On a different Note ...... Virat's Redemption| DT P.4

Disclaimer: This is a long post and many may disagree as I don't feel Virat is as bad as we make him out to be. Please forgive me if I end up hurting your feelings/opinions.

Virat and His Famous Vada!!

So I have been going through the old posts in this forum..when I came across a really interesting POV about Virat's Vaada....."The decision to marry Samrat was Patralekha's, even before Virat and she met the second time. So, why would Virat interfere between the betrothed and create a "rift" when he did not seek Pakhi... He was heart broken but since the wedding was on, he did not obviously open his mouth. It would have meant Samrat calling off the wedding, which he didn't want.

His idea of "treasuring Pakhi's love in his heart" was also pure and he refrained from even the slightest touch with her from that moment on... Yes, he was ambiguous because he did not spell out in the exact words the fine print of his vaada and the to-be-bride assumed that she it was an offer to play draupadi to two brothers.

Even on that phone call with PP on her wedding night, he was trying to calm her and tell her how she will find a friend, best friend, lover and husband in Samrat but Samrat could only hear the hysterical "Main tumse pyaar karti hoon Virat".

So yes, the measure of his fault in ruining Samrat's happiness has to be ascertained but I would blame Patralekha for actually cheating Samrat more than Virat because PP did not reveal her actual intention behind marrying Samrat and accepting Virat's mindless vaada to either of the two men. If she had, both would have backed out -- Samrat from the wedding and Virat from the vaada."

So....we can't fault Virat's Vaada......it was done in the spur of the moment when Paakhi refused to go from his room and he was heart broken by the entire turn of events. Also, a lot of people degraded his (puppy) love for Paakhi post marriage...... remember heart is not a computer to just erase memories and feelings. He misunderstood his infatuation for love and felt he would never be able to love another anyways so there is no harm in that Vaada. On top of that if it keeps his brother happy....why not? Remember Virat didn't ask Paakhi to accept Samrat's proposal.....she did that on her own. He just asked her to go through with the commitment.

Lets recount all of Virat's Grave Mistakes

1. Pulkit home visit track:

Here I admit Virat was completely at fault for holding Sai's hand.......and he did realize this....apologized for it .....and never forcefully held her hand again. Also, his holding her hand stemmed mainly from concern for Sai. His refusing to server her food was unwarranted and too much.....but he did realize what he did was completely wrong.

2. Virat throwing Sai post Devi Taayi's marriage:

Although I don't support his decision.....I understand it. He felt betrayed by the person he loves and hurt/worried for his mentally disturbed Sister's future. He must have felt......i married her against my Family's hopes.....my vaada obligations......helped her achieve her dreams.....but she betrayed me completely and ruined my sister's life. The only thing I have a problem is him throwing her and Usha mausi at the middle of the night. My only solace is that he was also hurting along with Sai. But he did realize and regret his mistake and apologized for it. He was ashamed of his actions and didn't just apologize for the sake of it but meant it.

3. Ajinkya issue:

Until the bedroom scene..... though he was jealous of him.....he really didn't react....he overreacted after he spotted him in his room. Though he bashed Ajinkya (totally wrong) he never called Sai characterless per se. Ofcourse Sai assumed it so (naturally) and left running from the house. My take is that he started having hopes from this relationship which he felt was crushed by her friend. Many people compare Ajinkya and Paaki. IMO, both can't be compared coz Paakhi's presence was cleared by Virat before marriage when neither of them were in love and though Paakhi kept barging and interfering in their lives.....Sai knew Virat will never cross boundries set in this relationship. But in case of Ajinkya.....Virat knew he was in love and wanted Sai in his life.....but Ajinkya was a wild card and Virat was not sure if post becoming a doctor Sai might prefer Ajinkya (who is more her age) than him.

I am not saying what he did is right.....I am saying why he did what he did. He was also willing to apologise to Ajinkya for his behaviour.

4. Post Anniversary Fiasco:

Before we count his mistakes, let's remember Sai and Virat's conversation on that night. Sai basically called him a two timer and the manner in which she spoke was beyond just rude. His subsequent actions were just a reaction to Sai's accusations not her refusal to his love. Had she just said she doesn't love him he would have accepted it. But she cheapened his gesture by calling him a two timer. He did go overboard with the taunts but she also kept taunting him on his relationship with Paakhi. Also, let's not forget the room locking scene....he was not locking her to control her....he just felt that she was behaving irrationally. Yes, he had no right to and that is borderline abuse. In the end when he saw Sai's condition post the second accident his entire world/anger/ego came tumbling down and he got a reality check and repented for his actions and behaviour.

Virat committed a lot of mistakes.....some graver than the others.....but the root cause of this is his insecurity.

We audience (including myself until yesterday) feel Sai's insecurities and excuse her for her behaviour but we fail to understand that Virat is also prone to such insecurities.

We tend to excuse Sai's mistakes (Insulting Virat in GC for her Aaba's VRS, calling Virat her Aaba's murderer infront of everyone, (though her intentions were pure) Kidnapping his mentally disturbed sister, calling him a two timer, Insulting his Anniversary gesture (if she hated it.....she could have just left.....but she chose to insult it), interfering with his career (calling him mentally unstable to his superior))

They both are at fault.....Virat slightly more than Sai. But his saving grace is that he always apologies for his mistakes. Sai never ever apologies for her mistakes. Though she is a pure soul and a kind hearted person she should realize the impact of her harsh words and actions. One can be honest and direct without being rude

Many of us give her some leeway because of her age...but the same set of people protest when she is called immature..... being young doesn't give anyone the liberty to get away with your rudeness/mistakes.

Few audiences sympathize with Sai's life experiences and treatment at CN.....guys please understand even Virat has been under tremendous pressure since a very young age - responsibility to keep everyone in the family happy so that nothing impacts his family's peace, managing a hot headed wife, a crazy ex-lover (for whom he always feels guilty for), an old fashioned & degenerative family. Trust me being the one responsible to keep the Family's peace Life long is very traumatic and stressful. Yes he loves Sai but no matter how wrong their opinions/actions may be.....he will always love his family....he might not respect them as he did before....but cutting of family ties is not easy (neither is it right). The same family has loved him immensely ( Yes, they mistreated his mother but the writers of the show don't show the Trimurti Insulting Ash in front of Virat prior to his marriage. IMO, the insult/rudeness was very subtle prior to Virat's marriage and he may have misunderstood it as kitchen politics He fights for his mother when Sai jolts him out of his stupor and makes him realize that it is not so)

If we call Virat egoistic......let's not forget Sai is equally egoistic!

Also Sai's inability to deal with her feelings is a bit too much. A person who can understand Devi Taayi's love, accept Virat's past..... understanding her own feelings should not be that difficult. That too after so much prodding by Shivani Bua, Aai, Pulkit, Devi, Mohit, Samrat!!!! By God.... someone has to be really dumb to not realise this. Yes, if she refuses to accept it despite realising it ... makes sense ...but her not understanding her own feelings despite all the flirting, eye contacts.....does not make any sense.

I myself was a ardent Sai Fan and hated Virat until yesterday but when I shared my thoughts with my friend I got to see the other side of the coin as well. Now I blame both of them equally and feel both are equally flawed.....so let's not bash Virat and expect a redemption from him alone when Sai is equally at fault. Let's just accept that they both are flawed and accept the story as is. (P.s. about the age confusion.....for me Virat is 27....period!)

Cheers and have a great day!

Wonderful post. Appreciate you for posting this here .

My POV goes like this-

1. Mistakes

I do agree that Sai is no saint. She has her own share of mistakes for which she can’t be excused. But I won’t equalise their mistakes because what she has done are mistakes but what Virat has done are crimes. Manhandling, locking up in a room and beating up a teenage guy are all crimes which are not expected of an IPS officer. So no, for me both of them are definitely not equally FLAWED. Virat’s actions are more criminal types.
2. Apologising

Sai has to apologise for all the harsh things she said to Virat from day 1. I get extremely irritated when she doesn’t do so but then to what extent are even Virat’s apologies genuine? Apologising makes sense when you don’t repeat the mistakes you commit once but Virat even after repeated apologies has not shown an ounce of improvement. He just comes back with worst mistakes and hence his apologies don’t seem to be genuine, at least to me.

So Virat’s apologies need to be genuine and Sai definitely needs to say a simple sorry for all what she said.

3. Post Anniversary Fights

Well, Virat’s indifference in the beginning was something I accepted because Sai crossed all her limits but then it turned too ugly. No amount of hurt should have made him behave the way he did. He literally tortured Sai and the shape it took after some time, it seemed as if he was hurt by her rejection and not by her words. Teaming up with a woman as vile as Pakhi(who is his ex) to mock your own wife and even compare her to your ex is wrong on all levels.

4. Sai’s realisation

Yes it is very gradual and may seem irritating but the words Virat said to her on their wedding day haunt her till date. It is way easy for Virat to break free because he was the one who gave the promises and set the conditions but for Sai, it is not that easy. Plus an obsessive and pathetic ex living with you 24/7 and insulting you at every instance while your husband remains silent doesn’t help either. Every time Sai take 10 steps forward, something happens which pushes her back by 20 steps. Be it the Waada Conversation or the Cafe Handholding Scene, she always got a very harsh reality check which made her pull her guards up and close the way to her heart. She hasn’t grown up seeing any relationship at all and hence doesn’t know its dynamics. So a girl as young as her with minimum to no guidance is bound to take time in coming in terms with her husbands feelings for her.

This is only my POV of course and I totally respect your POV😊

Can’t agree more.👏👏

It's such a brilliant post.

I woud like to say that I agree with you, Virat is not a bad persin, but my main problem isn't whether he is bad or wrong, it is about the basic wualities of his character which get ignored during such scenes. Contrary to what most thought, the only scene that went with Virat’s character was the hand holding one. Because, Virat’s character is shown to be responsible until he loses temper, and then he forgets everything and cross the line. This thing made sense when he held Sai's hand because at that point you can see that he wasn't even thinking, he was just angry so, he went ahead and did whatever came to his mind and just when he calmed down, he realised his mistakes and went ahead and apologized. This showed that his character is a short-tempered one. You know the best part? We were already introduced to the short temperedness of Virat’s character before too, whic is why when the hand holding scene came, I was angered but not weirded out or straight up disgusted. It was during the Amay incident, when he got angry and shouted at Aai saying that maybe what everyone else say is right, maybe the only reason why she support Sai is because Sai takes her side against Kaku and others. This was a pretty rude statement to say to one's mother, but later on he was feeling so guilty that the next him he saw Aai, he started crying and apologized to her. This was the moment where I understood just how Virat’s character is written. He is short tempered who acts or says things which he doesn't mean when he is angry, but he is just as pure at heart and apologizes as soon as he realises his mistakes (which is quite soon).

But my problem is with every other moments. Because all the other things don't tell that he is short tempered, but instead straight up makes him selfish, rude and abusive. Firstly, the ousting track. Yes, Virat was angry and tbh throwing Sai out at night was definitely something he could have done and I would have understood later, because he is that way. He get impupsive when he is angry. But the thing is that later on, in his room, ge had enough time to analyse his actions, to calm his mind and understand all the problems Sai might have to face walking alone at night. So, what would have been better, what would have made Virat’s actions understandeable (not justifiable but understandeable), if Virat had later on went back and asked Sai to come back inside, or if she refused, stood on his terrace and kept a watch on her. Even during the hand holding scene, Sai never gave any reason why she did what she did, but even then Virat apologized because he knew that whatever might have been her motive, she didn't deserve such punishment and that he had made much bigger mistake than hers. Then why couldn't the same be the case when he threw her out? Okay, fine, maybe his anger was preventjng him to go and straight up apologize to her, but still he could have asked her to come back or at least looked after her and shown us that he cared. But that didn't happen. In fact, he didn't gave a damn about Sai, about whether she reached GC properly or if she was facing any problem because of Jagtap's goons, until he realised that Sai was right in her decision. What kind of love exists only when the other is morally right and is always taking the correct decisions? I thought love was supposed to be blind. You can be angry and someone and still care for them, but Virat didn't.

The other scase, the Ajinoya one:I have absolutely no problem with that one. It is completely understandeable. The main problem happened when Sai had an accident but that wasn't Virat's fault. In fact, he never, not even once, said that Sai was the one who might be cheating on him. He was angry because it was Ajinkya who couldn't be trusted in his eyes. For all he knew, Ajinkya might be trying to get clsoer to Sai and she might not be aware of it. Now, ine thing which I have said a lot in my other posts, it is that what if Sai was actually involved with someone else? She still wouldn't be committing any mistake as she wasn't committed to Virat in any way. But as I thought about it all more, I realised thatnin that scene, it was never shown just how Vriat might react if Sai was actually someone else's girlfriend. It was all his initial rection and even in that initial reaction, he was more angry at Ajinkya (not trying to make him a hero, just saying). So, it is understandable for someone to be angry when they find out (if this was the case) about their spouse's affair, regardless of the fact whether they loved them or not, but that still wouldn't show how they would react later. For all we know, maybe later Virat would sacrifice his love and would accept whomever Sai fell in love with (if she had fallen in love) for the sake of her happiness.

BUT....here comes the problem with the third incident. The entire thing which I had written just above which showed that maybe Virat is not as bad was then thrown out of the window here, and we were slapped in our faces by a completely abusive Virat and were expected to love him (I hate makers). The anniversary and post-anniversary track. I will say this Sai was wrong. She was wrong during the anniversary track and deserved to be reprimaded by Virat....but not the way they showed. Virat got angry at Sai? Fine by me. Virat was rude with Sai? Fine by me. Virat ignoring Sai? Fine by me. She did humiliated him in front of his brother and his best friend...so, of course, it is all fine. Virat locking Sai in his room...because she would rather go to her college than to attend the pooja and because he was angry at her? Okayy.... Virat taking Pakhi's side knowing very well that Pakhi hates Sai and torments her and this is one person against whom Sai needs his support the most just because he is angry at her ? Ummmmm.....WHAT THE HELL!? Here, I am going to point out the fact that Virat became wrong. Because now he isn't just angry, he is punishing her, punishment is only given when there is a mistake. So, are they trying to tell us that Sai made a mistake by...not loving Virat? This is completely wrong, and the reason is already written above. Saj is in no way bounded to love Virat because whatever might have changed in Virat’s heart, it still doesn'tchange the fact thag their relationship is still a deal and Virat neved said otherwise. Okay, fine, many might say that she made a mistake by humiliating him. It is a pretty grave mistake but again, not big enough to deserve such form of punishment. I would also like to bring my previous point here, he had a lot of time too, to think it all through and to check his temper , which means that there is no excuse for his out of line behaviour. Secondly, he never apologized, which again goes against his nature as I have mentioned above....until Saiw as in an accident.

Though let me put this in a nutshell. The actual Virat, who is nto that bad as many think and who does not deserve so much hate is the one who get angry easily, loses his control easily but who regrets and apologizes for his actions just as easily regardless of the fact whether the other person is right or wrong because he sees his mistakes before others ( I need a man like him in my life). He is pure hearted, loving and imperfect, which is why I loved Virat’s character even more so than Sai's. But his character now is completely different. The Virat now is the one who loses his temper quickly, crosses the line and so arrogant that it doesn't matter how much he crosses the line, the onky way to make him realise and apologize his mistakes is if the other one was totally right, or if they are fighting a life and death situation because of him.

Sai is not perfect....but she isnt this bad either.

I love Virat’s character. I loved him before and I will continue to love him. But not this one. It is easier for me to forget just how much his character has been butchered when he is nice and gentlemanly towards Sai, but just the reminder of his certain actions, make me realise that he has been turned from imperfectly perfect to straight up abusive. (Have I ever mentioned that I hate makers? Because I do).

Please ignore any mistakes.

Interesting post.

Apart from the hand hold incident, everything else was more to do with him being abusive than him being short tempered.. Short temper can be defended, but no reason can defend abuse and inhumanity. Virat has been that in all the other instances you mentioned... And that is why many supported him during the hand hold incidents, it all went against him when he threw not just one but two women out at night, without food, without shelter late at night, after being an IPS officer and also the one in charge of women safety in the city..In the last track he crossed too many limits in his indifference. That was not mere indifference.

Virat apologises, Yes!!

Virat repeats his abuse, a big YES! Thats the problem.

Main thing with Virat is that first he denies things, only to accept them later, especially if they are related to Pakhi, like his past with Pakhi or the hand-holding incident in cafe. By doing so he just loses his credibility and increases Sai's insecurities in the relationship, due to miscommunication.

Thanks for your opinion guys.

I agree that some of his behaviour has been borderline abuse. My point is not that Virat has done no wrong.....as I have mentioned some were pretty grave. But he has learnt from his mistakes.

We have all (including me) have turned Sai into a divine godess and Virat into a devil. My point is neither is Sai a goddess nor is Virat a devil. They both have their flaws. Virat accepts his but Sai doesn't. Accusing someone of murder.... repeatedly.....is a verbal abuse....I can understand the situation but Sai never thought subsequently for one second the impact it would have on Virat and his image?

Also, according to me although Sai had good intentions ......she stealthily married off a mentally disturbed girl which was very wrong....if I am not mistaken a crime even.

Yes, Pulkit turned out to be genuine....his story about his marriage turned out to be true....but what if it was not? Sai was gambling with Devi Taayi's future on her perception of right and wrong. She should have ideally discussed this with Virat and then taken this decision. If he was against it....she should have guided him....not gone behind his back.

When it was the case with her Aba, Sai insulted Virat left right and centre.....asked him to get out of her house. In this case it was the case with his sister that too mentally retarded.....his anger was justified. Yes, he should not have thrown her and Usha mausi in the middle of the night but trust me when it comes to closed ones.... reaction tends to be very severe. It was wrong definitely.....but I understand his predicament.

Good night Peeps!!

Originally posted by: GhumAddicted

Thanks for your opinion guys.

I agree that some of his behaviour has been borderline abuse. My point is not that Virat has done no wrong.....as I have mentioned some were pretty grave. But he has learnt from his mistakes.

We have all (including me) have turned Sai into a divine godess and Virat into a devil. My point is neither is Sai a goddess nor is Virat a devil. They both have their flaws. Virat accepts his but Sai doesn't. Accusing someone of murder.... repeatedly.....is a verbal abuse....I can understand the situation but Sai never thought subsequently for one second the impact it would have on Virat and his image?

Also, according to me although Sai had good intentions ......she stealthily married off a mentally disturbed girl which was very wrong....if I am not mistaken a crime even.

Yes, Pulkit turned out to be genuine....his story about his marriage turned out to be true....but what if it was not? Sai was gambling with Devi Taayi's future on her perception of right and wrong. She should have ideally discussed this with Virat and then taken this decision. If he was against it....she should have guided him....not gone behind his back.

When it was the case with her Aba, Sai insulted Virat left right and centre.....asked him to get out of her house. In this case it was the case with his sister that too mentally retarded.....his anger was justified. Yes, he should not have thrown her and Usha mausi in the middle of the night but trust me when it comes to closed ones.... reaction tends to be very severe. It was wrong definitely.....but I understand his predicament.

Good night Peeps!!

No Sai is not Goddess...She is human a flawed human being at that...But Virat has been too many times turned into inhuman.. And his crimes cannot be called flaws...Sai is still flawed..Virat is way beyond that...

Your post as absolutely correct. Agree with everything you mentioned.