Jafaa (HUM) - Mohib Mirza, Mawra Hocane, Seher Khan - Page 93

Originally posted by: Hatimoon

Yes I've seen that scene but saying that you can't force me to marry and I've right to refuse weren't enough. I think either writer skipped counselling part or Andaleeb wanted to live college love life with Moiz which her father was opposed to so she didn't make much efforts to prevent the marriage.

Talked to her dad but the Hitler dad didn't care. All for her good, screw her emotional and mental well-being.

Her mom was beating and threatening her.

She didn't even like numair before and even after getting married, she refused his hands.

She was even planning to run away, albeit with Moiz.

Andleeb would not have chosen Numair if she had the chance to.

Numair is a good guy but living with Andleed and excepting her to forget about Moiz in 2 days is stupidity.

I don't even move on from a stained shirt or broken heels in 2 days.

Originally posted by: meandwho

He had many option to choose from, he chose the worst one by getting her married. Just some chat gpt options (which doesn't suggest to marry her off)

Parents can play a supportive role by ensuring that any decisions she makes are well-informed and that she has a plan for a successful transition to independence.

1. Open Dialogue: Parents should have a calm and honest conversation with their daughter. They can express their concerns and listen to her perspective. This might help in understanding her reasons and finding common ground.

2. Offer Support: Sometimes young adults consider running away because they feel unsupported or misunderstood. Offering emotional support and discussing her plans for the future can be helpful.

3. Discuss Practicalities: Encourage her to think about the practical aspects of living independently, such as financial stability, housing, and career prospects. Sometimes, facing the reality of these challenges can make her reconsider her decision.

4. Explore Compromise: If her desire to leave is partly due to conflicts at home, finding ways to address those issues and improve the living situation might help her feel less inclined to run away.

5. Provide Resources: If she's determined to move forward, providing information about resources such as housing, employment, and education can help her make a more informed decision.

6. Respect Independence: At 18, she is legally an adult and has the right to make her own choices. While parents can offer guidance and support, ultimately, she will make her own decisions.

There were so many options, too progressive for ptv writers lol

They rarely write good ptv dads anyway, if they do, they die prematurely when the fls need them the most.

Deebu's dad should have gone through that. He is useless.

Originally posted by: music_girl

she tried offing herself, what more efforts you want exactly?

Talked to her dad but the Hitler dad didn't care. All for her good, screw her emotional and mental well-being.

Her mom was beating and threatening her.

She didn't even like numair before and even after getting married, she refused his hands.

She was even planning to run away, albeit with Moiz.

Andleeb would not have chosen Numair if she had the chance to.

Numair is a good guy but living with Andleed and excepting her to forget about Moiz in 2 days is stupidity.

I don't even move on from a stained shirt or broken heels in 2 days.

What was the point of conflict? The point of conflict was Moiz, her father had no trust on him. Instead of trying to kill herself she should've tried to resolve that issue with her father. She should've said that send me abroad for studies or change my college so I can't meet Moiz before engagement. She didn't make such efforts.

When Numair's mother had come to Andaleeb's home to give her a new lehenga in pretence to ask for her hand in marriage, Andaleeb clearly told Numair that she wanted to study further and requested him to decline the proposal.

Deebu's dad was hellbent on getting her married so it's not anyone else's fault but the fathers. He claims to LOVE his daughter so much. If he was hurt by Andaleeb coz she sneaked her BF inside the house, he could have talked to her and heard her POV and could have also told her nicely that what she did was wrong. No one else but he saw them together so this whole naatak about "izzat" is redundant.

She is not dumb so she would have understood her dad's POV if he would have talked to her and explained himself and his thoughts and also heard hers in return. She was ready to study further if the dad had given her an option.

Originally posted by: Hatimoon

What was the point of conflict? The point of conflict was Moiz, her father had no trust on him. Instead of trying to kill herself she should've tried to resolve that issue with her father. She should've said that send me abroad for studies or change my college so I can't meet Moiz before engagement. She didn't make such efforts.

Children makes mistakes and parents must be forgiving. Otherwise what's the use, even conservative parents.

I let it here. Seems you want to defend the regressive script. Blaming young people when older ones should deal with maturity.

Originally posted by: minakrish

When Numair's mother had come to Andaleeb's home to give her a new lehenga in pretence to ask for her hand in marriage, Andaleeb clearly told Numair that she wanted to study further and requested him to decline the proposal.

Deebu's dad was hellbent on getting her married so it's not anyone else's fault but the fathers. He claims to LOVE his daughter so much. If he was hurt by Andaleeb coz she sneaked her BF inside the house, he could have talked to her and heard her POV and could have also told her nicely that what she did was wrong. No one else but he saw them together so this whole naatak about "izzat" is redundant.

She is not dumb so she would have understood her dad's POV if he would have talked to her and explained himself and his thoughts and also heard hers in return. She was ready to study further if the dad had given her an option.

Exactly

Especially when Andleeb and Moiz were shown as 18 years old (even if they tried to change their age later which again makes no sense cos they go to university afterwards)

Teenagers and young adults make mistakes all the time. That does not mean older adults shod drive them to such a point where they feel self harm is an option.

The mind must feel really desperate, helpless and bleak to resort to such options when people who should be understanding, are not.

Disclaimer: not a fan of any characters in this show, but damn the regressive script... can't believe people are bypassing self harm, suicide, forced shaadi to justify shitty actions of supposedly mature and loving parents

Originally posted by: music_girl

she does tell she'll only study which her father admonishes, a second time with the mom, did say he won't send her abroad but to marry numair he just wanted to get rid of her before she run away with moiz, damn her choice or damn if she dies lol

Children makes mistakes and parents must be forgiving. Otherwise what's the use, even conservative parents.

I let it here. Seems you want to defend the regressive script. Blaming young people when older ones should deal with maturity.

I've not seen that scene where she tells her mother that you won't send me abroad but marry numair, so yeah as she has made effort to prevent the marriage & she was ready to move away from Moiz then it was her father's fault. I already said that correct me if I'm wrong in my earlier post as I've seen only first few episodes yet.

Originally posted by: Hatimoon

I've not seen that scene where she tells her mother that you won't send me abroad but marry numair, so yeah as she has made effort to prevent the marriage & she was ready to move away from Moiz then it was her father's fault. I already said that correct me if I'm wrong in my earlier post as I've seen only first few episodes yet.

It's more faulty writing for shock value than actual storytelling. This show uses consent, emotional, mental and physical abuse for ratings and views or the writer is plain dumb. If you watch future episodes, you might see.

Disclaimer: not a numair hater or moiz lover, i don't ship any ship

Originally posted by: music_girl

the father tells the mom that he won't send her, not to Andaleeb. That being said, the parents didn't even have a conversation with her.

It's more faulty writing for shock value than actual storytelling. This show uses consent, emotional, mental and physical abuse for ratings and views or the writer is plain dumb. If you watch future episodes, you might see.

Disclaimer: not a numair hater or moiz lover, i don't ship any ship

I think his father thought that if he send her abroad she would do the same there what she is doing here. Basically he didn't trust his daughter. His decision to marry her with numair was the mixture of protective mindset as well as regressive thinking.

Originally posted by: music_girl

classic case of I love my child when she's good and follows what I say and I ruin her life when she disrupt the rules and norms

People like these don't deserve to be parents. That's not parenting.

We are definitely not the target audience especially when you see how much gaslighting is there, how the writer used sensitive issues for ratings and no coherence at all

I'm not the target audience of any of these shows but you know loyalty towards that 40% dna in me and Stockholm syndrome is what makes me keep coming back lol

The parents in most of these shows do bare minimum parenting..saying annoying corny lines and happy times where kids do what they please isn't being a good parent..it also involves accepting your kids with flaws/mistakes .. i think its a societal problem where older family members are put on a pedestal where their so called life experience (and their standing in society) is worth more than young people's choices and aspirations ...