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Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

Another girl is DMing ? Sounds shady now

Yes I know this girl likes him. So she keeps DMing him. He’s the one who sent me screenshots. So I ended up telling her that he wants to marry me.

Originally posted by: Sharpener

I agree but why did he even accept the invite (via group text) in the first place when on the side chat we were making our own plans? Also we were planning on going public slowly.

worst was when I asked him why he did that and he a like I got carried away and I’m like okay correct it then and he’s like no I will text them a minute and say I can’t make it. I’m like why can’t do just say it now and we got into a fight.

It’s hard for me to give advice because I’m not in the relationship. You guys know best about the situation so I’m just going off by what you’re telling me. Let me put it into perspective. Perhaps after he realised that he fcuked up by agreeing to the plans, he was too embarrassed to quickly retract on his words. Maybe he wanted time to think of an excuse without hinting out that you guys are in a relationship. It’s not like he left it for a day or two. What’s the difference between now and a minute?

I’ve sent my own grandparents to hospital conjuring up dumbass excuses to get out of a situation. People handle things differently. This group chat isn’t with his friends but yours. Perhaps he felt stupid for agreeing quickly and then suddenly going back on his words and wanted a minute to gather his thoughts or in my case come up with a good excuse (which may or may not involve the death of an extended family member). 😂

Originally posted by: FingerFetish

It’s hard for me to give advice because I’m not in the relationship. You guys know best about the situation so I’m just going off by what you’re telling me. Let me put it into perspective. Perhaps after he realised that he fcuked up by agreeing to the plans, he was too embarrassed to quickly retract his words. Maybe he wanted time to think of an excuse without hinting out that you guys are in a relationship. It’s not like he left it for a day or two. What’s the difference between now and a minute?

I’ve sent my own grandparents to hospital conjuring up dumbass excuses to get out of a situation. 😆People handle things differently. This group chat isn’t with his friends but yours. Perhaps he felt stupid for agreeing quickly and then suddenly going back on his words and wanted a minute to gather his thoughts or in my case come up with a good excuse (which may or may not involve the death of an extended family member).

Yeah I know what you mean. I just felt really bad because I have a lot of guys who DM me and ask me out and I never entertain them. Especially in front of his friends, I treat him like he’s my hero. So so I expect that from him too. I wasn’t even mad at the girl messaging him, but more mad at him agreeing to go for dinner even though he could have easily ignored that group text. Plus when I asked him to correct himself he kept saying not today, I’ll do it tomorrow….

Originally posted by: Sharpener

Yes I know this girl likes him. So she keeps DMing him. He’s the one who sent me screenshots. So I ended up telling her that he wants to marry me.

The gist of what you originally said was lost on me 😆

He and you and are in a clandestine relationship. You had some plans but then he backed out of those plans to hang out as a group with your friends that you aren’t close to ?

Ok so This is worth being upset over. But in some days maybe you won’t be so upset. How long ago did all this happen ?

Originally posted by: FingerFetish

How is that shady? The girl DMing him probably has no idea that he’s in a relationship. Not everything is considered cheating 🤨

I remain paranoid I’m sorry. 😆

Originally posted by: Sharpener

Plus when I asked him to correct himself he kept saying not today, I’ll do it tomorrow….

Did all this go down today ?

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

The gist of what you originally said was lost on me 😆

He and you and are in a clandestine relationship. You had some plans but then he backed out of those plans to hang out as a group with your friends that you aren’t close to ?

Ok so This is worth being upset over. But in some days maybe you won’t be so upset. How long ago did all this happen ?

No he didn’t back out of my dinner. He just said yes to them inspite of knowing he wasn’t going, he just had a hard time saying no to them. I’m like why was it so hard to say no to them, like you literally met them once…..

Originally posted by: Sharpener

Last weekend

1 week and all this is still bothering you ? Seems to me this relationship is more trouble than it’s worth.

Originally posted by: Sharpener

Yeah I know what you mean. I just felt really bad because I have a lot of guys who DM me and ask me out and I never entertain them. Especially in front of his friends, I treat him like he’s my hero. So so I expect that from him too. I wasn’t even mad at the girl messaging him, but more mad at him agreeing to go for dinner even though he could have easily ignored that group text. Plus when I asked him to correct himself he kept saying not today, I’ll do it tomorrow….

I get you but I’m confused on how you expect him to treat you in front of your friends and still somehow maintain the secrecy of your relationship. It doesn’t work both ways. I feel like your problems will get resolved once your relationship is public. However if you want to keep it a secret for now, then you’re bound to come up with these kind of awkward situations.

Have you asked him why he wants to wait tomorrow? Like try to grasp his POV and what his thought process is? Could it be that he’s simply embarrassed? Is he an anxious or procrastinating type of person? Rather than fighting (because that will take you no where), I suggest you both calmly sit down and give each other the opportunity to explain each others feelings/point of view to one another without letting it lead to an argument. Not all guys are in tune with our emotions and some have to literally be told word-by-word that we’re not happy with a certain situation.