Originally posted by: Sneha2002
But they did Tap in their previous life and got boon from Brahma ji to marry Lord Vishnu and Regarding independence we should not look at them from today's lens ... Pativrata Dharma was considered good that's why Sati Anusuya , Tulsi , Sita Mata and Savitri were considered vandaniya and I think it's good if husband is good and Regarding independence I think many women choose to be in service to their husbands and that's why many men also prospered like Revati gave her Kakustha kingdom for Dwarka .... Draupadi was Finance minister, Hidimba , Chitrangda, Ulupi raised their son 's alone without husbands, Satyabhama was warrior... Besides those days people used to follow many types of fast so it was not possible for everyone to work like Kaushalya Ma was praying to Lord Vishnu whole night before vanvas news breakthrough by Lord Ram so when will she in politics ..she used to do so many vrat to Lord Vishnu but Kaikayi used to be in yuddh and politics
See first and foremost, if Vishnu ji wanted to honor the boon of Brahma then he could have been born in multiple forms (just like Laksmi ji was born as Ashbharya)
I am not saying Pativrata Dharma is bad, I am just saying polygamy is bad (both polygyny and polyandry) one need not marry anyone to support her, supporting could be done by making her independent
About the women you mentioned-- Draupadi was Finance minister only till the time Yudhisthir wanted, she had to leave the moment he asked to(though most of the money with them was her dowry), Hidimba, Ulupi, all raised the children alone as the regent for their sons, didn't have any right on the property. Hidimba actually needed a male protector for herself so had to have a child from a man who killed her brother (I know the statements like love come up, but will anyone love a man who killed her brother immediately after he did that?), Chitrangada, was a princess and raised her son as the crown prince of her father's kingdom with no right herself. Ulupi, again only had Arjun because she needed a son for herself from him. Kekayi was is Yudhh and politics only till her husband wanted. Which of these women were independent?
Is Vrata only meant for royal females? Didn't others do that? And they even after that did all their duties.
If a woman wants to be with her husband and be her support its great, in fact a great family set up by both of them consensually. But if 16 thousand women become dependent on one man and marry him because they have no where else to go, then that shows their restrictions. One need not marry to survive, or because they have nowhere else to go. Thats what I am saying.
It's just so freaking annoying 
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