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Clearly this guy was such a gem...not. Good for her to leave him! She deserves much better than that
Originally posted by: Fidelius_Charm
Why does it negate an opinion if she agreed to quit movies after marriage, but somewhere down the line decided not to?
Would it still be different if a man says one thing before marriage, but changes it after marriage ji?Thinking from an Indian perspective, more so from a Punjabi one and as I'm one, I highly doubt that there would be such an uproar if we switched the genders ji.It's okay here for the guy to divorce because the wife happened to be at a phase in her life where she decided that her career does mean something to her. Maybe at the time of her marriage, her mindset was different from what it is now. How is that her fault or anyone's?Are women just expected to listen to what her in-laws say? Shaadi se phele baap ki pagdi di izzat, aur shaadi ke baad sasur ki pagdi di izzat et al, Why can't the man hold the izzat? Oh wait, he's a man ji. A woman can't change her mind if she committed to something already, and if she does, she's a horrible person.And the guy seems like such a prick ji, hiding under his mother's pallu - saying whatever my parents say. Toh love marriage hi kyon ki bhai? Kar lete arranged marriage to someone of your parents choice.
Originally posted by: Fidelius_Charm
Why does it negate an opinion if she agreed to quit movies after marriage, but somewhere down the line decided not to?
Would it still be different if a man says one thing before marriage, but changes it after marriage ji?Thinking from an Indian perspective, more so from a Punjabi one and as I'm one, I highly doubt that there would be such an uproar if we switched the genders ji.It's okay here for the guy to divorce because the wife happened to be at a phase in her life where she decided that her career does mean something to her. Maybe at the time of her marriage, her mindset was different from what it is now. How is that her fault or anyone's?Are women just expected to listen to what her in-laws say? Shaadi se phele baap ki pagdi di izzat, aur shaadi ke baad sasur ki pagdi di izzat et al, Why can't the man hold the izzat? Oh wait, he's a man ji. A woman can't change her mind if she committed to something already, and if she does, she's a horrible person.And the guy seems like such a prick ji, hiding under his mother's pallu - saying whatever my parents say. Toh love marriage hi kyon ki bhai? Kar lete arranged marriage to someone of your parents choice.
It absolutely doesn't. I'm glad she is pursuing what is important to her. But it also doesn't really make the guy a bad human either so him getting bashed is also unfair because he was honest and upfront. She chose what she needed to do. He did what needed to be done. Why should he also compromise? They are better off without each other. It is no different than leaving an exam hall or breaking your cellphone contract. If he had promised her before marriage that she can work and he reneged after marriage then it is still the same.
It absolutely doesn't. I'm glad she is pursuing what is important to her. But it also doesn't really make the guy a bad human either so him getting bashed is also unfair because he was honest and upfront. She chose what she needed to do. He did what needed to be done. Why should he also compromise? They are better off without each other. It is no different than leaving an exam hall or breaking your cellphone contract. If he had promised her before marriage that she can work and he reneged after marriage then it is still the same.
Originally posted by: anonymous39
[quote]And the guy seems like such a prick ji, hiding under his mother's pallu - saying whatever my parents say. Toh love marriage hi kyon ki bhai? Kar lete arranged marriage to someone of your parents choice. [/quote]
Because most Indian men think they can control the wife and make her do whatever he and his parents want after marriage. Most desi guys are conservative and old-fashioned because it benefits them.Even someone like Aishwarya Rai can't escape it. She has to drag her kid everywhere with her, even when its only 2-3 days in Cannes. The family and kids and all household things are thrust only to the woman. Then in-laws meddle in everything include what roles she does and what kind of intimate scenes she has, etc.
The problem here is a 37 year old man hiding behind his parents to say he will "abide by their decision" to divorce her. This is the man, a hindu man who fell in love with a christian actress. I can't imagine the parents were thrilled about it. Now suddenly they are behind this decision ?🤔 Puhlease. A real man will have the guts to say she changed her mind and so it is not working for me, not bring his parents inside it. If he supported her whatever his parents said would not have mattered.
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