How or why would Sai think of these? - Page 2

Originally posted by: laksh

In case you are interested.

Ofcourse I would be. missed your analysis.

I have nothing more to add but to agree with every point of yours.👍🏼

Wishful thinking, but I really wished Virat starts thinking the other way round, starts thinking about the points you have mentioned. Chodho, hopes rakh kar naraaz he honge

I always love reading your take, post more often❤️

A very well put post Laksh, very patiently you have written a very elaborate post perfectly describing everything that is wrong with their dynamics & why it is absolutely necessary that Sai feels love organically. This kind of pressured love will take them nowhere without the real elephants in the room addressed.

Love is a feeling an emotion that is very different from caring and making someone feel special. Unreciprocated love needs to always be dealt with maturity and dignity & if not understood needs definite space till a comfortable space is attained.

This show's writers never accomodate anything called boundary in any of the relations in this family. It's too messed up, what century are they living in for a rich mother with all facilities in life to tell her son to have the first baby in the next generation not out of love but for power dynamics?

Everything you have written for Sai in this post is relevant, beautiful and well drawn out❤️

Niki, your points were also so well put in sync with this post🧡

Kyuki Virat ne socha .or Virat ne jab socha toh sabko sochna maangta... Waada buoy wanna give new waadas ..so the waada takers have to participate you see..

Exactly how I felt too. After hearing BKs bakwaas my thought was - its not only Virat that's sex starved n living like a kuwara despite marriage, Sai is too! N these terms were dictated by virat, not Sai. She said no to marriage but eventually agreed. It was Virat who later came up with terms/conditions. Infact he may have forgotten to n kept her in the dark, it was Sai who raised pp and asked him repeatedly- but what about pp. She was perceptive abd kind despite much happening in her own life.

Its not like Sai is going to go get happily married n settled if things with Virat dont work. We know how easy it is for a divorcee to get married. Point is bk only cares about izzat, "norms" and "laadla beta". She has literally no f**ks to give about Sai's situation at all. Which is fine but they didnt need to give us some crap about bk getting all saccharine in a few episodes bring all - Sai ki kaku hai uske saath, anaath nahi hai or main apne haathon seh modak banaungi, tumhe kuch chahiye toh come to your bhawani kaku. Why give such bipolar behavior.

Even after Pp-virat truth came out after Sam reentry, no one felt guilty about the way they treated Sai. Sai was correct all along in everything sge said. No one has given a thought to how Sai might feel as a wife living with husband's ex. Whether deal or not, she didn't sign up for pp's hate and interference in her own life . Bk was very understanding about Virats reaction when he saw ajinkya- she even said virat was always uncomfortable with their friendship. But she never had the same consideration for Ashwini or for Sai. She never realized how much she caused the Nini rift and how Ashwini may feel uncomfortable about her husband being closer to her. She has zero guilt for how she wanted pp to go on a trip, be fed by virat etc etc. Its almost as if pp had more haq on virat than his wife. But She had a problem with virat feeding Sai, doing things for her, buying her gifts etc...but now suddenly its all like we need ghar ka chiraag. Its literally like shes the baby making machine.

It's utterly unacceptable behavior.

Originally posted by: nikita05

Firstly, I am confused at one aspect. Was there's an open marriage where because of deal and telling about his vaada, Virat was allowed to love another (at the time of inception)... If so, why sai was not given the same privelege. She can't even talk to another man on phone.

Secondly, it's all about Virat... When he wanted, he proposed a deal marriage, when he wants he wants a normal marriage and Sai should reciprocate his advances while he won't be clear about his changing feelings too. He said the same to Samrat once when he said sai has outdated information, who will update it...

Thirdly, he is the one who is in love. He should be the one who should maintain distance from his ex, the same ex about whom his wife knows very well and the ex is too open in haq jataaoing.

Fourthly, it may be easier for Virat to find another girl after divorce from Sai, maybe get back with his ex with family's acceptance but it would be very difficult for Sai to find another man, once she gets a divorcee label, living in this patriarchal society.

Fifth, if Virat didn't 'love' sai, still family could have expectations of a baby from them being a married couple and the popular belief that once a child comes, love comes too. However, now they are pressurising more because they know Virat is madly in love with Sai, hence they keep trying to find reasons to tie her up with Virat or the family, since they know he goes berserk in her absence.

Sixth point is he took responsibility for the sake of helping her complete her education and not for family and babies. Can he be more stern with the family about their demands, being the responsible person that he is...

Absolutely. I agree with all your points ❤️. Somehow not many things sounds fair and it has started to look too one sided. It has all got to do because Virat started to feel for Sai first. As you have said, if he is the one who loves her, wants this marriage to turn into a real one, he should take necessary actions for it by maintaining distance with Pakhi. As you have said, he said it is a deal, she agreed also because of her own circumstances, he changed and fell in love with her, why expect it to be reciprocated and that too without clearing all misunderstandings?

Yes, he was allowed to have someone in his heart but Sai can’t talk to anyone on phone. All this has to stop. Will he ever realise these, I don’t know.

I would have appreciated if Virat had answered Kaku that Sai has her studies to finish and that he has taken her responsibility and teach them about how difficult medicine is. As is, she has lost so much time in all the mess that was created in her life.

They will understand that Virat returns home tired after working but not if Sai returns home after a long day and that too even if she had done her duties waking up early in the morning before going to college. Somehow only men get all the sympathy which doesn’t seem fair. Men or women, both of their position should be understood and out society has to first stop feeling sorry for men for everything.

Originally posted by: Tapdance

A very well put post Laksh, very patiently you have written a very elaborate post perfectly describing everything that is wrong with their dynamics & why it is absolutely necessary that Sai feels love organically. This kind of pressured love will take them nowhere without the real elephants in the room addressed.

Love is a feeling an emotion that is very different from caring and making someone feel special. Unreciprocated love needs to always be dealt with maturity and dignity & if not understood needs definite space till a comfortable space is attained.

This show's writers never accomodate anything called boundary in any of the relations in this family. It's too messed up, what century are they living in for a rich mother with all facilities in life to tell her son to have the first baby in the next generation not out of love but for power dynamics?

Everything you have written for Sai in this post is relevant, beautiful and well drawn out❤️

Niki, your points were also so well put in sync with this post🧡

Thanks 😊

@bold very true. It is much more than that and one has to feel it, realise it on their own. You are right, what she needs is space and time to understand what she feels for him and if she feels for him too.

Agree with pretty much all the posts here.

All of your points are much better articulations of exactly what I feel.

And many of these are all the reasons why my loyalty as audience is definitely more towards Sai. Virat hasnt planned any of this or done it deliberately but Virat is in a position of "power" and is ahead of Sai in terms of the realization of love etc. So onus is on him then to fix things. "trying" to arrange anniversary and then giving up because things didn't go as per plan - is not nearly enough especially after the things that he himself said about tragic love story n then yoga teacher saying some crap.

Onus is on him to keep pp FAR FAR away physically, mentally, in every which way and be extremely proactive in ensuring pp does NOT interfere. Because Virat has NO excuse anymore. Its not even as if PPs vileness or her desperation is hidden from him. He has seen it all first hand.

Onus is on him to make Sai feel secure in their relationship and make her realize that pp will not come between them. Its not going to be accomplished by a few instances of pro-Sai behavior. It needs consistency. Rather he needs to be pro Sai even when he may actually be pissed off or angry or upset with Sai himself! Thats the true test of whether he genuinely loves her and is committed to her or if this is all just hogwash.

Because in adversity, Sai has always stood by and cared for Virat even when they didnt see eye to eye. Virat has been mixed behavior- unless Sai is hospitalized ! 🙈😢

Originally posted by: Shaome

First of all logic and morals nothing goes hand in hand for this show.. Ghum should be out of top 2 and already there

Now coming to Kaku's demand.. I somewhat feel it made sense even if both SaiRat are in reverse situation as you mention .. They need to figure out they are heading towards which direction.. Yes bk is selfish loves exercising power on everyone.. The demand for baby is one of them.. She hardly cares about Virat and the family heir.. It was only to chain her with the burden of responsibilities ..thats how she created distance between ninad and aswini..

Virat made the dumbest move by telling Sai about his promise to P* ..It makes him so childish..and bam he realised it the first night of their marriage that their journey isn't going be an easy one.. Even if Sai was in the same situation where is now it still would be almost the same.. They had to come to an conclusions.. If Sai fall for another man she has every right to walk out of their marriage.. Role reversal or not they are in equilibrium ..

@bold exactly. This is exactly what she wanted to do. She just wanted to tie down Sai with responsibilities. All that she saw or heard was Virat saying he and Sai are friends and they do things together when Pakhi taunted him. Kaku couldn’t take it. She just couldn’t tolerate things changing in her house and a man from her house is including his wife in all his decisions going against her. Friendship was the first thing that she thought has to be put an end to since Virat started to act understanding and agree with Sai when they both were acting as friends. Kaku wanted to show Sai her place by calling her bahu, by making Virat treat her as wife like how he used to where he would adhere to the rules of the house without challenging much. She has just then heard how Ashwini and Ninad’s relationship had gone for a toss when Ashwini had to take care of things at home, family and kid. I only felt that Kaku wanted to put Sai in that same position so that she gets busy and so that her equation with Virat gets strained and not so casual as how they were when they are friends. She wanted Sai to get busy with her task and Virat to act like a man like Ninad, who would keep Sai under him, not with him.

I do agree that they need to figure out what they want but if Virat never fell in love with Sai, he wouldn’t be this restless or anxious. In a way, it had become favourable to Virat too but would have been nice if Kaku or someone had given both of them this kind of a push or anything else which would make them ponder about their deal marriage and how their future was going to be after all this ends. It is looking one sided now since Virat has already fallen in love with Sai and also because he wants her. Kaku now believes that they have to be together for Virat’s welfare and so Sai can’t be kicked out, then why not tie her with some responsibilities.

The last statement, I guess Virat has kind of looked at Sai as an equal and not as a guardian or provider during this friendship phase and that is why may be he has become more considerate abd understanding and will also think and accept that it is okay even if she likes someone else and wants to walk out. Had they got into this friendship mode right after her birthday or something, it would have helped both of them.

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Just because I create memes I am not tagged anymore😡

You are no longer part of the Ghum privileged FD who take kachraa everyday 😆