(Spoiler alert 6th Nov episode) Insensitive to celebrate anniversary - Page 4

Originally posted by: laksh

I don’t think Neeraja means any of these. She means Sai giving up on Virat if he has feelings for Pakhi or Sai giving away the pendant to Kaku since Virat loves his family and Kaku, or Sai inviting the family for her award function since they are his family. She has softened towards his family many a times not just because she craves for a family but also because they are Virat’a family.

Exactly.

Sai does things for the family out of both righteousness and also because she knows they are all important to virat. So as a result they are important to her too.

Yes Sai speaks out against things that she thinks are wrong but she also bends a lot, cares much more, forgives much more because they are "Virats" family. She has now forged an independent bond with them too. But the foundation of it all is her relationship with Virat.

She knows that by taking a stance for devi, Mohit, ashwini, shivani she is channeling what virat has always wanted to do for them but never did. But together they can fix the things that virat wanted to but couldn't do himself.

Yes she is doing it for Ashwinis happiness but its very unrealistic to expect 30 years bitterness to magically wash away in one anniversary celebration. So pushing for this is definitely a little bit driven by the fact that virat wants this. He would feel better seeing his parents act like a normal couple that he always wanted atleast for that one day. He really has wanted to throw a bash for his parentsm And Ashwini would be happy too. Atleast that 1 day there would hopefully be no fighting, some deliberate attempt by ninad to be civil etc. But after seeing Ninads reaction and talking to aai today m seeing her hesitate Sai has coaxed Ashwini into agreeing for virats sake and has not stopped to consider what if all this backfires which it unfortunately will. I know Sai will definitely speak up for Ashwini then but perhaps this could have been avoided. Maybe not fully because CN mein insults, taunts, drama toh anyway hoga but atleast partially been avoided. There wouldn't be guests who also watch Ashwinis humiliation....

Originally posted by: laksh

I don’t think Neeraja means any of these. She means Sai giving up on Virat if he has feelings for Pakhi or Sai giving away the pendant to Kaku since Virat loves his family and Kaku, or Sai inviting the family for her award function since they are his family. She has softened towards his family many a times not just because she craves for a family but also because they are Virat’a family.

But she kinda did. Its not brainwash but when Aai hesitated on the scale of the celebration n hesitated about going ahead with it, she coaxed her into agreeing. The coaxing only worked because somewhere Aai wants a reconciliation. And as much as Sai loves aai, theres always the fact that shes virats aai first. Whereas i know that if this was her aabaa , Sai would be completely focused on only n only him. Everything else would be secondary.

Aai's emotional manipulation similarly in the hospital worked because somewhere Sai wants to be with Virat..shes attached to him. She wishes the marriage were real n not deal.

My point is that apart from Sais natural instinct to help people, do the right thing- a lot of her going above n beyond to do things is because these people are important to virat, they are his family so they are hers too. In the process its ironically put in her in a position where she has had a disagreement with virat himself sometimes.

I agree that if aai had said she wants to be independent or suggested having had enough ot wanting a separation Sai would back her 100%. This whole reconciliation is not what Sai may want for aai. But shes doing it because Aai is hopeful of s reconciliation. But shes rushing it a tad.

Shes not a magician and 30 years bitterness wont go away in 1 celebration

Originally posted by: Nja91

Yes she is doing it for Ashwinis happiness but its very unrealistic to expect 30 years bitterness to magically wash away in one anniversary celebration. So pushing for this is definitely a little bit driven by the fact that virat wants this. He would feel better seeing his parents act like a normal couple that he always wanted atleast for that one day. He really has wanted to throw a bash for his parentsm And Ashwini would be happy too. Atleast that 1 day there would hopefully be no fighting, some deliberate attempt by ninad to be civil etc. But after seeing Ninads reaction and talking to aai today m seeing her hesitate Sai has coaxed Ashwini into agreeing for virats sake and has not stopped to consider what if all this backfires which it unfortunately will. I know Sai will definitely speak up for Ashwini then but perhaps this could have been avoided. Maybe not fully but atleast partially...

Originally posted by: Nja91

But she kinda did. Its not brainwash but when Aai hesitated on the scale of the celebration n hesitated about going ahead with it, she coaxed her into agreeing. The coaxing only worked because somewhere Aai wants a reconciliation. And as much as Sai loves aai, theres always the fact that shes virats aai first. Whereas i know that if this was her aabaa , Sai would be completely focused on only n only him. Everything else would be secondary.

Aai's emotional manipulation similarly in the hospital worked because somewhere Sai wants to be with Virat..shes attached to him. She wishes the marriage were real n not deal.

My point is that apart from Sais natural instinct to help people, do the right thing- a lot of her going above n beyond to do things is because these people are important to virat, they are his family so they are hers too. In the process its ironically put in her in a position where she has had a disagreement with virat himself sometimes.

I agree that if aai had said she wants to be independent or suggested having had enough ot wanting a separation Sai would back her 100%. This whole reconciliation is not what Sai may want for aai. But shes doing it because Aai is hopeful of s reconciliation. But shes rushing it a tad.

Shes not a magician and 30 years bitterness wont go away in 1 celebration

If it was her aaba in aswini place sai would have used her name instead of virat to make aswini participate in celebration. That's only the difference. Because her intention is to give them what they longed which they themselves expressed to her.

Where as aswini forced sai for her son's sake as she wants her son happiness.

Both are very different. What sai subconsciously wants is different. But when sai saying I wants to start new life, u r son is hurting me aswini brainwashed her by telling her about superstition.

If aswini tells sai I wanna start new life without ninad sai will never brainwash or force her even for virat's sake.

There is a lot of difference between these two situations. Sai is stupid to think years of bitterness will vanish in one day. But she thinks like that that's why she planned skit.

Sai helped shivani,mohit, devkit not because they are virat family it is because she can't see wrong happening with anyone. She would still react the same if she finds something wrong happening to people outside CN irrespective of whose family is this.

But yes sai does house hold chores, adjusts in family, tonned down towards family, accepted virat's family as hers because of virat.

@bold Disagree. Sai didn't get attached to virat the moment she entered the house. It is aai & devi tai with whom she attached most. She started adjusting in family by tonning down after getting attached to virat. Her helping virat family has nothing to do with her attachment towards virat. But her adjusting towards virat's family has to do with her attachment towards virat. She loves devi tai so much that's why she went out of her way to bring happiness in her life even if it costs her relationship with virat. If it has anything to do with her attachment with virat then first of all she won't do something which will put her relationship with virat at stake. She loves devi tai, aai, shivani, mohit not because they are virat's family because she got equal love from them.Whereas she warmed upto ninad, kaku, sonali, omkar even when they misbehave with her because they are virat's family.

Originally posted by: Nja91

Exactly.

Sai does things for the family out of both righteousness and also because she knows they are all important to virat. So as a result they are important to her too.

Yes Sai speaks out against things that she thinks are wrong but she also bends a lot, cares much more, forgives much more because they are "Virats" family. She has now forged an independent bond with them too. But the foundation of it all is her relationship with Virat.

She knows that by taking a stance for devi, Mohit, ashwini, shivani she is channeling what virat has always wanted to do for them but never did. But together they can fix the things that virat wanted to but couldn't do himself.

She loves aswini, devi, mohit, shivani not because they are virat's family but because they gave her the love & respect. She loved them even before she started feeling something for virat.

They are other things which she did out of her attachment towards virat but not this.

Very true. Now that such an important point is being brought forward, the whole anniversary planning by Sai looks unnecessary to me. Wish she realises how she behaved during her own anniversary and gets a cue.

Originally posted by: nutmeg7

Very true. Now that such an important point is being brought forward, the whole anniversary planning by Sai looks unnecessary to me. Wish she realises how she behaved during her own anniversary and gets a cue.

Am worried that Pakhi will bring it up...that Sai was not happy when Virat planned an anniversary celebration then how can she force someone else to enjoy an unwanted celebration?!

But like always, I hope Sai's tube light will light up about how hurt Virat would've felt.

BTW, Virat has some bad luck with celebrating anniversaries🤣

Originally posted by: scarlett22

Am worried that Pakhi will bring it up...that Sai was not happy when Virat planned an anniversary celebration then how can she force someone else to enjoy an unwanted celebration?!

But like always, I hope Sai's tube light will light up about how hurt Virat would've felt.

BTW, Virat has some bad luck with celebrating anniversaries🤣

If they go according to KD, everything will be hunky-dory in the end. But if they decide to rake up the anniversary issue, it can go either way. If Patralekha brings it up, she will use it to hurt Virat's emotions but if Sunny or Mohit brings it up, they can have just one-liner.

The above bold line - the same line will be presented in two different ways depending on the person who says it. Although all this is not going to happen. LOL