Let’s say that the role is reversed. I know that many of you might be thinking that it is about precap, it is not.
Let’s say Sai fell in love with Virat and Virat had not fallen in love with Sai. What would have happened then? Virat will be fulfilling his waada and Sai would have craved for Virat’s love/husbandly care/attention.
We can all say that Sai knew what she was getting into when she agreed to marry Virat. Isn’t it the same for Virat as well? Didn’t Virat know what he was getting into especially when he gave waada to Pakhi? So when Virat proposed to Sai asking her not to have any expectations from him as a husband, he also had decided that he will not have any kind of physical relationship with Sai right? So if he had not fallen in love, they would have anyway never had any such relationship between them and in fact, Virat would have never had even after Sai moved out of his life if they both strictly followed the deal.
What would have happened to Sai then?
Would she have been able to find a guy for herself after she got married and they part ways? Again, Sai knew what she got into but just like how we expect Sai to think that Virat can have expectations or his family will have expectations, shouldn’t Virat also have thought while proposing or even later as what will happen to Sai’s future, if someone will accept her after he got married to her and divorced her or anything? Virat actually gave an option to Sai to leave him if she wants, once she finishes her studies. So that was just an option, a clause where she can leave if she wants, but what if she didn’t? He had not insisted that she leaves. Did Virat think that since he had given a waada to Pakhi, Sai also will stay like him throughout her life? Forget that, let’s say, Sai fell in love with him. What then? Can she expect him to fall in love with her? How would have Virat reacted then? Wouldn’t he have asked that he had already told her that it is not possible?
If Virat never fell in love with Sai, Sai would have been in a position where she can’t expect anything from him as a husband which includes emotional support as well as any kind of physical relationship too. How is this fair? It is all hypothetical I know, but when we expect Sai to understand that Virat can have needs, has Virat ever thought that Sai can also have? Would he have thought if he never fell in love with her? What would have happened if Sai liked some other guy? She wouldn’t/hasn’t allow herself to even have a crush on some other guy since she is married.
What kind of double standards is this? Kaku is a selfish woman who can only think about her son. It is very obvious and natural for old people at home to think about their grandchild but it is also not right. It must be a couple’s decision. There are couples whom I know didn’t want to have kids and are still happy with each other. There are couples who wanted to adopt kids. People and their thoughts have to progress. Physical relationship, needs and desires, anyone can have and it need not just be a guy who can have it and whom one should think about.
To be fair, it was Virat who put this idea in Sai’s head that they cannot be husband and wife, so she never gave it a thought. Her understanding is that Virat had promised to someone that he will remain single throughout his life and won’t give a place to any other girl in his life, out of love for someone. Since it is a show and we are audience, we know how much of Virat chavaan pakki zabaan is true. Sai has been under the impression that he values his promises and that is why she asked him about his promise even after the pool confrontation between Virat and Pakhi. When she was told that he doesn’t plan to give any place to any other woman in his life, why or how will she be thinking about his needs and desires? Why will she be thinking what he is going to do after she leaves him when he has already told that he doesn’t plan to give a place to any other woman in his life. She knows that he got married to her only due to the situation, otherwise after whatever she has heard from him, she is only going to think that he has decided to stay single and would have stayed single if they had not got married. I am made to wonder, how is it fair to expect that Sai should have thought what will Virat do after she leaves or even when she is with him.
If whatever Virat had said or expected during their marriage has changed from his end, then it was his responsibility to communicate the same if he wants to move on and if he wants the equation between them to change. Let’s say that Sai doesn’t feel anything for him at all, then I am wondering what is wrong in that too. She is sticking to her end of the the deal, then how can it be wrong? I too wanted Sai to realise her feelings but I don’t see why she should be pressurised or hurried up?
What if she likes some other guy too? If Virat is worried that Sai may never fall in love with him, I can empathise with him but if Sai likes someone else, I am with her too. We want Sairat doesn’t mean, it has to end that way. If Virat had not fallen in love with Sai, Sai also should have respected his feelings.
I don’t think it is fair to blame Sai that she didn’t think what will happen to Virat or if he will have desires or anything after she moves out of his life finishing her studies, when Virat himself never gave these a thought if Sai can have any of these in the time they have been together.
The reason he asked her to walk out of the marriage when he spoke about marriage in GC was because he himself wasn’t sure what he was proposing and from her reaction, he could deduce that he probably wasn’t being fair to her. He also could see that she wasn’t willing to accept the proposa because he kind of gathered from her reaction that it must be difficult for her to stay in this kind of a loveless and a baseless marriage but in all this, he didn’t think what will happen if she likes a guy in the meanwhile or what will be her future after she walks out.
My point is that if Virat had not fallen in love with Sai but if Sai had, what about the future, Sai’s expectations/desires? Let’s please not say she knew what she got into. If we feel that way, then it is only fair to think that she is sticking to her end of the deal and Virat also must have known that he had got himself into.
Virat took Sai’s responsibility and Sai will have to be thankful to him. If both had not felt anything for each other, all that would have happened is that Sai will forever feel indebted to him and that is all. Her gratitude or him fulfilling his responsibility has got nothing to do with her reciprocating her feelings or for her to think about his future or anything. She cares for him as how anyone in her position would and I would say even more. I somehow don’t like the idea of theory that Virat has done a lot for Sai and Sai isn’t doing anything for him. Not sure what is expected out of her. If Virat had not fallen for Sai, Sai would have felt like how Pulkit feels for the Chavan family. Since he has been more kind and generous, she has also got attached to him, adjusts in his family, lets go of many things in his family, forgives him even after him abusing her, has got attached to him and cares for him. This is how it would be if he was just his guardian or if he or she never grew fond of each other. Falling in love has got nothing to do with what Virat has done for Sai. It is a natural feeling and one has to feel it and realise it on their own. Virat fell in love once (love or infatuation) and he also moved on, on his own. He had some lingering feelings which even if he controlled wasn’t in his control. The same way, Sai realising her love or even feeling anything for Virat is not in her control. Such things will takes it own course and it is only fair to let it be.
Just my views.
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