What is wrong with Akshara's POV - Page 6

Originally posted by: Sukriti4u

Akshara's actions may appear inconsistent, but we must remember that parenting is a complex journey filled with emotional ups and downs. It's natural for parents to have moments of uncertainty and conflicting feelings, especially when navigating difficult situations.

As for the Sharma family's reaction to the title "Dada," it's important to understand that their emotions and actions stem from their own experiences and perspectives. Accepting Abhimanyu as Abhir's biological father and allowing him to reconnect can be a challenging process for them, given their love for Abhir and their desire to protect him. It's not a reflection of being small-hearted but rather a testament to the complexity of human emotions and the complexities of blended families.

Hi sukriti👋

Read all your posts and tried to understand your POV regarding human emotions and the way people experience and deal with it differently.

Completely agree with you, however, abhi was going through the same in the last 6 yrs. He had lost his brother, his twins, his partner. Akshara at some point had abhir to hold onto and move on in life. But abhi was alone, suffering and mourning his dead babies. Why are his suffering any less than Akshara's?? Why does Akshara deserve more sympathy??

Also, someone mentioned about strong FLs in ITV like Sona, Mauli, prerna, Priya. All of them were pregnant when their partners left them or cheated on them. They didn't replace the father in their children's life.

Infact, Priya from BALH gave birth to ruhi in jail. She was accused of Ram's sister's death which she hadn't committed. Wasn't her trauma big enough?? Though she hid ruhi's truth from ram, she didn't replace ram.

The example I stated was just to make a point that, the reason behind Akshara hiding truth was revenge and only that. If at all she had cared about the baby, she would ve gone back to Goenka's knowing the risk involved in her complicated pregnancy. She took the risk, which was not required, and the toofani raat story that followed wouldn't have had happened.

If we keep the past aside, until custody case, she didn't wanted abhir to know the truth, even after knowing that he knows half truth and is emotionally troubled. The reason being she wanted to keep Abhinav's father status intact. No matter what abhinav should be happy.

Akshara is a big disappointment as a FL, as a woman, as a partner and as a mother.

Originally posted by: dotheDrama

If this is what the writers are intending to portray, they are doing a very bad job. The thoughts that run through Akshara’s mind are dangerous considering she has a son who is going through a tough time. Rather than focusing on her son’s mental state, she is seen time and again trying to convince everyone that Abhinav is Abhir’s dad, and Abhir will be happy only with them and not Abhimanyu. Any sane parent here will ensure that their child is comfortable, but she is only bothered about the bond he is forming with Abhimanyu. There was a thread earlier about entitled behavior. That is exactly what she is showing now.

More importantly, how come when it comes to Akshara and Abhinav's "parental" feelings, then it's all about the "complexities of parenthood/human behavior", but when it comes to Abhimanyu the parent, he is not even allowed the basics of parenthood? If he yearns to spend time with his child, be a part of his life.... people label him a disruptor....how come all these considerations are not thought of then? And in his case, he never even begrudged that his son is calling someone else Papa....STILL he was dismissed as "only a biological father"......LOL but now a laundry list of considerations are being demanded by people who are SO petty and selfish that they are begrudging a loving relationship being added to their son's life....not from a stranger, but from his own father.....they are too busy feeling insecure about their own position in Abhir's life rather than feeling happy that there is more love for him to experience from another parent.

Those who want to preach on "complexities" should first try to apply the same standards for every character in this story first. Might give some validity to the preaching then rather than just being empty words.

Sorry but it seems to me that your blanket statement for Ak or Nav's behavior is that human emotions are complex and they are allowed to show negative emotions, but when it comes to Abhi and his emotions and complexity you are not saying anything.

People can have all kinds of reactions to trauma. If Ak hiding Abhir's truth and naming a friend as his father is a response to trauma, then Abhi divorcing Ak and blaming her is also a response to trauma. He is also human and can also have negative reactions to situations that go beyond his control.

If Abhi abandoned Ak, she also abandoned not just him, but her whole family. The Goenkas who only wanted to support her were abandoned by her. Oh they were blaming her for Neils death? Manjari herself blamed Abhi for Neil's death. He didn't up and leave. His whole world got destroyed but he is still standing and supporting the people he loves. Point is, his trauma should have the same recognition as hers does.

What I feel about akshu :

In a small village, lived a covert dame,

A mother who played a dangerous game.

With nimble fingers, she forged pages with care,

Creating artful illusions, beyond compare.

Behind closed doors, she quelled her fears,

Crafting masterpieces, shedding silent tears.

In her jam-stained den, secrets were woven,

Whispers of deceit, her heart was stolen.

With graceful strokes, she traced each line,

Mimicking truth, as if by design.

Her forgeries flawless, a perfect disguise,

A fraud so captivating, it mesmerized.

Originally posted by: JustaFan13

Ikr,

Diplomatic log hi sabko achhe lagte hai, abhi jaise honest straightforward insaan ko koi pasand nahi karta. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

Ohh so now Abhir is not talking to his mummy but Abhir and Nav are hugging 🤣

Dogalapan kehte hai isko

Thank you guys lagjagale, Areyaar & justafan

This is what I have been thinking and wanted to say. Why Abhimanyu as a character has been denied or labeled as bad, haq, a mere sperm donor, just a biological father and what not while others are entitled to feel humanely emotions.

I re-watch the WD recently. Everyone in the house including Akshara excepted him to understand their pain, their pov but none thought of him.

His mother slapped him blaming him why he couldn't save his brother. His wife was their who wanted him to understand she wasn't wrong for a change it was only Harsh who kind of stood with him.

He was as confused as Abhir when he got to know about him. Whereas this truth is something both Akshara and Abhinav was aware of yet Abhimanyu seems to be more understanding at the moment instead of the duo.

I know what AbhiM did on WD was wrong but Akshara too could've done things better.

And at the moment Abhimanyu is trying to smoothen things not only for himself but Abhir, Akshara and Nav too. While Akshara and Nav have only complicated things for a kid and themselves

Originally posted by: Sukriti4u

Akshara's actions may appear inconsistent, but we must remember that parenting is a complex journey filled with emotional ups and downs. It's natural for parents to have moments of uncertainty and conflicting feelings, especially when navigating difficult situations.

As for the Sharma family's reaction to the title "Dada," it's important to understand that their emotions and actions stem from their own experiences and perspectives. Accepting Abhimanyu as Abhir's biological father and allowing him to reconnect can be a challenging process for them, given their love for Abhir and their desire to protect him. It's not a reflection of being small-hearted but rather a testament to the complexity of human emotions and the complexities of blended families.

The psychological understanding and human experiences are not reserved for Akshara in the show only.

Everyone else went through something, that something molded them the way they are and they are still fighting and learning.

The issue is, Akshara is blaming and not learning anything and everytime she blames and does not introspect cannot be justified on the name of defense mechanism. Because if blaming others for your own mistakes, self inflicted miseries is defence mechanism then that may be a sign of human but definitely not good human- its another Manjiri (after leap 2) and Aarohi (before leap 2)

And it's been 7 years and she never wanted to reveal the truth to either Abhi or Abhir, she did not wanted to bond as strangers, whenever Abhir showers love on Abhi- all they make is sad, insecure faces while on the other side we have Abhimanyu who without any malice in his heart accept the fact that his son already have a father- papa and he just want him to accept him as his father TOO. He always adds himself not remove Sharmas, something what Sharmas do-

And mental health, confusion or whatever Sharmas feel and what COMPEL them to do what they do, is not justifiable on the name of mental health. It may be the cause, the reason but is still not justified

Akshara makes zero sense now…even before first leap for max part sbhi n akshara were separate…love confession happened much late but akshara’s narrative always made sense …I blame the new writers for this

Originally posted by: chaipaani

Thank you guys lagjagale, Areyaar & justafan

This is what I have been thinking and wanted to say. Why Abhimanyu as a character has been denied or labeled as bad, haq, a mere sperm donor, just a biological father and what not while others are entitled to feel humanely emotions.

I re-watch the WD recently. Everyone in the house including Akshara excepted him to understand their pain, their pov but none thought of him.

His mother slapped him blaming him why he couldn't save his brother. His wife was their who wanted him to understand she wasn't wrong for a change it was only Harsh who kind of stood with him.

He was as confused as Abhir when he got to know about him. Whereas this truth is something both Akshara and Abhinav was aware of yet Abhimanyu seems to be more understanding at the moment instead of the duo.

I know what AbhiM did on WD was wrong but Akshara too could've done things better.

And at the moment Abhimanyu is trying to smoothen things not only for himself but Abhir, Akshara and Nav too. While Akshara and Nav have only complicated things for a kid and themselves

This is it in a nutshell. Abhi is the only one trying to give regard to everyone’s emotions while Sharmas barely give him regard as Abhir’s father because they are more consumed with their own insecurities or cooking up new lies to further complicate situations 🤷‍♀️

Basically most of this show is about Abhimanyu trying to manage the mess made by the lies of others - usually Akshara’s lies and pathetic behavior. Lol

Originally posted by: AreYaar

This is it in a nutshell. Abhi is the only one trying to give regard to everyone’s emotions while Sharmas barely give him regard as Abhir’s father because they are more consumed with their own insecurities or cooking up new lies to further complicate situations 🤷‍♀️

Basically most of this show is about Abhimanyu trying to manage the mess made by the lies of others - usually Akshara’s lies and pathetic behavior. Lol