Okay this is actually disappointing - Page 3

Originally posted by: Baarish_Sim

A part of the problem, imo, is he idolizes her, putting her up on a pedestal that she couldn’t possibly live up to. Akshu does the same with Aarohi so now that they’re realizing both are fallible, they’re trying to blame someone else (in Abhis case) or take the blame themselves (Akshu’s approach).

Oh yes, he does that as well.

I keep saying that she is a mere human being but he had put her up so much that she is bound to disappoint him sometimes...this is the first one.

In essence they are still learning one another. If you think about it, they never had the chance but learning one another whilst being in a relationship - which many also do anyway - but Abhi's nature is very intense, he wants her all to himself. Again It is a response to this trauma, to keep his loved ones near, but for love to thrive a certain freedom is needed by both as well as autonomy.

Akshu has a self sacrificing nature ( arising from having her needs overlooked in childhood and being parentified from a young age) and this is very obvious when it comes to her family. Abhi finds this hard as it clashes with his nature.

Originally posted by: Baarish_Sim

So I posted this theory earlier and it’s that every panic attack Akshara has is Aarohi or spray related. That day when she had a panic attack before she told Abhi the truth, the attack happened because she was afraid of what he’d do to Aarohi or how the truth would affect her relationship with Aarohi. Likewise, the position she’s in today (collapsed and broken) is because she can’t leave Aarohi. 6 times out of ten, the fear of losing Aarohi outweighs the fear of losing Abhimanyu. There are times when she fears losing Abhi more and chooses him, don’t get me wrong, but the way it’s been shown so far is the fear of losing Aarohi is more prominent. Probably because she takes her relationship wi the Abhi for granted. Akshara is laying on the floor in tears because she’s afraid of his reaction when she tells him she chose Aarohi, cause that’s what her silence and inaction to choose is saying.

Also thank you for contributing to my thread! It’s an hour to talk to you!

This is what I wrote in that other post:

I've seen posts theorizing about Akshu's panic attacks and why they don't happen in every stressful situation, like the confrontation with Abhimanyu yesterday (she was extremely flustered and panicked but it wasn't an attack). After some "research" (read the written updates for all episodes where she had a panic attack), I think I understand why. Akshu's panic attacks only occur during Sirat's death or Aarohi-related matters. Her first panic attack was during her interview with Mahima where she recalled Aarohi's bitter words after Sirat's death. Then, on the trip, she had a panic attack when she feared disappointing Aarohi by staying back because of the job offer. And this pattern continues with Akshu having those recent panic attacks fearing what will happen to Aarohi if the truth comes out or what will happen to their relationship should she reveal the truth.

Interesting and yes, now that you put it like that, her panic attacks are related to Arohi and Sirat. Never with Abhimanyu. Does she take him for granted - of course she does. There's never been any question about it, IMO. And I never saw her actually choose Abhi on her own. There has to be a push from behind or pull from in front.

The makers probably want to show her this way so that when the adoption truth comes out, her supporting and standing with Abhi will have maximum impact. But what they are not realizing is that the way she is right now, if she stands with him during that track, it will be hard to accept that kind of overnight change. Instead they could've shown her not hesitate in today's episode. That, combined with Abhi's words about Arohi would turn Arohi dark and she would bring out the adoption track.

Or maybe they plan to show her change after marriage. But there'd be nothing unusual in that now, would it? With time and as his wife, naturally she would lean towards him.

On a side note, honour is a big word. I like your posts. They see both sides of the coin. So it's great to finally interact with you.

Originally posted by: Suvika.

Hi.

Yes, it wasn't Akshara making a choice today. It was Manish telling her what to do. Or rather ordering her to do it. But that's not what bothered me the most. What is worrisome to me (and I'm sure for most of the Abhira shippers too, if one starts thinking from that angle), is Akshara didn't wait a second once Arohi told her that their car had been the one responsible for the accident. She ran and told Abhi despite Arohi telling her that she's going to ruin her own relationship with Abhimanyu, that he might back out of the wedding. None of those had the power to stop her. She had panic attack, she had tears, she didn't tell it to his face and hid behind a curtain, but at the end of the day, she did tell him what they did. No second thoughts. No attempts to keep quiet knowing or rather, fearing that Abhimanyu might completely break-up with her.

But today Abhimanyu asked her to choose between his love or her sister attending their wedding. An extremely small punishment considering the magnitude of what the sisters did. Yet she collapsed and is unable to choose. And THAT bothered me a lot.

The girl had been ready for a break-up yet now is unable to let go of this sister just for the duration of the wedding.

If it's an abusive relationship that she shares with Arohi, I'd rather they showed Akshara at least wanting to or fighting to get out of it instead of lumping everything under "conditioned behaviour" and / or "stockholm syndrome" or worse, make Abhimanyu come across as mean and unreasonable for wanting to separate the sisters.

As for the morality w.r.t driving under influence and not checking the accident site, ITV is incapable of showing sensitivity so no point delving into that. I know to what extent the writers can go for TRPs in the name of drama.

Sorry for barging into your thread out of blue. I'm Suvika, writer by profession / on/off watcher of this show and silent reader in this forum.

Thanks for tagging me Suvika. I just read it and was thinking how beautifully you explained then saw last para where you mentioned your writer. That explains it. I am tagging one of my other friend who is writer as well and I am sure she will agree with you 💯 here too.

Originally posted by: Suvika.

Interesting and yes, now that you put it like that, her panic attacks are related to Arohi and Sirat. Never with Abhimanyu. Does she take him for granted - of course she does. There's never been any question about it, IMO. And I never saw her actually choose Abhi on her own. There has to be a push from behind or pull from in front.

The makers probably want to show her this way so that when the adoption truth comes out, her supporting and standing with Abhi will have maximum impact. But what they are not realizing is that the way she is right now, if she stands with him during that track, it will be hard to accept that kind of overnight change. Instead they could've shown her not hesitate in today's episode. That, combined with Abhi's words about Arohi would turn Arohi dark and she would bring out the adoption track.

Or maybe they plan to show her change after marriage. But there'd be nothing unusual in that now, would it? With time and as his wife, naturally she would lean towards him.

On a side note, honour is a big word. I like your posts. They see both sides of the coin. So it's great to finally interact with you.

Of course, it's an honour! This past year in my education, my focus has been writing and teamwork so this forum has been an excellent opportunity to practice both. With people like yourself, I get to explore different opinions, practice expressing myself, give and receive feedback, be respectful online in discussions, etc. So you are bettering me as a student and for that, it's an honour and pleasure to have you!

At the end of the day, I think Abhimanyu and the audience have to recognize there is no world where Akshu is happy without Aarohi. That's just who she is and the crux of the story (for me, and this is mainly what I'm watching the show for) will be her and Aarohi finding a healthy balance in their relationship so that Akshu's attachment wouldn't be her downfall. It is about Akshu and Aarohi's growth as individuals and as sisters. Abhimanyu places a huge role in this dynamic. After the marriage is when we'll get to explore Abhimanyu more as an individual, his background, his trauma etc (or so, I predict).

I actually think if Abhimanyu is the adopted child, it'll add to the similarities between him and Aarohi. Aarohi is Sirat's daughter so the connection she has to the entire family will never be the same as Akshu's. For example, while Kairav and Akshu call Naksh Mamu and Keerti Bua, Aarohi can only call them Bua with security. At the end of the day, the Singhania, despite their (minuscule) attachment to Sirat (Naksh let her tie a Rakhi to him, and in the flash-forward, she was referring to Naksh as Mamu for both her daughters, so maybe Aaru was taught to call him that initially), he'll have a preference for Akshu. Likewise, if Abhi's adopted, he'll begin to question his connection to the Birla's because that bond will be tainted by lies (no one told him that truth). They'll both come from the perceived "other".

Moreover, both of their families seem to ignore their misdeamenours. For example, Abhi's a rash and impulsive person who smashes stuff and disrespects his father (he has his reasons, I know, and I share many of them in my personal relationships, but I doubt the elders in his family see it that way). Yet, he's still treated the best out of the children and has little repercussions. Rather, his family gives into his demands. Similarly, Aarohi is a brat whose trauma and feelings have been prioritized over Akshu's all their lives. Both lost their parents the same day and held their mother's lifeless body in their hands yet one was consoled. When the Abrohi wedding fiasco happened, it was Akshu who begged for Manish's forgiveness after that day while Aarohi got to do her own thing - she didn't apologize more than once. She refused Manish's request to resign and got away with it.

Originally posted by: Suvika.

Interesting and yes, now that you put it like that, her panic attacks are related to Arohi and Sirat. Never with Abhimanyu. Does she take him for granted - of course she does. There's never been any question about it, IMO. And I never saw her actually choose Abhi on her own. There has to be a push from behind or pull from in front.

The makers probably want to show her this way so that when the adoption truth comes out, her supporting and standing with Abhi will have maximum impact. But what they are not realizing is that the way she is right now, if she stands with him during that track, it will be hard to accept that kind of overnight change. Instead they could've shown her not hesitate in today's episode. That, combined with Abhi's words about Arohi would turn Arohi dark and she would bring out the adoption track.

Or maybe they plan to show her change after marriage. But there'd be nothing unusual in that now, would it? With time and as his wife, naturally she would lean towards him.

On a side note, honour is a big word. I like your posts. They see both sides of the coin. So it's great to finally interact with you.

I can't agree with you more. You explained it beautifully ❤️. You should definetly write more.

Originally posted by: pbv3434

u are right in saying tht bp is insisting his decision on ak bt we all knw how ak is she can’t take stand easily..🙂she isn’t a strong opinionated woman..😟who can take descions easily..someone need to make her do it..

Originally posted by: pbv3434

u are right in saying tht bp is insisting his decision on ak bt we all knw how ak is she can’t take stand easily..🙂she isn’t a strong opinionated woman..😟who can take descions easily..someone need to make her do it..

That is wrong.

If she cannot make her decision, they should all have told her take your time and make your mind up.

This whole subplot is geared towards making sure Akshu finally starts changing, so we will be seeing it anyways. Character growth is gradual, cannot be overnight otherwise no one would believe it. The slowness on TV does frustrate me...many viewers are gone before the character emerges strong and sure.

Originally posted by: Dreamygal301

That is wrong.

If she cannot make her decision, they should all have told her take your time and make your mind up.

This whole subplot is geared towards making sure Akshu finally starts changing, so we will be seeing it anyways. Character growth is gradual, cannot be overnight otherwise no one would believe it. The slowness on TV does frustrate me...many viewers are gone before the character emerges strong and sure.

Originally posted by: Mehersudha

Manish has to push Ak .already Ar lost chance in her marriage. If ak too loses chance both daughters are at same place again . grandparents need to fulfil their responsibility. He told her clearly chose truth against relations. Keep relations against truth which her mom used to do. Major flaw in Ak is her original mom gone and sirat programmed her for saving Ar..so she sees nothing.

Originally posted by: pbv3434

I knw it’s completely wrong bt what could we do cvs are showing her character growth development in a very slow phase..we just need keep our patience n keep our frustration aside..

I totally understand the steps of her character development, so am not frustrated. Here is a copy of my answer from another thread about character growth.

For Akshara, her main growth will be in her interpersonal relationship with Arohi and Abhi.

Yes she still needs time to think. She cannot give up a lifetime of thinking/love/conditional behaviour overnight. Trust me when I say no one will find this believable.

We have seen her take baby steps - once she would not even consider speaking against Arohi, more content to step back and let Arohi take over. - This is her development at the start of the story.

Then we saw Abhi enter her life, he stirred it and made her yearn and dream.....all the problems they faced led her to take that monumental step and declare her love in front of all. This is her first real growth. She has taken her first step against Arohi.

Despite Arohi making her promise not to tell about the accident, Akshu did it anyway - a massive and important growth.

During the policegate at mehendi - she needed that push, she thrives on external validation and so for her family to tell her it is ok to let go of Arohi, she is given the first glimmer that maybe she is not wrong...another important step in terms of her realisation her growth.

Now we will see more growth, but it will be organic (as much as it can be in ITV shows) so just bear with her. She will be faced with situations where Arohi and Abhi will be pitted against one another and Akshu will have to decide/make a choice. We will see her slowly choosing Abhi. The process will be painful for Akshu but eventually a good one as it will establish a more healthy relationship with her sister and Abhi.

The only thing I am frustrated with is the abysmal time taken show subplots and often it is so unbelievable that you sit there shaking your head.