Some introspect into today's episode!

I kept watching the scene where Gopi sweetly continues to wish Ahem as he pretends to sleep. I wonder if he was really asleep there or just acting. But the manner he ignores her and doesn't give a damn about her at first and then the way he disrespects her by not even giving her a wife's respect in front of his friends was just beyond my comprehension. What really got to me was poor Gopi continuing to wish him before clock strikes 12 again as she stood there in the dark room. My heart just broke for her there. And here, our hero, Mr Ahem, wanted someone like Anita to wish him in her skimpy clothes over phone. Someone's constant tries to learn a language that she has never even been familiarized with in a matter of hours becomes a ridiculing moment for Ahem there But on the same note, his own apparent arrogance and uncaring attitude, even towards his own "educated" friends in the party, was simply obnoxious.

I am not at all against the character of Ahem. I think that he's been exposed to a lot of pressures, both from his mother and from the outside world to become a worthy son that his dad could never become. Similarly, he is one who has immersed himself in a plethora of work that for him means everything. But when Anita's shots are shown, we see Ahem taking a keen interest in her. What really boggles my mind is that he fell in love and even wanted to continue with this romance knowing well enough that he has to get his mother's approval first before he can even put one step ahead. The way he gave up on his relationship with Anita (for all I care, she may be genuinely in love with him), was a cowardly action too. Only because he never fought for his love or even introduced her to his mother.

So Mr. Ahem decided to ruin 3 lives there.. Yes, I know that eventually we will all be goo goo gaga over Ahem-Gopi once their romance begins but how can we forget the year-long atrocities over Gopi, the emotional heartache of Anita, and the robot-like-life of Ahem with that one decision of his to follow whatever his mother asks of him to do? We certainly cannot. I want these aspects to be answered and have a proper closure. Also, I want Gopi's innocence and her beautiful character to shine through everything. Not how she dresses or makes up her hair or puts make up on.. I want her inner beauty to shine through for Ahem and I want Ahem to fall for her for her pure heart.. And that's about it.

I am really amazed with the production company btw.. With soaps usually, there is not a bank of episodes. But they showed the cake cutting ceremony back on 18th April, 2011 in SBS segment or so and now they aired it today.. LIke 10 days later. Quite commendable on their part because usually, soaps are shot with 2-days difference literally.

Anyhow, before I go.. I must introduce myself to those who don't know me. I am Sana and I have been around I-F forever :P I just came across Saathiya and I have to thank Sadhli's awesome YT channel for helping me out with catching up with the show. I have watched like 100s or so episodes in a matter of days *hehehe*. It is a very interesting ensemble of characters and I see that the forum is quite active too so hoping to make new friends and share more views from time to time :)

Cheers,
Sana~

Welcome Sana! You echoed my thoughts exactly. Your precision in analysing the show is brilliant.

Welcome ...I started watching in December ..but became a active member in january . and like you I watched all the epi.. in a matter of weeks. Loved you write-up . by the way I am Anjula

Hey Aviva.. Hope I am not ruining your name there :P Anyhow, thank u for your kind welcome and your comments. I have my own flaws in terms of analyzing characters but I try to be fair to them. I can't write off a character completely, even if it means critiquing Urmila's character 😉

I will share more of my thoughts later. I gotta sleep now. Ek Baj gaye laiken kahaani abhi baaki hai 😉

Nice meeting u, hun 🤗

Cheers,
Sana~

Sana, you're absolutely brilliant. I just started watching the show myself, and Sadhli's videos on YT helped me catch up too.

@ Yuks: Oh, we go ages back *haha* Was so happy to see u in the development team there. Familiar faces always rock for me and the transition is easier too *hehehe*. Hope u enjoying the new position, hun *hugs* & thank u for the sweet comments 🤗

I am hoping that once Ahem falls for Gopi, he does remember this very instance of Gopi standing there like a little doll and singing happy b'day to him and his arrogant behavior. That would really savor the day for me then. It would be a sweet flashback too and his retaliation at that time with love would be AWESOME to watch 😉

I can't comment on Anita's character because she has been not shown as much to be honest. Its nothing to do with being educated or not. Its physical attraction at first, u see. Or perhaps they were college friends and they just fell in love. Love does not need to be explained, it just happens and its just that moment where two people click and viola. So I won't comment on what Anita has that Gopi doesn't. But let's face it. In today's world, which literate person would like to marry an illiterate one? That's the reality of our society today and we can't really turn our face away from it. All of us are guilty of it to some extent..😭

Ahem's character is an interesting character, Yuks. Despite all his flaws which are being highlighted right now, he's got a good heart and good soul deep within. As I said, he must have endured so many external and internal pressures of being the best out there. I have been there in my own life where the expectations out of you really overwhelm u at one point. Be these from ur family or friends or at workplace... U are human and u've got a limit to endure everything. So u react then towards such expectations. Some of us are able to react positively or decompress ourselves while other have bottleneck reactions (such as Ahem). He's bottled up his reactions within him and his arrogant exterior and no-care-attitude is a proof of this. Once Gopi is able to make a dent into his heart, I am sure his softer side is going to be loved by all as well :)

"You need to stand back sometimes to appreciate a work of art.
Distance creates fondness in the heart"

Loved this quote there, Yuks.. After all, the distance does make the heart grow fonder *hehehe* So totally agree with u there 😳

Gopi should not act like this but coming from her character, her life is wholly devoted to her hubby. Be it any of his chore or work, she is there to do it like a servant and this is not her fault but the fault of her upbringing in a society where hubby is treated by most as a God. This is another thing.. Had she been educated, she would know the difference between such a behavior vs. equality of rights in b/w genders. But we can't expect her to know this. However, I really do hope & praying hard that she does not THROW herself onto Ahem in Switzerland. And I also dont want Ahem to get close to her in Switzerland as a consequence of some majboori or under the influence of alcohol or some other intoxicating drug (if u understand what I mean).

Love reading ur analysis too, Missy. Stay tuned! Me can't wait *hehehe*

Love, Sana~

Originally posted by: ANJ4

Welcome ...I started watching in December ..but became a active member in january . and like you I watched all the epi.. in a matter of weeks. Loved you write-up . by the way I am Anjula

Hey Anjula, Nice meeting u there 😳

Its amazing how in a matter of days, I have come to know the entire story. I must say that other than the silly box track of Nani ji, I was quite impressed with the pace of the story. It has been intriguing throughout and I hope it keeps its momentum going strong even now that we move towards Ahem-Gopi's romance track. I hope the pace is a bit slow.. Not too rushed. I despise rushed pace romances after such slow track of separation.. That is one of my pet peeves *lol* Anyhow, nice meeting ya :))

Cheers,
Sana~

These CV's just want to confuse us...up until this episode we thought it was a good thing that Naani came to the house and forced Aham to be around Gopi to see what all she is doing for him, thought we hated the hand holding scene, we saw the result of it (Aham questioning Gopi's sitting beside him all night...thereby revealing to him this girl will do anything for me), the breakfast crying by Gopi the reaction from him...all this was caused by Naani forcing them to be in each others pockets, also Gopi is learning what foods he likes (when she first served him puri...he doesn't like fried stuff and doesn't care for puris...when he refused them, at least she knows he doesn't like them...it's good for the wife a homemaker (gharwali) to know what food her husband likes...so we were all for them being closer, even yesterday on the birthday...Kokila's efforts of inviting the friends got him to acknowledge her to his friends...meet my wife Gopi, and the candles burning her hand, he grabbing the hand and showing his care for her. What has thrown a spanner into the works is the Anita scene yesterday (as the friends asked Gopi to Sing Happy Birthday to him) so perhaps we shouldn't read too much into the scene yesterday, as he requiring distance to appreciate Gopi because it's just a small comparison my ex-girlfriend could sing sweetly happy birthday and my wife cannot do that...but hasn't Gopi been singing sweetly all those Pooja prayers everyday for a year, he will have a good night's sleep and that will be the end of it.

Originally posted by: Anhdara13

Sana, you're absolutely brilliant. I just started watching the show myself, and Sadhli's videos on YT helped me catch up too.

I don't know if I was sad for Gopi, or simply frustrated. Gopi's been shown as so naive and easy to take advantage of, and so puppy-like - always around that I think Ahem is annoyed. Like Yuks said, she needs to take a step back. She needs to let him come to her, because this will only make him more angry. She's the only one at home that he seems to take all his frustrations out on.

Hey Anhdara (hope that's ur name or is there an easier one too? 😉)

Aww.. Sooo sweet of u but honestly hun..There ain't no brilliance left in me. If that was the case, I would not have messed up a 10-mark question on my final exam tonite 😭😭 Anyhow, let me not bore u with my sad stories of the finals. I wasted days watching Saathiya instead of studying and its my own freak'n fault 😭😭 ~

Coming back to ur awesome post, I have to say that Sadhli's videos were brilliant. But wats even amazing is that I was able to find all videos from a year back on dailymotion's website. They also helped a lot. Because I like to know the entire track.. Just wat kind of kalakariyan happened before having a particular Jigar-Rashi moment or Ahem-Gopi scolding session. I watched the pant scene just yesterday and I died laughing there. I never knew they'd incorporate that one there *lol*. It was so sweet and yet so funny *hahaha*

I dont have a problem with Gopi being a doormat. Her character is made to be one so u can't expect much from her in that department. This is where her "educated" husband should come in and make her realize that there is a world and life outside the home and that she does not need to revolve her life around her hubby only but take part in other things too. I wrote a detailed view on Gopi' getting too close to Ahem and all in my reply to Yuks above so pls do read that 😃 But I just dont want her to throw herself on Ahem in Switzerland or else... My chappals will be ready and CVs must run for their lives *lol* (j/k) Honestly, I can think and visualize such awesome, sweet and drama/suspense-full scenes where one jolt can shake Ahem completely and make him realize how precious Gopi really is and how much she dotes on him. But if it gets wasted in the name of intoxication or a weak moment or our Gopi throwing herself on him..Then I will be flabbergasted for sure. I am sure that I will still find a way to sympathize towards her. But let's not forget the environment Gopi was raised under and continues to be a part of..

I hope they can show the closeness of Ahem-Gopi and a drift in b/w Jigar-Rashi as this happens. Rashi needs to wake up and smell up the coffee too. And for that, Jigar needs to give her space..A lot of space.. Perhaps have a sweet college friend pop in to make her jealous *hahaha* Jigar is a sweetheart, I tell ya ;))

I am out for the nite folks so see ya later tomorrow.. In the evening most probably..Take care and nice meeting u all and THANK U for responding to my first post here 😳🤗

Love, Sana~