What makes Anupama a terrible Female lead?? - Page 14

Originally posted by: Paru...

CA and Anuj wanted undivided attention from Anupama which was impossible as she already has 3 children from her first marriage.In today's episode Ca was complaining that Anu had 3 children from her first relationship ,so she gave least priority to her. But as Ca was the only child of Ak she got immense love from him exclusively for her.

He said "mujhe aisa lagtha hain tumhe mujh se aur meri beti se jyada tumhare ex-pati aur bachon ki chintha hain.kyon nahi bayi,26 saal ka ristha hain.aisa dhodi na khatham ho jatha hain.tum ne tho V se shadi ki dhi,pehla pyaar hain ,teen bacche hain...."When she requested him to stop,he said "nahi nahi aaj tho sun na padega"..

Anupama's bio kids were adult, married individuals whom she didn't needed to babysit 24×7 still she did while CA was merely 7 year old who should have been her priority still she always remained neglected. Moreover, what's astonishing is that she even overburdened herself and Anuj with the responsibilities of her toxic ex in-laws. Wasn't she aware how vile and manipulative baa is? Still she brought her to live with them without even asking Anuj. He was not wrong in questioning her. Marriage was indeed a hasty decision. Her camaraderie with Vanraj proved that she hasn't really moved on from him. Ideally,their meeting/conversations should have been restricted to their kids but she was desperate to mend V and Kavya's relationship while ignoring her own.Why ?It was non of her business. Not saying Anuj is completely innocent but Anupama has her own set of faults. Her misplaced priorities and inability to value right people in her life ruined everything.

U know vanraj already told what going to happen coz he knew anupama too well vo aise hi nhi ispe rule kar paya 26 saal , Anuj did warn anupama how smartly vanraj plays by using her weakness .

Sadly makers made their FL so weak the viewers like ever new female character above her , they really need to revamp their FL character , it completely dead character , mahaan banane ke chakkar mein vo insaan nhi Rahi , anupama don't have human emotions

I always say anupama seriously needs a real therapist who can help her , dukhmukh Shah is farzi therapist who gave her weird therapy which suit his agenda & family

Ghum serial makers did brought therapist for FL Sai when she stopped talking after an accident after d session she break down , revealed how deeply she got effected by d hate of chavan family Sai was very vocal character then she got effected so badly, how d hell anupama deals with this much hatred? She got therapy session for her ex & toshu beta , once she book for herself also.

Aisa bhi kuch hua tha, ki Anuj called vanraj anu's bua ka beta ? Kab hua ye or kyu ?

Originally posted by: Shake_d_spear

Aisa bhi kuch hua tha, ki Anuj called vanraj anu's bua ka beta ? Kab hua ye or kyu ?

I don't remember exactly but it was during Kinjal's visit to KM. She accidentally fell down (she was expecting) and Vanraj created a ruckus even though she was safe. That was the first instance when Anuj reached his breaking point.

Originally posted by: Dee-Dee

Ofcourse that is wrong too. Anupamaa galat hai iska matlab ye bilkul bhi nahi ki Anuj sahi tha, although its a different story altogether that who brought Maya in their life, who placed a bet, who let CA go away hiding the truth, but Anuj doing rituals with her was equally wrong.

But just imagine if Maya was not into picture, Anupamaa would have still done the rituals with Vanraj, just like she did at the time of Pari’s birth when Anuj was bedridden. She has always done it, kabhi Dadi bankar kabhi Maa ke excuse se.

15 day challenge was a a blunder which Anu did. But sending Ca with her bio mom was not a a bad decision according to me. But at last Anuj ended up living with Maya and Ca like a family deserting his wedded wife which was totally unfair.

Anu has accompanied Kinjal to hospital when her delivary pain started at Km while doing Ganpathi pooja. After K got discharged MaAn along with Ca went to meet her at Sh.let me remind u that K's GB rituals was done by MaAn in V and Kavya's absence. Also Anu only looked after Anuj when he was in coma.it was due to her care and love he got recovered fast. She is a dadi and mom of 4 children,which is a truth and not an excuse.

Originally posted by: Shake_d_spear

Ma'am aap to itna anupama ko defend kar rahe , maaya ko Ghar mein laaya kaun Anupama, maaya ko apni maaya dekhne ka mauka kisne Diya Anupama , ha Anuj galat tha vaha or shruti ke track mein bhi vo galat hai lekin pointing finger at Anuj won't prove anupama saint coz 3 fingers will still point towards anupama.

Yeah,she has brought Maya home.But he was the one who went for picnic with Maya and later started staying with her Mumbai abandoning his wife?

Or ye kya hai Anuj or CA wanted undivided attention, Anuj apni wife se or CA apni maa se undivided attention ki umeed hi rakenge to kya kavya se rakhenge ? Anupama duniya ki pehli divorcee hai jiske 3 bacche hai or usse Ghar Ghar khelna vanraj ke saath coz bacho ke liye jo uski

They wanted undivided attention from Anu. But Anu was unfortunately a woman with 3 kids from her Ex.

So undivided attention was not possible. Now they should be happy that Anu is out of their life and they r getting full time attention from Shruthi

Have you seen yeh hai mohabbatein even Raman was divorcee who was madly in love with shagun even had 2 kids with her but once he divorced her he never really wanted to play play Ghar Ghar with shagun infact Aditya & ruhi both were kids , Raman was loud , aggressive but he always respected his marriage with Ishita he never 2 timed Ishita with shagun , vo to Ishita se initially pyar bhi nhi karta tha but still he was loyal to his marriage .

Dear.in that serial Ishitha was a woman who was unable to give birth to children and Raman's second child used to stay with him. His son Aadi first stayed with Shagun ,later he also started staying with Ishitha and Raman. But here Anu's first 3 children stayed with V and she has considered SH as her Mayka after her divorce. That is why she used to visit Sh often. Plz don't question Anu's loyalty for Anuj.

Anupama loves to play masiha for shah family, had she adopted vanraj also as her kid .

I doubt u r married varna u would be knowing what r d 7 vows of marriage which she only fulfilled with vanraj but never with Anuj, u would definitely not be saying Anuj wanted full time wife , ye uska haq hai, even aapki anupama devi supported his claim , she even told vanraj that Anuj has d major right on her ab shayad anupama devi bhi galat hai, vaise last argument mein bhi she supported Anuj this claim , can u please tell why kanta Ben don't support anupama, even she has called out this .

But Anuj knew that he was going to marry someone who had children from first marriage.THe problem was that he could not accomadate them with passing time.

I guess u forgot kanta Ben asked anupama devi to prioritise Anuj but she turned deaf ear.

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Originally posted by: Paru...

15 day challenge was a a blunder which Anu did. But sending Ca with her bio mom was not a a bad decision according to me.

And she unilaterally took the decision? Without disclosing to her husband the real reason for Choti Anu going with Maaya and without consulting with him? And locking him up in the room forcefully when he tried to stop "Their" daughter going?

But at last Anuj ended up living with Maya and Ca like a family deserting his wedded wife which was totally unfair.

Anuj followed his daughter and was eventually with his bachchi ki Maa. Similar to Anupama's Shah House rendezvous for adult, married "Bachche".

If the argument is about them being ALL by themselves in Mumbai and Anuj being with Parayi Stree. Vanraj was very much lusting on Anupama, something that Anupama knew very well and Leela and Vanraj very much wanted Anupama and Vanraj to "get back together" (and the others in the family havent been able to avoid anything happening and are as irrelevant).

Anu has accompanied Kinjal to hospital when her delivary pain started at Km while doing Ganpathi pooja. After K got discharged MaAn along with Ca went to meet her at Sh.let me remind u that K's GB rituals was done by MaAn in V and Kavya's absence.

And why did they have to do that? Rakhi Dave offered to have the Godbharai organised. It was Anupama who, in an attempt to "preserve the Shah image/tradition" decided to have it done, that too when the actual decision maker Vanraj and Kavya were not present (again overstepping).

Furthermore, Anupama stayed through Kinjal's labour. When Hansmukh asked her to leave reminding her that her husband needed her more and there are enough people to support them (imagine the father has to remind that her husband needs her more), she said she was needed there more than her ailing husband, an aged father figure, 6 year old daughter to fend for themselves.

Some prioritization, I must say.

Also Anu only looked after Anuj when he was in coma.it was due to her care and love he got recovered fast.

Only to leave him to take care of themselves to cater to Shah functions.

Furthermore, she did no favour on anyone. What is a marriage if taking care of your ailing husband is some sort of a favour?

She is a dadi and mom of 4 children,which is a truth and not an excuse.

And Anuj and Anupama are parents of Choti Anu aka Aadhya. That is no excuse either.

Her "3 kids" are adult and married, one of who was a parent himself and Choti Anu aka Aadhya was a 6 year old.

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Originally posted by: Ashita5500

Anupama's bio kids were adult, married individuals whom she didn't needed to babysit 24×7 still she did while CA was merely 7 year old who should have been her priority still she always remained neglected. Moreover, what's astonishing is that she even overburdened herself and Anuj with the responsibilities of her toxic ex in-laws. Wasn't she aware how vile and manipulative baa is? Still she brought her to live with them without even asking Anuj. He was not wrong in questioning her. Marriage was indeed a hasty decision. Her camaraderie with Vanraj proved that she hasn't really moved on from him. Ideally,their meeting/conversations should have been restricted to their kids but she was desperate to mend V and Kavya's relationship while ignoring her own.Why ?It was non of her business. Not saying Anuj is completely innocent but Anupama has her own set of faults. Her misplaced priorities and inability to value right people in her life ruined everything.

Adult children also needs their mom in their difficult times. Also a 7 year old school going child doesn't need full time attention from mom like a toddler.

Kavya has never doubted Anu's equation with V post divorce as Anu has only initiated for the divorce. She knew that it was just a friendship. Only Anuj and his fans doubt her relationship with V.

I agree that she has misplaced her priorities before Maya track. But after the reunion Anuj only has supported her in keeping good relationship with SH family by inviting them in celebrations ,accompanying her to SH.

He has the right to question her. But the way he questioned her was wrong. He wasn't even concerned about her after the accident. He believed CA's words and started insulting her. publicly..

Originally posted by: Paru...

Adult children also needs their mom in their difficult times. Also a 7 year old school going child doesn't need full time attention from mom like a toddler.

Kavya has never doubted Anu's equation with V post divorce as Anu has only initiated for the divorce. She knew that it was just a friendship. Only Anuj and his fans doubt her relationship with V.

I agree that she has misplaced her priorities before Maya track. But after the reunion Anuj only has supported her in keeping good relationship with SH family by inviting them in celebrations ,accompanying her to SH.

He has the right to question her. But the way he questioned her was wrong. He wasn't even concerned about her after the accident. He believed CA's words and started insulting her. publicly..

Agreed! Adult kids need their mom BUT only during difficult times whereas a 7 year old REAL kid needs to be PRIORITIZED coz it's her growth years when mother's presence is utmost required. But Anupama devi expected CA to adjust and compromise,act beyond her age so that she can cater to her bio kids for trivial reasons. She even mollycoddled them when they actually needed to be dealt with iron hands. She spoiled and made them a co dependent mess.

Now coming to V and Kavya's equation, whether Kavya trusted her or not,it simply doesn't matter. Anupama should have drawn the line and stayed away from her ex's personal matters. Nothing apart from her kids should have defined her relationship with Vanraj. She did a blunder here.

Now coming to Anuj "supporting" Anupama's unhealthy obsession with her fake maayka. Did he had any other way out? He had to accommodate. He tried myriad ways but she just couldn't let go off . She is accustomed to toxicity.

Anuj simply asked some VALID questions. Public humiliation was what Anuj had to face at the hands of Anupama Devi's ex while she mutely kept gazing. Not to forget the silent treatment she made him experience despite being innocent. Don't oppose just for the sake of opposing. Try to understand the crux.

Originally posted by: Paru...

15 day challenge was a a blunder which Anu did. But sending Ca with her bio mom was not a a bad decision according to me. But at last Anuj ended up living with Maya and Ca like a family deserting his wedded wife which was totally unfair.

Anu has accompanied Kinjal to hospital when her delivary pain started at Km while doing Ganpathi pooja. After K got discharged MaAn along with Ca went to meet her at Sh.let me remind u that K's GB rituals was done by MaAn in V and Kavya's absence. Also Anu only looked after Anuj when he was in coma.it was due to her care and love he got recovered fast. She is a dadi and mom of 4 children,which is a truth and not an excuse.

Then who sat on the Jhula with Dadaji leaving husband on a wheelchair with a 6 yr old to take care of him?

Who was doing a video call with Vanraj gale mein haath dalkar while Anuj was watching from the other side?

Her actions have always been questionable, she has been spending her days at Shah House leaving legally wedded husband and an adopted daughter and giving more attention to Mishter Shah. Anuj was 100% at fault when he came back with Maya, lekin Anupama, she knew Vanraj’s intentions, he indirectly asked her to come back to Shah house as Malkin which means he proposed her, she knew it but kept on leading him, went on drives with him, he was her official driver when Anuj was missing, Vanraj was stalking her like a psycho whenever she went out of the house and she allowed him to do that, he even dropped her to to airport for her failed Udaan, he threw his own wife Kavya out of the house to bring back Anupamaa, but fir bhi Anupamaa Mahaan hai? Sorry she lacked character here, Vanraj was her divorced ex husband and Kavya’s husband, she had no right to roam around with him everyday.

And how was sending CA with the thought that Mere Mummy Papa meri wajah se ladte hain, a right decision? CA said she didn’t want to go but has to go for the sake of her parents.

And who is Anupamaa to take the decision alone for her child with Anuj? Why was he kept in the dark? Why did she call him Pagal? Why did she keep pestering him with questions like aapko main bhi nahi chahiye when he wanted to meet his daughter?