Originally posted by: Ekahriz
This is really said actually.
Apart for this, I hate the way female characters are being depicted in the show. I don't want to discuss Mimi and Swarna because they are mere props. Manjari and Akshara are the so called best women in the show and both of them are so similar. They are portrayed as they both live for others, in a way legitimizing sacrifices as integral to women, and there is always this comparison that is being made with their respective sisters on how these two are the best and are pure as milk. 🙄
Whereas Mahima and Aarohi are ambitious but they can't be shown as really good people but as grey characters with villainous streaks. It is literally saying if you have a personality and career goals, there is no way you can be good too. And comes Anisha who they are trying to show so hard as someone with a personality and is not conventional. But she is impulsive and immature, again not a good character. So, unless and until these women are burdened by traditions and society's unrealistic expectations and are constantly working towards fulfilling it, they can't be portrayed as good.
Coming to men, Abhimanyu is best in all sense. He is never seen as grey but a pure soul with flaws. 🙄 Similarly, Anand is a horrible husband and colleague but he is never highlighted as hypocrite or grey. He might not shout at his wife or raise hands on her but he still undermines Mahima and disrespects her and her work. But only Harsh is villianised because he is the only one overtly disrespects women. As if shouting and raising hands at a woman is the only form of disrespect and abuse. 🙄
So, in a scenario like this, why is Mahima focusing more on her work and hospital and expecting Manjari to babysit the kids wrong when Manjari literally has nothing else to do because Birla house has domestic help for every beck and call of hers. Don't tell me making gajjar ka halwa daily is taking a toll on her. 🙄 Isn't this what modern young career women do? They arrange for baby sitters or expects grand parents to look after the kids, and Manjari seems to love it. So why not? And no successful surgeon is going to be jealous of her housewife sister, other than may be the fact that her children are closer to their aunt, because in the beginning itself they have established that Mahima is the decision maker and not Manjari when it comes to the Birla family. And even if they want to show Mahima as grey, why can't they show her as someone who is trying to outrank Anand without engaging in kitchen politics and actually training Aarohi properly as her successor who will grow capable to even outshine her nephew. Isn't that what she should be doing clearly knowing the discrimination and disrespect she faces on a daily basis on gender? And by doing that she will be one upping Anand and Abhimanyu who are constantly undermining her.
But of course, expecting anything out of ITV writers are waste. At times, like so many said women hate women. And Bhavna and Garima are doing a fair job at portraying ambitious career oriented women as horrible people. I still blame patriarchy and social conditioning.
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