Single Mom Era is old thing for Era where mom gets super papa. - Page 5

Originally posted by: lagjagale

That's just it. It is a matter of perspective, so you can't say that Abhi's mistake is a bigger mistake or a smaller mistake. Both are mistakes. The only difference is in who has taken responsibility and who hasn't. Abhi has had a realization, decided to be a better person, accepted his mistakes, etc. He also only brought up the issue of the calls like once and, even then said he recognizes his mistake, but she could have tried harder. On the other hand, Ak has stuck by her mistakes at every turn. At every point, her mistake is either not a mistake at all or is small, and so people's reactions to them are wrong, not hers.

It's a matter of perspective. I didn't see any of this happening.

Originally posted by: Krinya

It's a matter of perspective. I didn't see any of this happening.

Which mistake is bigger is a matter of perspective; the facts of the show aren't. If you missed some episodes, I can fill you in, but all of this has been shown very clearly. If you want to reject the narrative, that's your business, and I am not interested in alternate interpretations.

Originally posted by: lagjagale

Which mistake is bigger is a matter of perspective; the facts of the show aren't. If you missed some episodes, I can fill you in, but all of this has been shown very clearly. If you want to reject the narrative, that's your business, and I am not interested in alternate interpretations.

Abhim telling shefali something or telling manjari that humne is ghar ki bahu ke saath acha nahi kiya adds upto nothing to me. Except sirat ma apology , he never said anything to akshu , nothing about divorce or accusing her of murders. Infact he tells his mom either everyone was right or all were wrong .

He said "I didn't pick up the calls Haan main bhi trauma mei tha" , it's not realisation to me , it's not even feeling guilty it's not owning up to mistakes also giving a justification .

More than that , there was zero realization from his side of aksharas pain and acting upon it.... You give her pain and you cry that akshara is in pain bec I took away abhir adds upto nothing to me...he fights the case and says akshara only wanted custody case, all I wanted was to be part of abhirs life is stupid... Saying something and doing the opposite bec his mummy says so, that's what he always do. Doesn't mean he realized he was wrong.

Whose mistake was bigger? We are still debating if aksharas actions were right or wrong but there wasn't any debate about abhimanyus actions on wd..everyone agrees he became a monster that day...BUT.. Trying to justify abhim bec akshara is stupid, vile , criminal, bhagodi etc etc doesn't cut it for me.

Beautiful post. Those who laugh have nothing sensible to say imo. 🙂

No choice is right or wrong. I appreciate single mothers if that’s what they think would give their child happiness. And it’s also okay to remarry a good guy and move on in life. There is no wrong answer.

As a mother ist ultimately their choice and I respect that. Akshara tho is extremely lucky for meeting a nice guy like abhinav who has no expectations even now other than showering love to his family for over 7 years . But not all ITV leads are that lucky to find a partner with no expectations. Akshara choosing to move on with abhinav is beautifully shown , the seven years with him healed her wounds and gave her confidence back. Imagine abhinav to be a guy who gets jealous of Akshara’s ex abhiM, her life would have been miserable balancing both. Abhinav being an orphan also made it simpler cos even if abhinav has no expectations if he had a family they would have expectations from Akshara all these years That’s what makes abhinav a beautiful character, and Akshara had so many years with him to gain the trust and know him and live a peaceful life with no outside interactions.

I don’t find neither the choice to be a single mom wrong nor to marry and have a happy family for the kid wrong.

Wonderful...beautifully written!!!

Y should akshu remain single when she has the opportunity to give a complete happy family to abhir....abhinav, if not more...atleast loves abhir as much as akshu does...and that too selfless.....

Absolutely! Whether a woman chooses to be single or get married, it’s her choice and how she wants to spend her life. And what kind of life she wants to give her child. Both are valid choices, as long as it’s not forced. I also don’t think there’s anything wrong in remarrying for the sake of your children. Marriage serves a lot of purposes. Ppl marry for love, companionship, financial stability, physical and emotional needs, to gain respect in society, for parents. They can also marry for their children. I mean we have seen and heard of men remarrying for their children so many times. One example was YHM. If the other person is good, respects you and your children and can be a great parent then why not? If their ultimate goal is to give this child a happy home, a sense of a father figure and a mother figure, a safe and a healthy environment in which the child could thrive then that’s not a wrongful thinking. It’s their choice! I understand that love is an important factor but it’s not the only factor in a relationship. Life doesn’t work like that. It’s not a fairytale for everyone. It was high time itv stepped out of this old mindset of fml pining over her ex and having no control over her heart and mind as soon as the ex comes back. Irl Ppl move on, fall in love again, and can lead a happy boring life together. Who in their right mind would want to go back to a place full of everyday drama, toxicity, and unnecessary conflicts. AK had found her peace with AbhiN and Abhir.

Originally posted by: Sana_a

Absolutely! Whether a woman chooses to be single or get married, it’s her choice and how she wants to spend her life. And what kind of life she wants to give her child. Both are valid choices, as long as it’s not forced. I also don’t think there’s anything wrong in remarrying for the sake of your children. Marriage serves a lot of purposes. Ppl marry for love, companionship, financial stability, physical and emotional needs, to gain respect in society, for parents. They can also marry for their children. I mean we have seen and heard of men remarrying for their children so many times. One example was YHM. If the other person is good, respects you and your children and can be a great parent then why not? If their ultimate goal is to give this child a happy home, a sense of a father figure and a mother figure, a safe and a healthy environment in which the child could thrive then that’s not a wrongful thinking. It’s their choice! I understand that love is an important factor but it’s not the only factor in a relationship. Life doesn’t work like that. It’s not a fairytale for everyone. It was high time itv stepped out of this old mindset of fml pining over her ex and having no control over her heart and mind as soon as the ex comes back. Irl Ppl move on, fall in love again, and can lead a happy boring life together. Who in their right mind would want to go back to a place full of everyday drama, toxicity, and unnecessary conflicts. AK had found her peace with AbhiN and Abhir.

TBH, with what abhi had done....agar akshu ko uske liye intzaar karte hue dikhaate...and akshu running and saying ILU to abhi....kitna odd hota...kya hai love karne ke liye abhi mein...for akshu...what he has done to akshu...love aayega kahan se uske mann mein?

Originally posted by: Krinya

It's a matter of perspective. I didn't see any of this happening.

really....kahan hai realisation???makers ne dikhaya hi nahi hai...and afster he loses abhir and ruhi..ab to tabhi aayega..and IMO, makers tabhi dikhayenge...

Originally posted by: Sukriti4u

This is my perspective on the matter. Akshara may have made some mistakes, but Abhimanyu's refusal to listen to her side of the story and asking her to leave was a much bigger mistake. His handling of her vulnerable state was without any empathy. Despite her attempts to reach out to him, he disregarded her. When she had the child, only Abhinav stood by her side.

She shouldn't be expected to publicly announce on the radio or a mic about her whereabouts and well-being. She made her efforts, and therefore, she had the right to move on without owing anyone explanations or revelations.

exactly...she had made all the efforts inspite of being treated inumaely by abhi...the first person she called even in that state was abhi..and he rejected her calls and did not make an effort to cal;l her back..she called again....and he clearly said that he has nothing to do with her or the kid....her moving on with abhinav was a wise step...looking at what he had done for abhir and her...