Originally posted by: ..Kirann..
I disagree Monica. When you are stuck between a rock and a hard place, you don't think about beliefs. If he had promised Zoya to always respect her, he had also said Nikhat is like his real sister and he would do anything to save her. So if he had chosen to get married to Zoya over Nikhat, he would still be called a hypocrite because he didn't stick to his words. It's easier said than done. I wonder how many people would think about their beliefs and promises in real life if stuck in such a situation. At this moment, it would've been better for him to give his life than to be stuck in such a situation. This world is a hard place to please. No matter what you do, you'll still be called names. You'll be a scapegoat even if this whole situation is someone else's fault. So I don't blame him, in fact he's the one I feel for the most.
I agree with you hun, that he was between a rock and a hard place. But ultimately. It wasn't his decision. Yes he could've certainly begged her, explained his situation, made her see why he felt compelled sacrifice his love for his sister's life.
Zoya is selfless. She would have understood. If he had appealed to her justice side, to her side that cared for others over herself, I'm sure she would've hesitated but eventually given in.
But dragging her like that, forcing her to go to that house, to stay there, to sign the nikaahnama even. They were wrong. It was not his choice to make. He says he loves her. Undoubtedly he does. But this just goes to show, they he still does not respect her as a woman. If he did, he would've tried AT LEAST ONCE, to ASK her to do this for him.
He knows very well she will do anything for him. Instead of appealing to that side of her, and that quality in her, he took advantage of it. I feel his pain. Giving away your love and trading her for your sister's life is hard. And painful. Indeed. But it's not WHAT he did that bothers me.
It's HOW he did it. Yes situations change people. But before NIikhat's second attempt, there was no ticking clock on the matter. It wasn't like someone had a gun to his head telling that he only had 30 minutes to get Zoya to the SM. He had time. He had a chance to reason with her. To make her see his side of the situation. Especially when he could see how much she was against leaving.
The only time he brought up Nikhat, was when they realized that she had to sign the nikaahnama. AND EVEN THEN, he didn't ask her. He just demanded she do it. He said "we HAVE to do this."
I'm sorry but I will forever disagree with how he did this. HIs character was meant to respect women, to allow them to not be forced into things. And allow them to have say. Especially after Zoya's involvement in his life. And all that went down the drain with this action of his.
I'm not saying his character is ruined forever, but it's severely damaged in my eyes. The Asad I knew, is highly corrupted in my eyes.
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