupali was saying in her interview that earlier people used to ask, why don't Anupama leave Anuj?and now when she has left him they r asking "why did she leave ??

So if Anuj wants Anu back in his life he has to accept her as she is. She is not a robot /computer program which act according to anyone's need. She is a human being who has her own thoughts and wishes and priorities.

Originally posted by: Ashita5500

Kavya seeked her help and Devi ji obliged? Is she a 5 year old kid? Didn't she understood that Vanraj is her ex and instead of focusing on his personal matters,she should PRIORITIZE her new family? Where is the boundary?

May be she wished to help Kavya.It was her choice,If everyone think about boundries there won't be anyone to help others and this world won't exist.

She did expected CA to act beyond her age. Remember the Khichdi fiasco where she asked the child to remain happy in other's happiness and also in one of the recent episodes she was explaining to her that how she couldn't remain with her always as she has multiple matkas to belence even though the child was insecure.

I remember her telling Ca was participating in the competition was more important.But when Anuj beacme annoyed she later apologized him for that

The same traumatized mother stood up for her DIL but not for her husband?She even made him guilty for staying alive. Taunted him when he was willing to help during court case "Samar ke pita hai mere saath". Kicked him out of his bedroom in his own house.She only started talking to him when she realized he was the sole eye witness and she NEEDS him to win.

Sonu tried to shoot Anuj as he fought with him in the club and even when V and Samar tried to calm him down he continued fighting which resulted in Samar's death. Still she didn't blame him .She was just depressed that her son was lost forever and wanted to be alone. She did'nt kick him out , when she was about to go out ,he voluntarily decided to sleep in the hall.

Anuj accepted her along with her baggage but this woman crushed him under the weight of her so called unnecessary baggage (Baa Bapuji V and Kavya). Had she maintained healthy boundaries and cut off the abusers, treated her children as adults,things wouldn't have got this bad. Everything would have been sorted easily.

He wanted to accept her with her baggage.But later he got suffocated,He couldn't accomadate her baggage.Let her live alone and focus on her career.

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Originally posted by: Paru...

But here only negative discussions are happening. They r separated now. This is reason I wrote she is out of their lives. Hope Ca and Anuj do not disturb her furthur and let them live happily in their lives with Shruthi who can meet all their expectations which they wish from a wife/mom.

Even Rupali was saying in her interview that earlier people used to ask, why don't Anupama leave Anuj?and now when she has left him they r asking "why did she leave ??

So if Anuj wants Anu back in his life he has to accept her as she is. She is not a robot /computer program which act according to anyone's need. She is a human being who has her own thoughts and wishes and priorities.

Because show is too negative atm and obviously people focus more on the negatives. There have been times where people have been full of praises for the show and the character. Now she is just being a hypocrite.

And its a character nothing to get so possessive about, if CA Anuj Anupamaa path’s don’t cross the story won’t move further.

And RG asking those questions doesn’t make any sense because it’s not like they show what audience asks for, else Anupama would’ve become some successful business woman or a Dance Academy owner by now instead of cooking for Toshu and Kinjal in America too.