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Originally posted by: _QueenofHearts_

Even if she is traumatized, its been 2 months now :S cant she see the pain she is causing others?

Originally posted by: Ameres

I'm getting what you are trying to say but what she is going through does happen. Like you said rape is a huge matter, she is badly traumatized and in such situations people become detached from others. Sometimes when we are miserable over some matter, we feel like locking ourselves in a room and not talking to anyone. That is what she is doing I believe. Right now she is mentally very disturbed so it can't be easy for her to act normal and get over it. It takes time.

Moreover, not everyone is alike and everyone has a different way of dealing with the pain. Some find support in others while others who are too deep in the pain and suffering cut themselves off from the world. They feel anger towards the world in a way, for letting this happen and maybe somewhere believe that it would be better if they are not around.

I watched that scene where she was blaming herself for the incident, so see she thinks of herself as the wrong doer. So by being away from them she believes she will cause less pain to them.

Just what I understand and have observed, I might be wrong but everyone has their own experiences.

Originally posted by: happyviewer

here are my pearls of wisdom😆...

first of all, arfa didnt do any wrong, its not her fault she was raped...going out with her friend doesnt give anyone a right to drug her and rape her...the only wrong doer here is the rapist...he is the one everyone should be dsigusted with but unfortunately in our society the victim is raped over and over again by the well wishers,they do so by constantly talking about the rape,making the victim feel shes not pure anymore, that her life is over...i am not saying its the case with arfa...arfs's family is being very supportive...however arfa thinks she isnt good enough for junaid...because as i stated above, she thinks she isnt pure anymore...she is used goods...which is utter nonsense in my pov...i hope the drama focuses more on blaming the rapist and not the victim.

Originally posted by: happyviewer

here are my pearls of wisdom😆...

first of all, arfa didnt do any wrong, its not her fault she was raped...going out with her friend doesnt give anyone a right to drug her and rape her...the only wrong doer here is the rapist...he is the one everyone should be dsigusted with but unfortunately in our society the victim is raped over and over again by the well wishers,they do so by constantly talking about the rape,making the victim feel shes not pure anymore, that her life is over...i am not saying its the case with arfa...arfs's family is being very supportive...however arfa thinks she isnt good enough for junaid...because as i stated above, she thinks she isnt pure anymore...she is used goods...which is utter nonsense in my pov...i hope the drama focuses more on blaming the rapist and not the victim.

Originally posted by: _QueenofHearts_

Even if she is traumatized, its been 2 months now :S cant she see the pain she is causing others?

Originally posted by: Ameres

No, she can't. Why? Because she is too badly stuck in that event. God forbid it never happens to anyone, Allah reham kare but it is a huge matter for a girl. It affects their whole life. And from what I understand some people take more time to get over bad events as compared to others. They are too badly stuck in their own suffering to realize how they are affecting other peoples life. Yes, some people may see it as a selfish act but its not selfish just that the person is too miserable to think rationally. Bad events can turn a person bitter, mostly people do change...and not for the good. Thats what I have seen; human nature is complicated to say the least.

Lol, it must sound like I'm trying to defend Arfa or what but nothing like that, not even a big fan of her but just your question kind of interested me and like good discussion. =P

@Usman- Thank you. :)