Do you need to be drunk to say ILU to your husband of 6 years. - Page 5

Originally posted by: Kacchakela21

That person said Naira considering Naira's choices superior to that of Akshara's. And here you are arguing about how Akshara could have asked money from Kairav. Then why did Naira not go back to her family or ask money from her family who always supported her, unlike the Goenkas who have always let Akshara down? The other person was of the opinion that faking one's own death was better than moving on in life and getting married to someone. Is it really? It that realistic for you? To make the family who loves you assume that you are dead? And whatever choices Akshara made, she atleast had Abhinav to take care of her during her pregnancy. But Naira was all alone and doing waitressing and other energy consuming small jobs to keep herself afloat. Why are Naira's choices better than Akshara's when objectively speaking Akshara managed to give herself and her child a far more comfortable life than Naira did?

Why ask money ??? Uska haq h uska bhi money h toh kyun nahi puche ?? And not saying choice made by naira is better or akshara.... Choices and situations......

Normal person doesn't go and climb random bus in that halat without and documents or money ... Instead if a girl give a divorce she at least call someone she knows or go back to her parents n uska ghar..... Give me points where you can deny this... I have seen lot of people getting divorce or mending their relationship throughout years.... Nothing like this...

No denying that giving a comfortable life for the child is most important in mothers life ... Well Goenka let down Akshara... Still she is family if not all at least kairav would have helped his sister.... Help puchne se koi chota ni hota h... And she can get married to abhinav n all but not the reason of giving her son his name reason n get married.... There is term God Father you know who cares about the child like their own... She could have gotten married after letting her past shadow of Abhimanyu ... ( Just to point out that the time she got married i meant in this )

If it did not bother why to post this?😂 Lets be honest guys…

Originally posted by: Naay

Why ask money ??? Uska haq h uska bhi money h toh kyun nahi puche ?? And not saying choice made by naira is better or akshara.... Choices and situations......

Normal person doesn't go and climb random bus in that halat without and documents or money ... Instead if a girl give a divorce she at least call someone she knows or go back to her parents n uska ghar..... Give me points where you can deny this... I have seen lot of people getting divorce or mending their relationship throughout years.... Nothing like this...

No denying that giving a comfortable life for the child is most important in mothers life ... Well Goenka let down Akshara... Still she is family if not all at least kairav would have helped his sister.... Help puchne se koi chota ni hota h... And she can get married to abhinav n all but not the reason of giving her son his name reason n get married.... There is term God Father you know who cares about the child like their own... She could have gotten married after letting her past shadow of Abhimanyu ... ( Just to point out that the time she got married i meant in this )

No point in getting energy into explaining this to them they will keep questioning and twisting words to their whims and fancies.😌😁

U r right . No need of Abhinav or Abhimanyu or any male to support yourself and your son. U sell jam or fly planes or be a music therapist .. A women can do anything is what u mean is what I understand.

The female lead character itself is portrayed in bad light . And people are jumping like y Abhimanyu and y Abhinav ...it is either of them . Why can't she be shown as a single women. She is strong and in one of the episodes post marriage she says to Abhi ...thum aag ho tho main Pani ...sab ko keenchke lejasakti hoon .... something like that . But that phase in her was never shown except screaming at Abhimanyu.

Originally posted by: Avanti30

U r right . No need of Abhinav or Abhimanyu or any male to support yourself and your son. U sell jam or fly planes or be a music therapist .. A women can do anything is what u mean is what I understand.

The female lead character itself is portrayed in bad light . And people are jumping like y Abhimanyu and y Abhinav ...it is either of them . Why can't she be shown as a single women. She is strong and in one of the episodes post marriage she says to Abhi ...thum aag ho tho main Pani ...sab ko keenchke lejasakti hoon .... something like that . But that phase in her was never shown except screaming at Abhimanyu.

I agree Akshara is constantly shown as being weak and dependent on men, and she is never given the opportunity to show her strength and independence. This is a shame, because there are many strong and independent women in the world, and it is important for young girls to see positive role models like this.There also strong homemakers too.

I also agree that the show does not need to always focus on a romantic relationship between the female lead and either Abhinav or Abhimanyu.The show could focus on her career, hobbies, her friendships, or her family and just not the men of her life.

She has hardly been shown teaching Abhir, playing with him, teaching music or at the most feeding him . Why everytime they want to show her feeding Abhinav. Does it really happen in normal life . Kya dikha rahe hain ....

Originally posted by: Naay

.., no one is ready to go back and see what happened in Analysis in detail ki akhir aisa kya hua ... instead of making a statement.... Har sikke ka do pehelu hote h .... Everyone is sympathetic towards Akshara now ....abhinav is great.... But koi Abhimanyu ka socha ni ....uski yeh galti h ki use askhu ki samjhane ki koshish ki but usne ni mana toh gussa hua n same time useke mom ki halat was not great like on verge of death... Abhi koi normal insaan kya karta bolo maa ko dekhta ya biwi ko.... and be practical and think in real life m ( like everyone is so much relating to abhinav, think about in real life jo Abhimanyu ka situation m kon my karta ) ...

It's not about who is good HUSBAND .... It's about what is right based on the situation....

Just my opinion feel free to analyse

Since you've mentioned it.. I'm going to give my honest take pal

I've sympathies for Abhimanyu's loss on WD.. I agree his mum n Ar were hysteric.. & in anger n grief he overreacted..

My issues are with what ensued after.. he claimed to love Ak more than himself right.. chlo he came to G house to look for Ak... received the news of her being at a friend's house & therefore decided to go not look for her or not even talk to her.. But then he knew she'd a miscarriage.. not a teeny bit sympathy as a husband or empathy as a doctor.. chalo let's say he continued to be angry for mts. till Ak's marriage news came & there was a leap..

We get to know from the ckts that throughout those 6 yrs everyone believes Ak divorced him & left. He deliberately lied to gain sympathy of both fams.

Ak made a mistake.. suffered loss.. accepted Ab's style of punishment.. built a fam of her own.. and was happy & content with her decision..

But Ab was shown depressed & popping pills, tho he has 0 realization of his mistakes.. he has no fbs of his acts on WD.. only thing he thot he did wrong was blaming her for Sirat's death..

When she openly refused him in temple he got a hang of his mistakes in entirety.. still no apologies.. his newly learned respect jaap only lasted till he knew about Abhir.. after that he couldn't be bothered less about his fiancee he's promised to respect.. He's his same anger, impulsive self & places his maa over anything... where is the ckt development is my issue with him...

What did he learn from his mistakes.. where's the improvement.. he's sitting bw a husband & wife for wks.. and I don't think he's as innocent as he's shown.. wasn't he jealous when Ak casually interacted with even Dr. Rohan before their wedding.. but now he expects to roam in the same house as his ex, have cute banters about breakfast, interfere unnecessarily in family matters and expect everybody to be ok with all of this.

Originally posted by: Avanti30

She has hardly been shown teaching Abhir, playing with him, teaching music or at the most feeding him . Why everytime they want to show her feeding Abhinav. Does it really happen in normal life . Kya dikha rahe hain ....

I agree with you. It's indeed important to depict a balanced view of family dynamics. It seems the focus is heavily inclined towards the relationship between her and Abhinav, while her interactions with Abhir are underrepresented.
It'd be cool if they showed her doing more stuff with her kid, Abhir, like teaching him or just hanging out.

Originally posted by: --Priyaa--

never said that, what I meant was that Naira a woman who stayed strong and had guts to be self reliant is stronger than Akshara a woman with musical talent who relied on a total stranger.I guess there is no point in this.. to each their own.

I have not seen any other seasons....but in general, the scenarios can be so different to make different choices:

naira may not have met a person like abhinav, who she could trust...who she thot could love her baby as alshu thot abhinav will...and it comes out true...abhinav is shown to do anything for abhir....

naira may not be as alone as akshu was...where her family was shown as never visiting her once also...can not imagine how akshu would have felt when n one bothered to visit her in her crisis....how could she trust this family....

akshu may have a different thinking...., she may have wanted to give a complete family to abhir....

akshu may have had the fear that if she did not marry, abhi and his mamma will snatch abhir from her...which would have been true ...looking at things...what makers have shown...

for me, abhi was a stranger to akshu, when he sent the rishta on tilak 1.....she had known abhinav. for a few months.....and abhinav is the reason for her and abhir's survival...so he was not a stranger when akshu proposed marriage to him....he was standing strong with her during her toughest times....

Originally posted by: --Priyaa--

I agree with you. It's indeed important to depict a balanced view of family dynamics. It seems the focus is heavily inclined towards the relationship between her and Abhinav, while her interactions with Abhir are underrepresented.
It'd be cool if they showed her doing more stuff with her kid, Abhir, like teaching him or just hanging out.

i would have loved to c more scenes between akshu and abhir.....

i believe makers have done it on purpose...to show a strong relation between abhinav and abhir....

But what i feel is, abhir is too much attached to both his parents...like most families....one is lienient and other strict....abhinav is shown to b a more lenient parent and akshu a more strict one....abhir always waits for akshu's permission before doing anything....