Virat and Pakhi are not in an emotional affair - a different view - Page 6

Haha I also don't want to believe, but I think when it comes to personal and emotional matters, he has the mental capacity and understanding of a 2 year old and that is his character! Almost every time he has needed someone to identify the issue for him (from Aai to Sunny) before knowing he has done something wrong or missed something.

Originally posted by: Tiptione

Haha I also don't want to believe, but I think when it comes to personal and emotional matters, he has the mental capacity and understanding of a 2 year old and that is his character! Almost every time he has needed someone to identify the issue for him (from Aai to Sunny) before knowing he has done something wrong or missed something.

Then Sai is certainly in for a very very tough life specially if Patralekha is always given this degree of leverage and she does not deserve it.

Virat was emotionally involved with & had emotional affair with Pakhi till the day of Sai's college admission day. It was clearly shown in the show too. Idk why people try to make it seem like it never existed as if SaiRat started right after their marriage & Virat has always been in love with Sai from the word go...

His conduct with Pakhi has been inappropriate since the early days of their marriage even after he fell for Sai & was over Pakhi. Like The night he fought with Sai after Amay's track then Pakhi came and after Sai left the whole feeding sequence & before that Pakhi was calming him down by placing her palms on his chest & all was puke-worthy, he didn't flinch or move away. Virat always let Pakhi be however she wanted to get close with him.

I had a discussion with a friend of mine that how Virat likes people whom he can over rule especially if they're girls, be it Pakhi or Shruthi (upcoming). Those who put him on a pedestal & butter him, support him in his wrongdoings, despite him not being romantically interested in them but they're. It inflates his ego. It makes him feel great about himself girls chasing him. Whereas Sai/Imon were always challenge for Ronno/Virat & challenged him. He likes her rebellious traits but not her rebelling against him.

That's the sad reality 😢

Original comment in black. Your reply in red and my reply in green.

Every time we decipher something through his actions and what I think at the moment is things has to go as per his terms and conditions. When he had proposed a deal marriage, Sai shouldn’t raise an issue about his and Pakhi’s friendship (in the initial days), she shouldn’t act possessive since she had agreed that she wouldn’t act as his wife. Later, when his feelings towards Sai started to change, when he is making a move, when he wants to change it all, which he shows through some of his actions, Sai should also change. She should also accept their marriage and reciprocate his feelings. He tells her he doesn’t have anything with Pakhi, Sai has to just accept it. He used to tell Pakhi that Sai was just his responsibility and he expected that Pakhi believes him. Later, he told Pakhi that he likes Sai and asked her to stop thinking whatever she was thinking, he expected Pakhi to accept it. When Pakhi tries to express what she fees for him, and since he doesn’t approve it, he will push her away. But if the same Pakhi extends her support to him, as long as there is no name that she would give to it, he will be okay in accepting her support. It could be that he had his own version of their relationship and so he would take liberty on Pakhi from his side. He actually takes liberty on Pakhi that he doesn’t take with anyone else since she has given him that kind of a liberty.

This is exactly what I think is Virat's biggest character flaw. He assumes everyone moves on as he does and the minute something is out of his mind, he cannot fathom how it can be in anyone elses. He is emotionally very immature in this respect and really does not understand people. I think this is part of the reason he does not understand why it is bad for everyone to see him and PK hold hands or remain close, he foolishly assumes because there is only something platonic for him, then everyone will accept the same and ignore the past.

I have come to a different understanding of him now in this aspect. It did look like he thought he has moved on and so it is okay. But that is only until he knows what is running in Pakhi’s mind. Pakhi has said in clear cut words as what she wants from him and what she things of him. There is nothing for him to not understand what others think after all this. Even in the hospital, he could feel that Pakhi looks at him in some other way and has feelings for him. Then how can he hold her hand the next second? He pushes her away but also leans on to her. The guy doesn’t know what he wants or should I say that he is in denial about a few things. His subconscious mind is making him lean towards Pakhi but his conscience keeps telling him that it is wrong. Since he feels on the surface level that it is wrong and he is not wrong, in a way he has convinced himself that he is not doing anything wrong. That’s why he keeps claiming that he has no wrong intentions. If we look at this, it will look like an emotional affair. That’s why I said that it can come across as one.

What should a person in Virat’s position do? Even if Pakhi is willing to offer him support, knowing her intentions, he should keep her at bay but since he needs it, he takes it, he uses it. I am sorry to say that in a way he is playing with Pakhi’s emotions too. He is letting her on by accepting her support. It again should be as per his terms and conditions. It is like saying Pakhi, I need you but don’t do this because you have feelings for me or don’t do this as a lover since I won’t be able to accept your proposal or see you as my lover since you are my brother’s wife and I am also married.

I wonder this too, but I really do not think he is smart, aware enough or emotionally intelligent enough to play with PK's emotions. He may well be doing it, but I do not think he realises he is doing it such is his black and white thinking, which is another big character flaw of his. I also do wonder whether one of the reasons he has these conversations with PK is because she is (other than Sunny who is there infrequently) the only one who actually knows how he feels about Sai. She is the only one in the family he has actually fully told his feelings to, even if it was for the purposes of putting her in her place and making her go away. Even when he has broken down before, he has not expressed his true feelings to Aai, Devi, Samrat, etc. The only other person is Sunny, who was not there today. Then when PK pushes his buttons like she did today about there being other people other than Sai, it leads him down a path or opening himself up. He loses senses and track of who he is speaking to and what PK has in her mind for Sai and just releases everything that is bottled inside of him.

Again, he is not doing it as a preplanned move. Pakhi offers support to him and he accepts it since he needs it irrespective of what she feels for him. He just ignores or turns blind eye to what Pakhi wants since it makes it easier for him to accept her support. As long as he is able to manage it all alone, he pushes Pakhi away but when Pakhi offers him an emotional support that he doesn’t get from others, he doesn’t stop himself from accepting it. Him telling that it doesn’t mean anything is like denying everyone’s charges against him but that doesn’t mean that he isn’t doing it. Just because he isn’t holding her hands in a romantic way, doesn’t mean that he is not wrong. He thinks that he did that in the cafe because Pakhi was broken and again in the hospital, it is okay because he was broken. How or why would someone think it is okay when it has become an issue already? He has absolutely no regards for anyone and would act however it is pleases him then? It is like, he thinks he is not doing anything wrong, so even if it hurts people or causes issues, he would do it? It is both actually. He wants the support, so he accepts it and also he thinks he is not wrong, so he won’t care what others feel or think. It is the same guy who had issues with Amay, Aniket and Ajinkya. He is a hypocrite who expects that everyone should be okay with what he shares with Pakhi.

About the last question of him opening up to Pakhi, he has opened up to Aai too. She was the one who has been supporting him to move towards Sai. She has always encouraged his relationship with Sai. If you remember the Valentine’s Day too, she teased him and he started to feel shy. The day when Sai confronted him and left to Pulkit’s house too, he spoke to Aai who tried to bridge the gap between him and Sai.

Your last sentence can be right but it is not just because he loses senses but is also because he wants her support. As I have said in my original comment, Pakhi acts nice with him and gives him a liberty and he also takes it. This is why I am saying that he is wronging Pakhi as well. He is in a way using her too even after knowing what she is feeling for him and what she wants from him. None of these makes him gullible, it comes across as an extremely selfish person who cannot think beyond himself, his hurt and his needs.