I binged watched this show so I have a lot to say. I knew harib was a victim as well on the wedding night. The way he got emotional and had fear of abandonment when Haya did not say anything about the kangan. The next morning he completely dissociated himself from the previous night's episode. I knew it right away that he he suffers dissociative episodes related to some trauma and likely childhood trauma in this case. He is not tayi Jan's real child, so maybe it was her? She abused him?
I have to admit, then"abuse" scenes were not gruesome at all. Even in those scenes, I felt for harib. His pain. He wants to liked and loved. Somewhere inside there is a child who wants to be loved and held.
I was putting off watching this show because in the promos the scenes were a little unsettling
For those who say, why is Haya not saying anything and why is she just accepting this abuse like a meek person, give her a break. She has only been married for a few days. Things are sinking in. I can say from experience that the first few months of Marriage you are just trying to figure out your relationship, in laws, how to deal, who to deal with, who to ignore. Things happened too quickly for her and tayi jaan hasn't given her a chance to understand what's going on. She keeps talking about faaris and she is the one who created a few misunderstandings between harib and Haya. She is so manipulative goodness. Haya will learn how to deal with harib. She will realize on her own what tayi jaan is upto and she will fight for herself and harib. Especially for harib. For I think, he is the re victim here. Just give her some time. One cannot and should not walk out of a relationship without getting help first. Marriage counseling exists for a reason
:) if things don't work even after that, then by all means but have to make things work. Allah doesn't always hand you everything on a silver plate.
Secondly: I have read a lot of criticism on how Haya is reacting to this abuse and how she should handle it. Let me tell those people that it's not as easy as it all sounds. It's difficult to get out of an abusivd relationship no matter how educated the girl is, her background, family. An abusive relationship has periods of abuse and periods of what's called "honeymoons phase" where the abuser is super sweet. Sometimes, the victim is made to believe that they deserve it or are the cause of this abuse. We as physicians are taught to acknowledge this, give the victim support and let them know that help is available whenever they are ready. The goal is to approach this every single time slowly and not to pressurize. Give them resources if needed when things go out of hand at any point. Trust, it's not easy to get out of an abusive relationship
And thirdly: I dont think the last scene of episode 9 was a confession scene or there will be a period of "redemption." It was an acknoweldge of his fears and grief that came out suddently. His fear of being alone. His fear of being abandoned. Like I said, he is the victiim too along with Haya so kahan ki redemption. He cant control his actions and sometimes he may not even be aware of this actions like the wedding night scene. I think Haya should seek therapy for him because thats what he needs. He has fear of abandonment. It will be lifelong therapy unfortunately. At least in real life.
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